Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

Unhinged.

should think they are glad you went home

I told our cat to not drink out of the toilet, but it had no effect. I just got a sideways glance and an inward sneer.

Your poor poor Mother.

I was thinking that. I've noticed that it's very common for people to be irritated by traits in others that they have themselves. Including me: my dad was irritatingly pedantic and so am I!

So you were deliberately being a troublemaker 🤷🏻‍♀️

Your parents are doing you a favour by letting stay in their home and this is how you are behaving??? So what if your dad has a favourite mug, just use another one! Calling him pathetic is so fucking rude and childish, you owe him an apology - especially having been so rude to him in his own home when he is doing you a favour by letting you stay. I'd never speak to my dad like that and believe me he can be grumpy and unreasonable at times. If you are sitting there feeling all smug and self righteous about this embarrassing exchange I suggest you look a bit closer to home for the cause of this falling out - you totally over reacted. Fucking hell. Where are all the grown ups???? You definitely aren't one. Apologise to your dad and grow up.

Do you damage stuff a lot Op? Sounds like he thinks you’ll break it, and paired with the comment about damaging your boot, he obviously doesn’t think you take very good care of things. That doesn’t come from nowhere. That, paired with your spiteful, bratty attitude, means it’s hardly surprising he doesn’t want to touching things he cares about

If someone spoke to me like that I'd be telling them to leave. They wouldn't have to worry about what mug to use in future as they wouldn't be welcome back.

My dad had his own mug, it’s perfectly normal. It sits in my cupboard (unused) over twenty years after he died. The fact I liked him and you don’t like your dad doesn’t change the fact he had his own mug that no one else in our family used.

You are childish, aggressive and quite horrible sounding in general, regardless of your dad.

I'm very surprised your father allows you to stay - why should he put up with your sheer nastiness? He called you a bitch for a reason.

Aibu? Everyone yes you are
Op - no I'm not

You were being ridiculous last night in your replies and yes you were super fucking rude to your dad in his home.

Move on op

You come across as childish, argumentative and confrontational. They didnt have to let you stay. Perhaps you should have got an air bnb if you dislike your dad so much.

"Fail to understand"? I must have overlooked the previous mention of this upthread.

I'm sure your mother had her own, perfectly sound, reasons for reuniting with him, and it's not your place to "agree" with her decision anyway.

You sound really judgy and unpleasant, OP.

You sound very immature
He's allowed you to stay in his home while your renovation is being done and you can't respect his boundaries. You sound a total brat. Your poor mum , why bring this drama into her house and make her piggy in the middle.
I would have asked you to leave. My adult children would never speak to me like that or used my mug if I asked them not to
Grow up

Yeah - I have a mug at home, kids know not to use it, I don't like 'thin' mugs/cups.

DH has his own - it has a princess on it (another story)

When I go to my parents my dad has a chunky mug and mum has a china cup. I use one of the chunky easter egg mugs you got back in the 80's, mainly the Wispa one lol

You’re in your late 20’s? Seriously, grow the fuck up.

ND does not give you a free pass to be inconsiderate and rude. He asked you to avoid using a particular mug and you overreacted. He bought food you apparently wanted then dismissed him. You may have history but can choose to rise above it while they are doing you a favour or find alternative accommodation.. Why was your default to go to their house when you knew it would cause conflict? Convenience, cheap, because you could?

What has you not getting on got to do with his having a mug. I don’t understand your, ‘We don’t get on so why is he gate keeping his mug?’.

You’re not making sense.

You clearly have a lot of antagonism towards your dad which is clearly affecting your relationship.
This needs addressing for the benefit of all

What a sad thread. I loved a father who was truly an awful parent. I miss him to this day. Your father is not an awful parent. Fair enough to not get on, but I'm not sure he's objectively a terrible person. My father absolutely was and I still loved him to bits.

How can a poster fail to understand something you haven’t previously mentioned ?

So far this sounds like it’s all you. You’ve decided you don’t like your dad and are picking any tiny thing you can to justify it.

You’re being pathetic. It’s his home and he has a favourite mug - so do I and DH will always look for it in the cupboard do he can make me a drink out of it rather than any other mug.
He did something nice for you by buying the ice creams you like and you rejected them - I wouldn’t be buying them for you again.

@ThePerkyCoralPoet he is. When I came I said we don’t have to pretend or do fake conversations

Well, he must have been a saint then, as I would have told you not to let the door hit you on your way out (permanently). I wouldn’t have cared if you had to stay in a tent after that.