Adult lazy day

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Is it socially acceptable for an adult to have a ‘lazy day’
For context I am a single with parental responsibility 70% of the time, plus I work full time. Due to the summer holidays my DC are with their dad more this weekend. I have completed house hold task this morning and now I am sitting in front of the telly. However I feel guilty in doing so.
I would like to go and do something but I’m short on funds.
House is clean
House and garden all tidy apart from DC bedroom which they refused to tidy.

YABU- get off your bum and do something
YANBU- it’s okay to have a lazy day every now and again

The joys of adulthood.. Nobody to kick your arse when it's sat down!!.

In all seriousness, if you feel guilty having an occasional day of leisure, you have issues.

Who is judging you, what do you feel guilty for?

Relaxing is not the same as being lazy. Why would anyone else care, least of is it "socially acceptable" you are watching TV etc?

I live alone and im having a lazy day.

Can’t even imagine why it would be a problem.

I voted YANBU
however…. When I was single and had a eg child free Sunday, I always regretted not doing something (walk, museum etc)

I am having a lazy day because I want to. And the house is a shit tip, so it's actual laziness. I've just broken up from school and it can wait till I've recovered from this year. I'll have a couple of easy days and then get stuck in. I veer between thinking it's the height of laziness to the height of sensibleness!

You've got absolutely no need to feel guilty about your day,, OP.

I laze about like that multiple times per week, just to relax. No guilt. No idea if it’s socially acceptable, I’m not exactly doing it in public!

Not unreasonable at all. I'm a single parent with 99% care, a (more than) full time job, pets, and a house that refuses to make my life easy.

Sometimes, I sit and just scroll/watch TV/Knit, or have a long bath.

In the past, on the rare time I get alone when the kids are with their father at the weekend, so there's nothing that I have to be doing right now (housework doesn't count) I have actually retreated to my bed for the day and just napped and read. Sometimes, I have to just let my brain completely relax.

My house is half clean but the living room looks like a crack den, everyone is still sat on their arses (happily).

Rest is not the enemy.

Enjoy your lazy day, ur making me jealous though as I have a ton of house work, admin and other boring jobs.

What you describe as ‘lazy’ I describe as topping up my battery for the energy I need for the week. Some weekends I’ll do absolutely sweet FA and I have absolutely no guilt about that.

The fact that you call it ‘lazy’ suggests that you’ve grown up around judgement laden attitudes around domestic labour. So just let that judgement go and allow yourself to chill out.

Exactly as others have said. "Nothing" is a viable thing to be doing with a day, just like tidying, gardening or whatever. Also a FT working SP here but will certainly be having days on the sofa with a book when kids are not here, regardless of the million and one things I could be doing.

Thanks everyone for their messages. I will continue to watch telly and stalk mums net knowing the house is in order, however I will continue to do the odd bit when I get bored.
I forgot to add that I am delaying work on a college course that I should be working on.

My full time job is very full on and my children are teenagers and a young adult. Most weekends I do a small amount of domestic stuff (a supermarket shop maybe - I live in one of the few places which still has no grocery delivery options - cook a meal on at least one but usually two or three of the evenings Friday to Sunday, and probably not more than two hours combined of housework. My husband does all the laundry). I do ferry my younger teens, who are too young to drive, around to sports fixtures and sometimes social stuff because of the awkwardness of where we live.

Otherwise I usually have both lazy days unless you count going for a walk. Today I took one teen to football and did a supermarket shop but otherwise DH and one teen went out for ice-cream and I don't intend to do anything else useful except clear up after the dinner that DS1 has already offered to cook.

Lazy days should be guilt free if you have already met all your commitments, work to pay your way if you are able health and child/ dependent care wise, and are not neglecting young children or other helpless dependents or living in a health endangering level of filth!

I don’t think it’s just acceptable, I think you have a duty to rest sometimes. Otherwise you’re going to make yourself ill.

I can’t believe people ask these things. Did you have very strict parents?
Of course it’s okay to relax as a human being..

I'm doing the same and my house is not clean and tidy! First day of the holidays today for ne (teacher) and I had less than 5 hours' sleep last night, so the housework can wait until tomorrow!

I have a lazy day at least once a week.

What on earth do you feel guilty about?

I recently got a Garmin fitness tracking watch and surprised to realise that the single biggest thing I could do to improve my health was to get more rest.

So I would say that having a lazy day isn't just not a bad thing to do, but can actually be pretty vital to your health, fitness and productivity.

I need a lazy day like this at least once a fortnight. Why do you feel bad about it? Are you all go all the time? I’d be shattered x

Are you joking? Do you genuinely think you're not allowed to relax in your own home?
I always do some exercise every day, but only because I love it. But once I've done that, I'm happy to slump infront of the TV for the rest of the day if that's what I want to do.
Who gives a shit what 'society' has to say about it?

Rest is productive. Enjoy!

Single parent who works in a school here. My kids are at their dads this weekend. I’ve done some tidying, food shop and been for a coffee with a neighbour. I feel I’ve wasted my day but at the same time, I feel tired and am allowing myself the rest of the day in front of the TV and an early night! You are allowed to do nothing too

Socially acceptable by whose metric?

Why is this even a question in your head?