Neighbours causing such a fuss about ivy! Really?

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Our neighbours have told us about ivy coming over from our side onto their side at least 5 times in the last couple of months. They are a retired, active couple in their late 70s who maintain their garden well.
Firstly, the ivy was not that bad but we did what they asked and cut some back along the fence. Since then, our neighbour has asked again and has almost sounded a bit rude. He says he doesn't like ivy.
This morning he spoke to my husband again about it and this time my husband had to say that we like ivy and we'd like to keep it. Dh said we'd cut back a bit more but then that's it.
I've checked the fence out carefully this evening, both sides, and I can't understand what the problem is. Any ivy coming through the fence is minimal. Plus they can't even see it because it's behind their shrubs and they can't see that part of the garden from their house. And, it's our fence!

What's really got to me is their attitude towards us. Our neighbour even called my husband lazy once which was so untrue and unfair. We both work, have two young children (one with SEN) and lots of life stuff going on as most people do. Our house isn't perfect and may not be as immaculate as our neighbours but we do our best.

I kind of feel like we're being judged. Sometimes I've noticed our neighbour look up our driveway as he walks past and now I'm wondering what he's thinking.

AIBU or are our neighbours ivy grumbles and criticisms justified?

Such a shame because they've been fine for the most part of living here (nearly 4 years) and have been friendly up until now.

Sadly, this is exactly how it's become and my reason for this post. The persistence of him asking us when we've already cut it back (plus, now done extra too) feels unjustified to him being arsey

Sorry op I'm confused about the timeline, when the neighbour last complain was there ivy leaves his side of the fence (even minimal)?
If he last complained when there was still ivy his side, the neighbour might not complain again if you make sure if doesn't go through to his side any more.

This. I’ve had the back of my garden cleared and decking and ivy is starting to squeeze through the fence behind me

I got it cleared with the decking but it’s coming from behind and every day I cut it down I’d see a new bit

its uncontrollable

I think the neighbour would prefer it was dug out rather than cut back. It’s constantly invading their garden and they’re fed up with it. They’ve asked you politely, now they’re getting miffed as it appears it hasn’t been done to their satisfaction.
Be a considerate neighbour, they’re thin on the ground 🙂

I think youve got it spot on. They probably started out pleasant but as OP has clearly disregarded them theyve got pissed off, its taken multiple comments saying the same thing just for her to finally realise it is a bloody issue.

I love the look of ivy but not a chance id be having it near my garden. There was gorgeous ivy in a local woodland and it took down a big brick wall which caused all sorts of bloody issues and resulted in a road being shut to rebuild it (wall was roadside) so i can see why they don't want it taking hold!

Ivy is a pain in the arse from a neighbours side coming over! It has totally destroyed some of our garden because it is so invasive.

Also cost a lot of money for us to trim it and tame it. Not fair.

I was in a garden centre and picked up an ivy plant, I mentioned to a man next to me I was hoping it would spread to cover an ugly path. He said it’ll do more than that, turns out he was a builder and had gone into a house to do a job and there was ivy growing inside the bedroom! It had grown through the walls and was spreading!
That’s something you’d expect from Japanese knotweed I don’t know how it’s not in the same class. Op your neighbour is right to be annoyed when it’s that invasive and damaging.

I'm getting it from 2 neighbours. One had the cheek to offer to help me cut some back on my side after they built an extra fence for their hot tub, which I now let grow high and push over back to their side 😂.

Ivy is a very invasive plant and takes root quite easily. I wd harbour a guess in that if they are in their late 70s, even if they are active, they may struggle to bend down and get onto their knees and back up again easily. I say this coz I'm in my 50s with arthritic knees and my mum now in her 80s struggled from her 70s to bend and go down into her knees without pain or fear of falling. Getting back up again is equally hard for her. It may be easier for u and hubby with nice young limbs, but it cd really be a painful chore for them. I do hope I don't sound too preachy btw ☺️ PS maybe take all ivy out along their border and plant some elsewhere in your garden

Sorry but I can't stand ivy - we used to have and I really liked it - until it detroyed our garage and we had to demolish the garage.
Also it's really toxic and that's another worry of mine because of my pets.
We have a neighbour that lives on the road behind us, and a few houses down but her ivy has invaded 5 gardens on our road (our back gardens meet) about 4 gardens on her own road (not including hers obviously) and is now starting to invade mine and is creeping onto our newly built garage.
She's ignored everyone who's asked her nicely to keep it cut back and it's a menace. It's choked neighbours plants, wrapped itself around garden features and it's hard work for the neighbours who do try to remove it because it keeps growing back and crawling under. over and through fences - not really fair when THEY didn't choose or want this ivy.

Where was the before pic ?

ivy is awful. I said previously next doors just spouts into my garden and takes over

i paid for someone to come and cut it back when I had decking put in

bottom pic is 2w later and you can see it over the top of fence again and creeping Up to the right of the pic

I am on weekly guard now and chopping /pulling any I see

Why is that cheeky ?
They offered to help

It's really invasive and quick growing, plus most killers won't kill it. I say this from having it in my front and back garden, it's a constant battle, so I can understand your neighbour's point of view. A neighbour further up our road has removed it from the front of his house, well, the damage on the brick work is unbelievable .

The ivy coming from my neighbours is totally wrecking my fence.

Same.

We noticed just this week that branches are not only coming between the wooden panels (which I keep cutting off/back), but the bulky 'trunk' is now expanding and pushing out two of the fence panels. It's so infuriating, especially since we know fine well they don't give a shit and won't fix it.

DH was given some syringes with needles when a dentist retired. The old fashioned kind. I dreamt of injecting the roots with weedkiller sometimes.

My advice wait for a storm in the dead of night and pull them down ninja saboteurs style. Our neighbours did come down in a storm, thankfully. So we have nice new fencing.

How are you supposed to remove it when there is a fence in the way though? I have thought about digging under the fence in sections at a time.