To think it is upsetting to be unfriended and blocked on Facebook no matter how rational we are about it?

[TrayGertie]

I friend requested some of my old school friends on Facebook and one woman who sat next to me in quite a few subjects initially accepted my friend requests then but has now blocked me! I’m baffled by this anx no matter how rational I try and be about it it’s upsetting

AIBU?

The blocking is petty.

You've either got an open page or a locked down page. If it's open then someone can see it before friending so blocking is really deliberate and targeted if its closed, simply unfriending shoes the trick and is less malicious.

Did you ask her in person or did you randomly her?

What age are you OP?

Lots of folk do that, in the hope that you'll notice the acceptance but not the lack of interaction afterwards, due to unfriending/blocking.

Ah I did send a message initially

ah thanks this makes sense

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I get it, my thing is I hardly ever get friend requests and have very few friends on Facebook which I find embarrassing. My husbands FB friends list is growing all the time so I question what is wrong with me. If I post something I get likes on it so thats something ha ha. Even people I have worked with for a long time dont friend request me yet they all have eachother as friends on Facebook and these are people I get on well with. I was friends with a woman some years back and we used to have nights out together and got along really well but life gets in the way and we lost touch. When I joined FB I looked her up and sent her a friend request along with a message which she totally blanked and didn't accept the request which at the time (some years ago now) it was quite hurtful and had me questioning myself. I suppose my point is we all know its only facebook and some say it isnt real life but it kind of is! Also easy to say you are overreacting if you have lots going on in your life and a long list of facebook friends (not suggesting you dont have a busy life with lots of real friends though)

ah don’t worry I’ve literally only got 25 FB friends !!

what you write about your friend blanking you would affect me as well

I didn't vote because if it upsets you, it upsets you, but honestly I couldn't give a toss.

You don’t even know each other, why would she want you on Facebook?
I used Instagram not Facebook but I wouldn’t want some rando from my school days lurking on my life.

I had similar with a work colleague, she's friends with several other colleagues but I sent her a friend request and she just ignored it. I then blocked her so she wouldn't keep showing up in the people you may know section and also because I found it hurtful seeing her comment on other colleagues' Facebook posts. I'm not looking to start any drama, I'm still polite and professional at work towards her but I no longer make the effort to make small talk with her or share anything about my personal life because I feel she's given a pretty strong signal that she's not interested.

I became Facebook friends with a woman I met on holiday. In person she seemed nice, genuine, good fun, etc, but on Facebook every other post is about people who have wronged her, haters who can't be happy for her and her husband, etc. I had to block her in the end.

Not saying you're like that OP but it reminded me of that situation.

Honestly if it's someone you haven't seen in years then don't give it a second thought, it's really not worth your time.

Why send her a friend request then?

I image she accepted then saw you had a friend/friends that she didnt want seeing her stuff so she unfriended you.

She might also be worried that you are running a mlm. I have had a few long forgotten school friends send friends request and then after a few weeks started the hard sell.

She also could be wary that it is a fake profile I have noticed that lots of people I am already friends with are coming up on my suggested friend list with either no profile picture/a generic picture.

I have been blocked by a couple of people on LinkedIn, neither of whom that I fell out with, and at the time I barely posted on LI, so I didn't post anything pffensive or annoying. That was realty strange.

I have unfriended people on Facebook because I thought "would I stop to speak to them if I met them in the street". If the answer is no, why on earth am I connected to them on FB? I've not blocked anyone though.

I accepted a friend request a while ago from an old acquaintance until I saw their political allegiances. Nope, blocked.

She does not owe you a window into her life just because you sat next to her at school.

Perhaps she blocked you to avoid awkwardness. Maybe she would rather you think she happened to delete her FB account?

How do you know she has blocked you if she has blocked you?

I sometimes note my friends count has changed but I honestly cannot say I go though the list to even try and find out who has left. Sometimes I find out because I get a friend request and go hmmmm and then I let sit in request holding for years because if you deleted me I’m not adding you back.

I only block if I find out you’re a arsehole or start sending me dick pics.

Thank you all of you for making me feel better not being on Facebook.

This is why I cull regularly. Just because we happened to be in the same class in school, doesn't mean I have anything in common with you now - or that I even want to find out.

It's not personal, OP. People move on. School was a lifetime ago for most people on Facebook.

I know she blocked me because I’ve got another account just for groups and I can find her using that - and friend her - but in my regular account - nothing

Defriended no, I couldn’t care less but blocked yes I’d only block someone who was harassing me

If you’re using multiple accounts and use them to also check up on profiles that have removed you maybe it’s time to step away from Facebook.