Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

I mean… in every single comment you’ve posted you made yourself sound horrendous.

You have a mug, but you wanted that one specifically to piss off your father.
You resent him for getting back with your mother even though you’re in your late 20s and it’s none of fucking business.
You seem to get a kick out of winding this man up.

He’s nicer than I would be because of my child talked to me like this she wouldn’t be staying at my house. Horrible behaviour.

Jesus Christ, HE is pathetic? Are you sure? Really?

In MY house I have MY favourite mugs and I don’t like people using them. Thankfully visitors tend to respect that as it’s MY mug in MY house.

i put it to you op that it’s you who is a sad and angry little temper tantruming gremlin, not your dad. 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Spot on OP already posted that her DM also has a special mug which she would never dream of using.

Your behaviour and attitude towards your Dad is shocking when I can’t actually pinpoint anything in your posts that he has done wrong.

You sound like a brat! Hurry up and go home and give the poor bloke some peace and quiet.

Is she the "why can't therapist remind me to pay for therapy person"?

Oh dear lord I thought I remembered your user name…. Your obsessive posts in the last few months show how you have issues with colleagues, dating, friends, even your therapist.

Interestingly you mentioned being so upset about your dad possibly having cancer that it led to you receiving a prosecution notice for driving without due care and attention…. Doesn’t quite fit with this story though?

When so many posters say YABU and the same happens on multiple threads, maybe it is a YOU problem and you really shouldn’t be so dismissive…

B&B or hotel? Instead of a 'I don't like or respect you but I'm happy to use you when it's convenient'. And he's pathetic?

Oh indeed she is. Her posting history is an enlightening rabbit hole… wow.

What's the big deal? We all have our own mugs at work

You are living in his house. Maybe rent somewhere else then if you cant even be civil. Aside from calling you a bitch, I cant see one thing he has done now or in the past that warrants this level of vitriol from you. And we dont know what preceded that comment. Based on your posts, you come across as rude, entitled and really quite horrible.

With an attitude like yours, I'm amazed they haven't asked you to leave.

What a brat you are.

It's your parents' house. Following their rules for the length of time they're doing you a favour, regardless of whether you like them or not, shouldn't be too much to ask.

You both sound as bad as each other.

Why can't you try and compromise and meet each other half way?

Incidentally, when we had our kitchen and bathroom renovated we stayed in our own house. Something you could have done.

You’re in your late 20s and rely on your father to buy you an ice cream you’ve wanted for ages? WTF? And then when he does you metaphorically throw it back in his face???

As others have said, have some self reflection. You came on here asking if you were being unreasonable re the mug, 99% say yes out of more than a thousand, but yet you still reckon you’re right. Not sure why you bothered asking if you are not going to listen to what people are telling you.

Do you realise how awful you are? The laughing emoji too. Your poor dad

You sound like a petulant teenager but there is clearly a longstanding family dynamic at play if you overreact so strongly to mildly quirky behaviour.

Why bother visiting at all if you feel so negative towards your dad?

Read your first few replies, fucking hell you sound like hard work.

He sounds like a mean spirited old man from this brief description. If you don't get on stay elsewhere.

If you want your Dad to shut his goblet and stop quaiching, maybe stop treating him like a muggle?

Why would you drink from “his” mug, when you say that you have your own? Even more so, as it appears to be “unique”/ irreplaceable in some way? The only reason there can be, is to deliberately upset him, which you appear to have done.
It actually sounds as if you might both be ND in some way (I am, and god forbid anyone touches my cutlery 🤣) but if you WANT to improve your relationship with your father, you need to a) communicate like an adult and b) stop deliberately goading him. At “late 20’s” you ARE an adult, and need to take responsibility for yourself, and your actions. Goading people, playing the constant victim, acting like a child isn’t conducive to good relationships with ANYONE. Maybe try some form of therapy to work out why you act this way. And if you don’t like your father as much as your comments indicate, move out into a hotel while the work is being done on your house, and cut contact. Life is too short to live as you are doing.

You come across really badly on this thread. Your Dad is supporting you by letting you live in his house whilst you have work done, and you repay this by hating and mocking him and railing against his simple request for respect of his belongings.

Listen to yourself. He is letting you stay in his house to help you out, he asks, in return, that you don’t use his mug and you hate him for it.

Despite your bragging response he attempts to repair things by buying your favorite ice cream and you abuse him for it.

You are staying in his home. It’s a huge favour you are being granted.

You abuse him and hate him in his own home as you know he is more decent than you and that he won’t kick you out.

You are toxic. And entitled.

Just find him an identical mug? & buy him a dozen for xmas!

Get an Airbnb.

You have your own china mug you gate-keep. It is unreasonable for you to terrorize your Dad in his own home for doing what you do yourself!

You don’t need to stay there.

Or just buy one for herself, so she can drink out of that? If it’s that important for her?

Consider getting therapy. It would be a worthwhile investment.