Do you judge other women???

[Katkins17]

So, basically as above !!

I’m really self conscious …but have recently lost 6 stone in weight so feeling better about myself. However, I’ve been left with loose skin. It’s not terrible…I’m really quite lucky considering, but you won’t find me waving enthusiastically across a room for fear of knocking myself out with the old bingo wings. I could probably blow candles out just by waving with them.

so we’re due to go on holiday in a couple of weeks…previously in my size 18/20 state, I would scan the pool to see if there was anyone bigger than me or at least an equal size to feel slightly better about de-robing amongst the svelter females in their bikinis… whilst I’m in my flowing tankini.

now, at least I know I won’t be the biggest, but instead I’m fretting about my baggy arse, thighs and arms…pathetic I know, I should be cartwheeling with pride at what I’ve achieved…to hell with the flopping tits and belly !!

Am I the only one that does this, or am I totally off my head ???

I’m half covered in scars, bruises and levido reticularis as have a blood clotting disorder so I’m always embarrassed about what people think. I’m a slim size 12 but feel rather ugly. I’d rather be bigger and have lovely skin.

I always tell women when they look great 😊

I think the majority of women are too busy thinking about how they look to others to even have the time to be judging others appearance. Wear the swimsuit and enjoy your trip OP!

I went to the beach in Portugal last year, was around a size 16, didn't bring a bikini just swimsuits.

Literally no one was wearing a one piece swimsuit, no matter the size or age of the woman. Young in shape woman wore smaller bikinis maybe. I ended up swimming in a yoga bra and bikini bottoms I bought there because I felt I fitted in better in a bikini. I remember a whole (quite overweight) family doing calisthenics on the beach together in swimwear and and while sure I noticed different shapes I was basically just admiring everyone's confidence.

Anyway this year I'm off on holiday and have lost about 2.5st. I have a bit of lose skin but I am absolutely wearing bikinis.

This is MN so of course everyone will say they never ever judge anyone by their appearance. However research shows that we all judge other people on first impressions which obviously covers what they look like.
The question is why does it matter what some randoms that you will never see again think about you?

No, absolutely not. I might take a second glance if you're exceptionally obese or look like you have an eating disorder, but I still won't be judging.

I'll only judge you if you're a nob. Idc what you look like.

Actually, the main thing which for me draws my attention is this trend for bikini bottoms which are cut away and reveal all the bottom, like slightly bigger G strings (not sure what they are called). I personally find them vulgar and inappropriate on anyone, and also hideously unflattering on anyone aged over about 19 (and even then!), as they seem designed to reveal and draw attention to the place most women have lumps and bumps…. And I find it sad and sexist that girls would feel the need to reveal such an intimate body part whilst blokes can lounge around in comfortable shorts.

So yes if you are going to wear this, I will definitely be judging, if not, no!

you do judge people you meet, obviously, but strangers you walk past? They don't make a first impression, they don't make an impression at all.

This is so wierd as I was having this exact conversation yesterday with a friend who has lost lots of weight and was fretting about being judged round the pool.
I said the same as most of the PP’s here. I never judge. I love seeing all the different body shapes, looks, skins, bumps, lumps, and only ever think ‘good to see, flaunt it, you go girl!’

I generally don't judge people who I pass, I'm in a world of my own, unless I need to assess my surroundingslooking for murderers or they have a friendly face, I might think they're nice.

Is noticing someone's differences judging them. You can see with your eyes without thinking much about it.

Sure I do. I think everyone does. But if I saw a woman with loose skin then I’d be full of admiration! I’d recognise and respect the journey she’s been on!

I judge other people in my head but not for their weight or appearance. I admire people who live their lives, have a swim, enjoy their holiday. Honestly there are so many different sizes and shapes in the pool/sea on holiday - once you make a decision to not let it bother you it becomes easier and easier.

I'm the judgiest judger, but I wouldn't even bat an eyelid for this. Well done 🙂

Yeah I absolutely judge other women , and men, for lots of things , but not usually what their semi naked body looks like! It’s a great leveller being amongst strangers in swimwear , nobody takes any notice of what you look like because there is skin everywhere, it’s desensitising.

I hardly look at anyone else on the beach, am too busy reading, swimming, talking or sleeping.

No offence to any one woman but no woman is important enough for me to judge and I judge assume they think the same about me, sure I dont live on an island i have what I thinks is normal thoughts but why do people think they interesting enough to be judged?

I would assume anyone afraid of being judged must be judging others to think that in the first place and probably live too much in their own head if they do that

I judge other women who behave poorly or let their children behave poorly.

I never judge people on their size/looks. I silently judge people on how they choose to present themselves (large tattoos, very revealing clothing in non appropriate setting like work/school).

For size I think you're the only one judging yourself. Please don't. ❤️

Finally someone posted the truth.

The research shows that we actually do.
It’s actually an evolutionary thing when we had to make a snap judgement whether someone was friend or foe.

I agree with this.

I observe everyone . regardless.
99% it’s no more more than a passing thought. I can’t do anything about your fat, your tattoos or your excellent skin or fab dress sense.