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To think there are very few allies against Anti-Semitism?

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Longingdreamer · 24/07/2025 14:04

This month, I have had experienced Anti-Semitism twice. Both times I was with my children.

Both times, my children were distressed, and no one around did anything to protect us or raise the alarm. When we asked for help, we were dismissed. We were in very busy public spaces both times: a tube platform, then a high street.

I reported the first episode to the police. I'm not even sure if it's worth reporting the second episode. Sadly it feels so mainstream, and the authorities are not supportive when I report it either.

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noworklifebalance · 24/07/2025 18:27

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 24/07/2025 17:55

I don't think your experience is unique to anti-Semitism.

People ignore all sorts of horrible things on the streets every day. Muggings, racism, kids getting verbally abused by their parents. People don't want to get involved. We've all heard horror stories of wannabee heroes who step in and then are met with horrific consequences.

It's easy to say that you'd step in if you saw XYZ when posting from the comfort of your own home. But out on the street when a thug is being abusive? Not so easy to do in reality.

Not sure why you're making this about anti-Semitism. It's a society in general thing.

I agree with this. Not saying OP wasn’t a victim of antisemitism but the general public ignoring her and her children is probably from fear of being attacked themselves rather than them being antisemitic (I think - I wasn’t there obviously). A friend of mine (ethnic minority but not Jewish) was stabbed years ago during rush hour and didn’t receive help until the perpetrator had fled.

TooBigForMyBoots · 24/07/2025 18:28

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 18:22

@TaupeLemur

These two things are both true:

(A) Israel can be quick to deflect legitimate criticism as antisemetic.

(B) antisemetic language and attitudes are rampant among the British left, and this is widely denied.

(B)'s prevelance makes it hard to tackle (A).

And @OP. Sorry this is becoming yet another Israel/Palestine thread but it feels unavoidable. For what it's worth: I have inadvertently participated in anti-semtism in the past, thinking I was participating in social justice. I was ignorant and I apologize. It wasn't until Corbyn that I started to realize the issue and, even then, its taken me many years to get to the point where I feel significantly knowledgeable and have mustered significant courage to challenge anti-semitism among my (otherwise) politically-like minded friends.

I hear your experience, I am trying to do the work, and I'm sorry that it took me so long.

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I agree with your basic premise @MyDearEagle. But it is not just the left. Its everyone horrified by what Netenyahu's government is doing in Gaza.

Glowingup · 24/07/2025 18:28

Cheese55 · 24/07/2025 18:16

I hate all racism. I'm just curious because I have never knowingly seen a Jewish person out and about so I'm just wondering what I'm not seeing

If they are orthodox the men/boys might be wearing a kippah or women might be wearing a wig or a hat.

Glowingup · 24/07/2025 18:31

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:10

Russia is not the sole homeland of an ethnic group. An ethnic group that had suffered the Holocaust, a real genocide.

Not even mildly comparable.

Criticism of a state should have nothing to do with whether it is the home of a particular group or whether they might have suffered prejudice in the past. It’s literally criticism of their actions. But I do know people who were frightened of saying they were Russian in case it opened them up to abuse.

ComeTheMoment · 24/07/2025 18:32

Longingdreamer · 24/07/2025 18:05

Would you say this to any other minority who experienced racism? I find this line of questioning very unpleasant.

But not everyone who is Jewish ‘looks Jewish’. The poster asked the question and you have now explained. I’m not sure why you would find that offensive.

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:35

TooBigForMyBoots · 24/07/2025 18:28

I agree with your basic premise @MyDearEagle. But it is not just the left. Its everyone horrified by what Netenyahu's government is doing in Gaza.

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No, it isn’t. But it’s predominantly the left, just by numbers alone. There are a great many ‘pro-Pal’ rank antisemites but very many fewer loathsome EDL types.

Once you add in the relative influence of the antisemite left, the left’s responsibility for promoting Jew-hatred is overwhelming.

DonnaHadDee · 24/07/2025 18:36

Anyone who is not aware of this is really not following the news --> https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/crl0p2xk4w3o

I'm still appalled by the what Israel is doing Gaza, war crimes, killing of innocent women and children, etc.

Penny Mordaunt is pictured walking outdoors. She wears a dark suit.

Antisemitism report finds increase in anti-Jewish discrimination

Report includes specific recommendations for NHS, the arts industry and the police.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/crl0p2xk4w3o

BlueJuniper94 · 24/07/2025 18:40

Popstarrrrr · 24/07/2025 14:11

Whilst I'd agree about the bystander effect in many large towns/cities these days, it does make me think we're going to shit as human beings if we cannot offer assistance to a family who have been racially abused and person who has just been mugged.

Not aimed at you but a reflection of just how awful this world is. I just wonder how we get better?

I don't see how we can. The sad truth is that we have created this low trust society ourselves. It's what we wanted.

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:41

Glowingup · 24/07/2025 18:31

Criticism of a state should have nothing to do with whether it is the home of a particular group or whether they might have suffered prejudice in the past. It’s literally criticism of their actions. But I do know people who were frightened of saying they were Russian in case it opened them up to abuse.

In an ideal world that would be true.

But we all know that criticism of Israel and of ‘Zionists’ - or ‘Zios’, as some use - is really just attacks on Jews and Jewish life.

It’s fatuous to argue otherwise. The most obvious reason for that is the fixation of ‘anti-Israel’ campaigners on the one source of conflict that involves Jews and their homeland.

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 18:42

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:35

No, it isn’t. But it’s predominantly the left, just by numbers alone. There are a great many ‘pro-Pal’ rank antisemites but very many fewer loathsome EDL types.

Once you add in the relative influence of the antisemite left, the left’s responsibility for promoting Jew-hatred is overwhelming.

Antisemitism on the far right is so overt and clear in it's that everyone can recognize it, and the vast majority condem it. It is fringe and will likely stay that way.

Left wing antisemitism isn't so overt, but its insidious, widespread and on the increase.

I'd even be a little reluctant to call many of the left wing folks "antisemetes", in that I don't think they actively harbor antisemitic attitudes, they just don't realize how frequently they engage in and/or support antisemitism.

This is a particularly pronounced problem within the British left (I think the fact that it has its own special definition of "Zionism" speaks to that).

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:49

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:41

In an ideal world that would be true.

But we all know that criticism of Israel and of ‘Zionists’ - or ‘Zios’, as some use - is really just attacks on Jews and Jewish life.

It’s fatuous to argue otherwise. The most obvious reason for that is the fixation of ‘anti-Israel’ campaigners on the one source of conflict that involves Jews and their homeland.

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No, all criticism of Israel is not anti-Semitic.

Your views are hardline and extremist and highly dangerous.

No matter how many times you repeat this lie, you must be challenged. Every time.

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:53

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:49

No, all criticism of Israel is not anti-Semitic.

Your views are hardline and extremist and highly dangerous.

No matter how many times you repeat this lie, you must be challenged. Every time.

Rubbish. It’s the plain truth.

mumandmumber · 24/07/2025 18:54

Longingdreamer · 24/07/2025 18:05

Would you say this to any other minority who experienced racism? I find this line of questioning very unpleasant.

And ignorant!

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 18:55

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:41

In an ideal world that would be true.

But we all know that criticism of Israel and of ‘Zionists’ - or ‘Zios’, as some use - is really just attacks on Jews and Jewish life.

It’s fatuous to argue otherwise. The most obvious reason for that is the fixation of ‘anti-Israel’ campaigners on the one source of conflict that involves Jews and their homeland.

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"Zios" is just a plain slur, coined by the KKK to mean all Jews. Even Corbyn has condemned it as such, but I still see left wing folk use it.

I do think that when many British folks condemn "Zionism" they do actually mean to condemn those who believe in the expansion of Israel's current borders. They usually don't realize that they are misusing the term.

I've seen people denounce "Zionists" as "murderers and baby killers". If you think that Zionists are those who want to annex Gaza, that might be a fair comment...but, as you know, that isnt what Zionist actually means, and what will actually be heard by most people, outside of the British-left-bubble is "if you believe Israel should exist as a Jewish state, in some form or another, you kill babies".

I also dont think most British Anti-Zionists realize they are essentially rejecting a two-state solution.

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:55

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 18:53

Rubbish. It’s the plain truth.

You are wrong.

Every time.

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:56

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 18:55

"Zios" is just a plain slur, coined by the KKK to mean all Jews. Even Corbyn has condemned it as such, but I still see left wing folk use it.

I do think that when many British folks condemn "Zionism" they do actually mean to condemn those who believe in the expansion of Israel's current borders. They usually don't realize that they are misusing the term.

I've seen people denounce "Zionists" as "murderers and baby killers". If you think that Zionists are those who want to annex Gaza, that might be a fair comment...but, as you know, that isnt what Zionist actually means, and what will actually be heard by most people, outside of the British-left-bubble is "if you believe Israel should exist as a Jewish state, in some form or another, you kill babies".

I also dont think most British Anti-Zionists realize they are essentially rejecting a two-state solution.

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Zios a slur and so is pro-Pal.

They are Palestinians.

Say their name.

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 18:58

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:56

Zios a slur and so is pro-Pal.

They are Palestinians.

Say their name.

I've never head "Pal" before, let alone used it, but if its a slur then I'll continue to not use it. Thank you for flagging it.

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:59

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 18:58

I've never head "Pal" before, let alone used it, but if its a slur then I'll continue to not use it. Thank you for flagging it.

Thanks, it was more for the poster you replied to.

MyDearEagle · 24/07/2025 19:02

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:59

Thanks, it was more for the poster you replied to.

All good, I gave it a quick google to verify, and I appreciate the knowledge shared.

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 19:04

nomas · 24/07/2025 18:55

You are wrong.

Every time.

No, I’m right. The number of persistent critics of Israel who aren’t part of the anti-Israel, antisemitic industry is tiny.

Longingdreamer · 24/07/2025 19:10

mumandmumber · 24/07/2025 18:54

And ignorant!

Thank you. It might be 'just' out of ignorance, but often it comes from a much darker place: people use this to argue that Jews cannot experience racism (Dianne Abbott et al). This ignores that there are Jews of all colours.

Many members of all minorities are not necessarily visible as part of that minority. That doesn't lessen their experiences of racism.

If it is out of ignorance, then I hope this poster can listen to why this questioning is offensive, and learn.

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nomas · 24/07/2025 19:10

SilenceOfTheTimTams · 24/07/2025 19:04

No, I’m right. The number of persistent critics of Israel who aren’t part of the anti-Israel, antisemitic industry is tiny.

You’re saying no one can criticise Israel.

And have spectacularly derailed OP’s thread in the process.

JustSawJohnny · 24/07/2025 19:17

I live in a rural area and people are quick to help out here but we moved from a city and people were happy to turn a blind eye there. I think they're so used to hearing stories of violence that they're fearful of getting involved.

I'm so sorry you went through this, OP and I do hope your kids are OK.

We are living in such fraught times and hatred seems to be flourishing.

How anyone could look at another person and make immediate judgment about them or take out anger due to the actions of others of their race or religion on a complete stranger is beyond me.

Racism is an awful thing.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 24/07/2025 19:21

Hertsmum78 · 24/07/2025 14:31

@PenelopePennyDrop That's great to know that you're outraged by the genocide in Gaza but why do you feel the need to say it in the same breath as saying you're not anti-semitic? Jews in the UK are not in any way responsible for what's happening in Gaza and I think it would be widely considered to be problematic if I said:

'I disapprove of the genocide in Rwanda but have nothing against Black people'

... do you see what I mean? It suggests that the first thing is somehow the responsibility/interest of all Black people all over the world?

Some Jews in the UK are Zionists and support Israel's actions.

However that does not excuse racist attacks.

JustSawJohnny · 24/07/2025 19:22

But we all know that criticism of Israel and of ‘Zionists’ - or ‘Zios’, as some use - is really just attacks on Jews and Jewish life.

Some will be, but they are the minority, IMO.

The vast majority of the comments I see are about Netanyahu himself, and no, that's not antisemitism. That's a direct reaction to his actions.

I hate him. I don't hate Jews.

I hate Trump. I don't hate Americans.

I hate Putin. You see my point.