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I am not sure I agree that Teachers have absolutely exhausting jobs - much more so than most jobs - as said by man on r4 this morning

1000 replies

RevolutionHere · 20/07/2025 20:37

i am not sure what my dh, former welder would make of this statement

this is an argument regarding long summer holidays,

OP posts:
WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/07/2025 08:46

UnhappyHobbit · 23/07/2025 08:42

And yet if we non teachers told teachers to leave, that would be outrageous according to this thread and others.

Teachers are leaving anyway (with or without being told) , hence the recruitment and retention crisis.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/07/2025 08:46

UnhappyHobbit · 23/07/2025 08:42

And yet if we non teachers told teachers to leave, that would be outrageous according to this thread and others.

Teachers are leaving anyway (with or without being told) , hence the recruitment and retention crisis.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/07/2025 08:48

Missedthis · 23/07/2025 08:41

Schools are also the only agency who CANNOT “no further action” children and families. I can’t even count the number of cases where the police, social services, CAMHS and other outside agencies have been referred to and then “nfa”. - because thresholds for intervention are so high.

Schools often get the advice to support <insert entirely outside of school horrendous issue> themselves.

People working outside education have no idea about this - there’s an assumption that we can just “refer” and then get on with what is supposed to be our core purpose- education.

It’s that, for me, that is most exhausting.

Or “keep monitoring” / “keep an eye on it”.

PinkBobby · 23/07/2025 08:48

piscofrisco · 23/07/2025 08:06

I voted YANBU but it’s some sort of law that you can’t say this. I’m a social worker. Same if not more stress levels, same if not more abuse, I’d argue more pressure in family safeguarding. But I don’t get 6 weeks off for summer. I frequently have to have to work bank holidays and yes sometimes Christmas Day when emergency cover is needed. And my profession is underfunded and unlike teachers not deified, but constantly bashed by the Media and society in general. So yes, when I hear teachers saying how exhausted they are etc etc it does annoy me sometimes. It’s not a race to the bottom. But if was, social workers would win.

I’m not sure which teacher said teaching was harder than being a social worker. It sounds like a very challenging role. Like teaching, I hope there are some perks day to day that keep you in the job.

Missedthis · 23/07/2025 08:51

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/07/2025 08:48

Or “keep monitoring” / “keep an eye on it”.

Yes. “Please do refer back to us if you have any more concerns” “No, you’ll need to start the whole fucking process from the start, you can’t just re-raise the initial referral”

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 23/07/2025 08:56

RevolutionHere · 23/07/2025 05:56

And lets be honest, whether the OP admits it or not, this was a thread to goad responses from teachers and as a type of thread is seen far to much on here. @FrippEnos

i will not admit it as it categorically wasnt intended to goad teachers, it was in reference to exhaustion, felt in manual workers, but this site is heavy with teachers with a distinct lack of manual workers, typically as it is mainly female.
no one has convinced me by the way

And you’ve not convinced anyone that this isn’t just your bog standard teacher bashing thread regardless of how you’ve tried to dress it up.

StillAGoth · 23/07/2025 09:00

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 07:57

It's mon-fri and very sociable hours. Already I can't see how anyone would think it's more tiring than say my sister who is a nurse working a mix of day and night shifts. That's not say I want to take away anyone's holidays, all jobs have ups and downs but I do think it's absurd to say teachers couldn't cope on the same amount of annual leave as everyone else. Obviously their pay would need to then be increased a shit co tract is for that amount of time off

Having known nurses and being a teacher, I'd say the stress levels are comparable.

I think that the main difference in perception comes from the fact that nursing is visible. If you're in hospital, you see nurses rushing about, on their feet, working. People see the competing demands, they see the stress, people.imagine it to be a stressful job - seek and ye shall find.

That's all hidden in teaching because, when we come out at the end of the day to dismiss the children (which will be most people's 5 min experience of the day) and its all calm and smiles and the HT is doing their friendly rounds of the playground, you can't see what has gone on behind the scenes.

A lot of people think that a teacher's school day echoes a child's school day and it doesn't.

I can think of many things I have to do during the day that a nurse would never have to do. Just as you can imagine lots of things a nurse does that a teacher would never have to do. The main difference is I have empathy and understanding towards other professions and I accept it if someone tells me they're knackered. It's not a competition until someone (like this OP) tries to make it one.

PinkBobby · 23/07/2025 09:00

Thatsalineallright · 23/07/2025 08:27

Yes, and there's no reason for us to think the random man on the radio doesn't think social work is more difficult than teaching. All he said was "more exhausting than most jobs". Not all.

I would say, as far as I know at least, social workers can go to the toilet when they want. They also get proper training on dealing with traumatised children and challenging families. That is in fact their main role.

In my teacher training I was never taught what to do if a seven year old told me his parent was sexually abusing him. When I was suddenly in that situation, I felt completely unequipped to handle it with the sensitivity and understanding necessary.

Like you said, it's not a race to the bottom. Teaching isn't the hardest job. It's got its perks. I would say the same about social work though. I'd guess billions of people in other parts of the globe would say we have it easy.

Even with all the training in the world, seeing a child everyday who isn’t safe in their own home and seeing the impact this has on them (physical and mentally) is extremely challenging. Worse still, is saying goodbye at the end of term knowing what their holidays look like. As you say, teaching has its perks and it has its challenges. I hope your student was got the support they needed and you did too.

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:01

PinkBobby · 23/07/2025 08:48

I’m not sure which teacher said teaching was harder than being a social worker. It sounds like a very challenging role. Like teaching, I hope there are some perks day to day that keep you in the job.

Exactly. I'm sure social work is very exhausting too. I don't believe anyone has said otherwise. The radio comment was that teaching is more exhausting than MOST jobs (which I believe is true), not every single job ever! In other words, teaching is one of the more exhausting job choices out there. I'm sure the same claim could legitimately be made about social work.

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:04

UnhappyHobbit · 23/07/2025 07:49

Re read my comment. I said I’m sure it is stressful! My point which you clearly missed is that they seem to ignore the huge privilege that they do have which is excessive leave!

The school holidays are a nightmare for me personally for childcare. My school teacher acquaintances, do not have this problem. They enjoy the summer with their kids and don’t seem to take notice of how hard it is for others negotiating a small amount of annual leave with childcare.

Yeh I love the holidays.

So... if the perk is so brilliant, snd worth the stress of teaching, why aren't you a teacher? What's stopping you?

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:05

MistressIggi · 22/07/2025 10:02

I think given so many careers now involve some kind of hybrid working, this makes a show-up-to-work everyday, no flexibility job even less attractive. The ability to work from home is definitely one to weigh up against the longer holidays when choosing a career.

Oh this in spades.

CandyCane457 · 23/07/2025 09:05

RevolutionHere · 23/07/2025 05:56

And lets be honest, whether the OP admits it or not, this was a thread to goad responses from teachers and as a type of thread is seen far to much on here. @FrippEnos

i will not admit it as it categorically wasnt intended to goad teachers, it was in reference to exhaustion, felt in manual workers, but this site is heavy with teachers with a distinct lack of manual workers, typically as it is mainly female.
no one has convinced me by the way

I guess you’re just referring to physical exhaustion OP?
Dont forget there’s mental exhaustion, emotional exhaustion etc. I bet a welder never lies awake at night worrying about his tools, the way a teacher does worrying about a child in their class who has been taken into care, etc etc.

piscofrisco · 23/07/2025 09:07

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:01

Exactly. I'm sure social work is very exhausting too. I don't believe anyone has said otherwise. The radio comment was that teaching is more exhausting than MOST jobs (which I believe is true), not every single job ever! In other words, teaching is one of the more exhausting job choices out there. I'm sure the same claim could legitimately be made about social work.

As it happens both my SIL are teachers. One primary and one secondary and both have told me several times that no job is more exhausting or worthwhile than theirs. And ever single radio phone in I’ve ever heard on the subject ( a fair few when I driving round between families) backs this atitude up, as per the op’s post.

im very sure it is exhausting. I did a few taster days at a secondary school once and didn’t enjoy it especially. But it’s not more tiring than lots of other jobs, and it does come with perks such as 12 weeks off which are unheard of anywhere else. Teachers don’t have it worse than lots of other vocational type roles is my point. It’s bad for us all. But the perks of teaching do exist in a way they don’t for social workers and NHS nurses etc (though don’t get me started on NHS t and c compared to social care either).

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 09:08

StillAGoth · 23/07/2025 09:00

Having known nurses and being a teacher, I'd say the stress levels are comparable.

I think that the main difference in perception comes from the fact that nursing is visible. If you're in hospital, you see nurses rushing about, on their feet, working. People see the competing demands, they see the stress, people.imagine it to be a stressful job - seek and ye shall find.

That's all hidden in teaching because, when we come out at the end of the day to dismiss the children (which will be most people's 5 min experience of the day) and its all calm and smiles and the HT is doing their friendly rounds of the playground, you can't see what has gone on behind the scenes.

A lot of people think that a teacher's school day echoes a child's school day and it doesn't.

I can think of many things I have to do during the day that a nurse would never have to do. Just as you can imagine lots of things a nurse does that a teacher would never have to do. The main difference is I have empathy and understanding towards other professions and I accept it if someone tells me they're knackered. It's not a competition until someone (like this OP) tries to make it one.

I'd say the guy on radio 4 made the original comparison. I think teaching has difficult elements as do all professional roles. I'd be happy for an argument for higher pay. But the teachers are the hardest working tiredest people on earth trope is annoying. I think it's that constant comparison that annoys people.

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:08

FrippEnos · 23/07/2025 05:07

In the vast majority of cases that I have seen here and in RL, teacher "moaning" is actually teachers defending their job from people moaning about it.

Since I have left teaching I have seen a massive drop in friends and family whinging about teachers, schools and education in general.

And lets be honest, whether the OP admits it or not, this was a thread to goad responses from teachers and as a type of thread is seen far to much on here.

Excellent point. These comments are in response to someone moaning about teaching 👏

And the OP claimed that she didn't start a thread about teaching; it was about careers in general 😅

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:13

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 09:08

I'd say the guy on radio 4 made the original comparison. I think teaching has difficult elements as do all professional roles. I'd be happy for an argument for higher pay. But the teachers are the hardest working tiredest people on earth trope is annoying. I think it's that constant comparison that annoys people.

  1. Who on here said that teachers are THE 'hardest working tiredest people'? The radio claim was simply that teaching is ONE OF the most exhausting jobs.
  1. Despite the excellent long holidays, we are in a recruitment and retention crisis. Even the holidays - which I agree are a phenomenal perk - aren't enough to make people actually want to be a teacher. Doesn't that tell you something about the nature of the job itself? (Oh and it's not the pay...)
StillAGoth · 23/07/2025 09:19

piscofrisco · 23/07/2025 08:06

I voted YANBU but it’s some sort of law that you can’t say this. I’m a social worker. Same if not more stress levels, same if not more abuse, I’d argue more pressure in family safeguarding. But I don’t get 6 weeks off for summer. I frequently have to have to work bank holidays and yes sometimes Christmas Day when emergency cover is needed. And my profession is underfunded and unlike teachers not deified, but constantly bashed by the Media and society in general. So yes, when I hear teachers saying how exhausted they are etc etc it does annoy me sometimes. It’s not a race to the bottom. But if was, social workers would win.

Again, I know people who are social workers. Their job is incredibly tough and I considered going into itnat one point. If I leave teaching, it's one of the careers I'd consider retraining for.

That's not because I think it's easier or less stressful though but it would be using my exiating skills in a different way.

Again, unless you've done both jobs, I don't see how you can say either one is harder or more stressful than the other. They're difficult and stressful in different ways.

Eg SW's might have very high stress levels at particular points in the day but there is a time when you're sitting at a desk doing paperwork, writing reports, driving. That doesn't take away from the immediate stress of the situation you're leaving or entering either side of the paperwork and it doesn't mean the paperwork doesn't bring its own challenges. And we all know stress doesn't just dissipate once you've left an environment.

But equally, I would say that I don't ever get those more 'down' moments during the day. The paperwork and associated tasks that I do after school or over the weekend/in the holidays are the easiest part of my job. Yes, they're time consuming, hard work and stressful in their own way. Yes, I'm constantly chasing up other people for the information I need to competently the paperwork. I know that, a lot of the time, someone will check I've done the paperwork but it won't actually inform or change anything - I just need to do it. And, no, there aren't enough hours in the day.

But, again, why does it need to be a competition?

More than anything, if SW's are attacked or threatened in the course of their work, a new SW is allocated that case, or two SW's attend and its flagged up on the system (or at least, that used to be the case in my LA).

I don't have that. If I'm assaulted at work, I'm left alone in the classroom with the person who assaulted me and 29 other people who were distressed at witnessing the assault with little to no support - and have experienced that. In fact, I'm most likely to be blamed for it. Because its easier to blame the teachers than it is to put safeguards in place or deal with problem more robustly.

And when SS says, "Doesn't meet our threshold for intervention," or closes a case, we still have to do something.

But, like I say, it's not a competition...

Any job which involves dealing with vulnerable people is stressful. Sometimes because of the responsibility, sometimes because of a lack of funding, sometimes due to a lack of support, sometimes due to workload, sometimes due to conditions, and sometimes because vulnerable people are angry, violent and aggressive. Not all vulnerable people are quiet, meek and open to help and wiling to engage as I think many people imagine to be the case.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/07/2025 09:20

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 09:08

I'd say the guy on radio 4 made the original comparison. I think teaching has difficult elements as do all professional roles. I'd be happy for an argument for higher pay. But the teachers are the hardest working tiredest people on earth trope is annoying. I think it's that constant comparison that annoys people.

What actually tends to happen is…

A: Pfft, teaching is not that bad, they work 9-3, the wages are good for the hours AND they get all those holidays too!

Teachers: actually it is that bad, the hours are much longer , the wage isn’t bad for JUST teaching , but we also do x,y,z and sometimes it’s impossible and the holidays come with the job and we work some of them anyway.

Various posters: omg you’re such whiney, lazy , entitled , privileged (insert adjectives of choice here) “eegyts”! How dare you complain? My job is so much harder and I don’t get those holidays! What about meeeee?

StillAGoth · 23/07/2025 09:30

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 09:08

I'd say the guy on radio 4 made the original comparison. I think teaching has difficult elements as do all professional roles. I'd be happy for an argument for higher pay. But the teachers are the hardest working tiredest people on earth trope is annoying. I think it's that constant comparison that annoys people.

But... no teacher has said that.

So the annoyance is unjustified.

StillAGoth · 23/07/2025 09:33

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 09:08

I'd say the guy on radio 4 made the original comparison. I think teaching has difficult elements as do all professional roles. I'd be happy for an argument for higher pay. But the teachers are the hardest working tiredest people on earth trope is annoying. I think it's that constant comparison that annoys people.

Tbh, I'd argue for better working conditions, improved workload and funding for schools generally before I argued for better pay.

I think the current pay levels are OK tbh.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 23/07/2025 09:45

OonaStubbs · 23/07/2025 00:28

I certainly don't think being a teacher is so great. I just think teachers moan too much about their lot in life. There are plenty of people who find their job hard or don't particularly like doing it. Most of them don't fish for sympathy or act like martyrs. They just get on with it or quit and find another job,

The thing is really though, there NEEDS to be public recognition of how shit the conditions are in teaching. Because until that is acknowledged, in government too, nothing will change.

And the change ISN'T necessary for teachers. We can and do leave.

Change is necessary for the children. They deserve teachers who absolutely have teaching as a vocation. Who are driven to be teachers. Who work 100% of the time for the benefit of their students.

If your teacher is on their knees with exhaustion, bogged down with pointless, useless administrative and other extra work, NONE of which benefits the students, those children aren't getting the best teaching.

Look, British teachers are on a premium elsewhere in the world. We are regarded as some of the best. We are recruited internationally. I've been head hunted at least 8 or 9 times. In one of my overseas jobs, my highest take home salary (with no outgoing bills - all covered by the school) was £9,000 in one month.

And yet, in the UK, teaching is a shit job. NOT the kids. The students are the bit worth doing.

Until government realise how bad teaching is here, nothing will change. And British kids will get the short end of the stick from exhausted, overworked teachers who REALLY just want to do their best for the 30 children sitting in front of them.

Barnbrack · 23/07/2025 09:47

surreygirl1987 · 23/07/2025 09:13

  1. Who on here said that teachers are THE 'hardest working tiredest people'? The radio claim was simply that teaching is ONE OF the most exhausting jobs.
  1. Despite the excellent long holidays, we are in a recruitment and retention crisis. Even the holidays - which I agree are a phenomenal perk - aren't enough to make people actually want to be a teacher. Doesn't that tell you something about the nature of the job itself? (Oh and it's not the pay...)

I'm happy to accept it's one of the hardest, my kids teachers are my favourite people in the world bar none. They are exceptional at their jobs.

cardibach · 23/07/2025 12:01

UnhappyHobbit · 23/07/2025 07:21

I am sure teachers are exhausted. I am also sure it’s a stressful job. My experience with teachers and school workers though is that they genuinely act like they have the most stressful job in the entire world and therefore deserving on the 12 weeks holiday they have. While the rest of us with stressful jobs survive on 4.

Small point - it’s 5.6 weeks minimum (assuming U.K.).
If you want the holidays, train to be a teacher. There’s a shortage.

cardibach · 23/07/2025 12:08

UnhappyHobbit · 23/07/2025 07:49

Re read my comment. I said I’m sure it is stressful! My point which you clearly missed is that they seem to ignore the huge privilege that they do have which is excessive leave!

The school holidays are a nightmare for me personally for childcare. My school teacher acquaintances, do not have this problem. They enjoy the summer with their kids and don’t seem to take notice of how hard it is for others negotiating a small amount of annual leave with childcare.

They chose a contract and type of work. So did you. Research shows teachers work more hours than average over the year, with median 50 hour weeks for the 39 school weeks. The holidays are of course a positive, especially in regards to expense for childcare, but they are working as much as you. I don’t think they need to be guilty about how difficult holidays might be for people who chose work with a different pattern.

cardibach · 23/07/2025 12:12

piscofrisco · 23/07/2025 08:06

I voted YANBU but it’s some sort of law that you can’t say this. I’m a social worker. Same if not more stress levels, same if not more abuse, I’d argue more pressure in family safeguarding. But I don’t get 6 weeks off for summer. I frequently have to have to work bank holidays and yes sometimes Christmas Day when emergency cover is needed. And my profession is underfunded and unlike teachers not deified, but constantly bashed by the Media and society in general. So yes, when I hear teachers saying how exhausted they are etc etc it does annoy me sometimes. It’s not a race to the bottom. But if was, social workers would win.

You understand that there is no conflict between this and the original radio comment that teaching was one of the most exhausting jobs? Stress and exhaustion aren’t quite the same thing either.

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