Class rep didn't include all kids names in the end of year card

[Whydiddnt]

Aibu to be mortified?

The class rep organised a whip around for the end of term teacher gift. Not everyone chipped in for various reasons however, the vast majority did.

I've just found out that the rep only listed the children whom contributed in the card, instead of writing it from the full class.

Is it just me that finds this mean and horrible? Why would anyone leave out a couple of children who's parents probably couldn't afford to chip in.

It wouldn't have taken any extra effort to address the gift from the whole class. It's not the children's fault that their parents couldn't afford it. I really hope those poor kids were none of the wiser.

Genuine question. How can you spell can’t so wrong without your phone or pc correcting it for you?

you've had 52% disagree with you and 48% agree with you - so fairly even split. But you seem so angry about this situation - is there a reason it has triggered you to this extent? Were you that kid left out when you were growing up?

Yes it's a pretty even split. It's interesting too see everyone's comments and opinions.

No I wasn't that child and I'm not sure why you keep trying to find a personal 'hardship' that you can pin on me, to make my reasoning worthy.

I just care about children and their feelings and don't think that any child deserves to be treated differently to their peers. Especially when it's a very small minority that have been singled out in a very obvious way.

1. teacher won’t notice /care
2. no contribution no name in card

simple
people can do their own thing or not at all. Their choice

I was put under a lot of pressure by other parents to do this. It made me fume and I gave up my role as class rep because of it. It’s not fair to single out those who didn’t contribute, and imo is unpleasant and lacks empathy.

In your opinion it's petty, which you continue to repeat. Others on here, like me, don't see a problem.

The teacher isn't going to notice, neither will the children and like at a workplace then people who contribute sign.

You are also ignoring the people who say they wouldn't want heir child's name on their without being asked, would rather get something else on their own or do not want to be on there to make a point.

I'm a teacher and a parent and can't see the issue.

Varies from school to school but usually one member of the PTA for each class to help organise anything PTA or voluntary that helps out the class.

OK thanks. Sounds like the US class mother.

Because I have a condition which affects my spelling, thanks for much for bringing up such a non issue 🙄

I don’t contribute, I don’t care what they write in the card. Each child can make their own card if they want. Doesn’t cost any money to make a card.

How does the child even know? Unless the parent tells them?
another non drama, stop raising snowflakes. If it matters so much to them, they can make a card for their teacher.

I think that's fair. If you didn't contribute why would your name go on the card.

Fair enough isn't it? It's like not contributing to a work lunch and expecting to eat a meal at it. No contribution = you didn't want to take part.

It's really rude to correct spelling and grammar.

A lot of people here assume not contributing means you have financial reasons. I don’t contribute for other reasons and therefore don’t think there is any shame whether a name is listed or not. I also doubt anyone notices.

We donated to the card and then added a comment and name of child. So the gifts and cards only came from those that opted in - what I found in previous years: 32 kids in class - 30 contributed and amount raised £65 - I had given £20. So I learnt !

Except that the children don't have the choice, do they? It's not the same situation at all.

In all my experience of this they only ever put the contributors as some parents do their own thing or don't bother. I don't think my parents ever contributed to or bought a teacher a present, I just don't remember it being a thing at all. Teachers are grateful to get some nice vouchers and don't care who was missed off.

I used to participate in the joint gifts and I stopped for a few reasons. I didn’t like the way it was the parent who collected the money and their child only handing it to the teacher. Second I didn’t like the gift the parent was getting each time. It was always some expensive skin care worth£200 it made no sense to me.
this time around my child made cards for his teacher and teacher assistant and we got them each tea and biscuits and flowers that we are 100 percent sure they will love.

it‘s not always not having the money, not every parent agrees with the joint gifts, some want to do their own, some dont like the teacher, others dont believe in giving gifts and others dont have the money to.

I agree OP. I think anyone who has been in too financially vulnerable a position to contribute will get it and those with empathy for those people and their children will too. As I can see from other comments many don’t. I’ve only ever seen these class rep cards be signed on behalf of the whole class no matter who contributed. This seems so much kinder.

I would put from everyone. The class rep is being a dick.

One of the reasons I stopped contributing to the joint gifts is they only include the kids who have contributed, sounds very cliquey so I did my own gift this year.

It doesn't cost if you have paper/card and pens etc at home.
Not all children have that.

I don’t think everyone’s name should be on the card, some people want to do their own thing. Only 20 out of 30 contributed to our class collection.

If they genuinely couldn’t contribute due to financial reasons and they messaged the class rep I’m sure they would have added their name to the card.

Moon pig also did free thank you teacher cards this year, pretty sure they have done previous years too.

I totally agree OP, the DC have no say in whether or not they contribute, so it feels really mean to exclude them in something they have no control over.