Adult lazy day

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Is it socially acceptable for an adult to have a ‘lazy day’
For context I am a single with parental responsibility 70% of the time, plus I work full time. Due to the summer holidays my DC are with their dad more this weekend. I have completed house hold task this morning and now I am sitting in front of the telly. However I feel guilty in doing so.
I would like to go and do something but I’m short on funds.
House is clean
House and garden all tidy apart from DC bedroom which they refused to tidy.

YABU- get off your bum and do something
YANBU- it’s okay to have a lazy day every now and again

I’m a SAHM and I don’t need to do housework all day, every day. There’s only so much that can be done! I tend to dedicate an hour and a half in the morning to housework, depending on what needs doing and then from 10-10.30ish until 3 is my time. I play video games, crochet/watch my shows, read a book, write some of my book. Just whatever I feel like doing really!

Your kid refused to tidy their bedroom? Do they get to pick and choose which of your instructions they follow?

It makes me laugh when people say that they can’t imagine what non working people do all day. It shows a distinct lack of imagination! If I didn’t work I could think of so many things I could spend my days doing.

We call them soul days in our house as they are good for the soul and not something to ever feel guilty for- now relax and enjoy- you absolutely deserve to x

well I’ve just had a lazy week off work , achieved a few things but lots of relaxing

I pretty much spent the whole day in bed today watching Netflix, had around 10 months off work last year for health reasons and I really came to love the art of doing nothing! Really helps recharge my batteries

Me too, when people ask me what I do all day I say “Anything I like!” Sometimes, as a treat I’ll do the school run, come home and get back into bed and spend the whole day in bed watching TV 😎 it’s rare that I do that but it’s just one of the many things I can do as a SAHM.

I’m retired. Once my jobs for the day are done I laze about. I know how to relax 😀

I love a lazy day. I am a single parent and work part time as a teacher. On my days off I can often be full on busy with some volunteer work. I spend many evenings running kids to activities as well as weekends. On the odd occasion I have nothing booked for my non working days I will see the kids out to school and then veg on the sofa watching tv. Not every time, often I’m doing the housework and the constant cleaning and tidying that comes with having kids. School holidays used to be full on when kids were little and needed alot of structure and taking places. Now they’re teens and can occupy themselves more I do take the odd day as a lazy day and don’t even get dressed.

As others have said we need to be able to recharge our own batteries to be able to keep up with the level of work we do for others at other times.

Enjoy your rest.

Yanbu.
I’ve been known to take a day of leave while the kids are at school and do sweet FA.
In bed, tv or a book, coffee & chocolate. Bliss.

Resting/ down time / unwinding/ recharging the batteries is not 'being lazy'.

U can be very busy all the time doing literally nothing of importance.

I have regular lazy days, I HAVE to now due to my disabilities. I’m a single working mum to two Asd kids and one of them has a multitude of health problems alongside the autism, I’ve been in and out of hospital a lot recently and I have to have at least one day a week in bed or I physically can not function. My parents take my child with the higher needs for me one night a week and that’s the one I use. Otherwise I’d never be out of hospital. No contact from their “father” at all so I do it myself. I don’t know how much longer I’ll be able to work, although I think the government and their cronies would have me in a workhouse if they had their way!! But I’ll work as long as I can because despite it ADDING to my need for rest it helps me mentally cope.

I totally feel this! I too would be feeling guilty but I’m obviously going to tell you not to! Of course you’re allowed to have a lazy day! You need it!

I feel the OP’s sense of guilt.

Instead of telling myself to try to change the ingrained thinking,I hack it by writing a list of everything I need/ought to be doing, do just the smallest easiest thing in the morning and then cross it off. Sometimes the list will contain things I’ve already done, or things that really ought not to be on the list, like doing my nails/claws.

That way, I get to tell myself I’ve achieved by starting the day with a mini-win, thus earning the rest of the day for recouperation from the week. Also, weirdly, I get more done.

Really recommend it. Lists are the future.

This is a day off from parenting and work. I thought I was being lazy and there was something wrong with me until I mentioned it to some friends who said they do exactly the same. It’s perfectly ok to do NOTHING sometimes. It’s taken me years to learn this and I would constantly fill time. Now I’m happy with my own company and don’t see just loafing about as a crime against time anymore. Give yourself a break

I have a public holiday today and after a run of 12hr+ days, for months, I have completely switched off from work this weekend. I really ought to go out and get proper fresh air.

but I have hoovered and mopped everywhere and cleaned bathrooms. Got most of my laundry clean and folded. Did a proper food shop (for real food not just convenience) and some meal prep. Emptied all bins. Sorted things in my storage space (badly needed). Got to Ikea and finally framed pictures I got for my birthday 8.5 months ago.

I also had a long relaxing bath and read a book. There. Took the time for a proper shower and deep conditioned my hair. Watched 4 episodes of Bridgerton. Cooked a nice dinner and plan another nice one tonight.

id love to have slept more but that’s not happening with menopausal body right now. But I feel tonnes better for having mooched about and got things done at a relaxed pace, and taken some much needed time for me.

I still have to do ironing, wash winter wool jumpers (by hand), sort work paperwork…but I’ll get them done at some point. Right now, it’s MN and tea, then maybe a movie on the couch.

This! I used to be like that. Constantly found myself something to do. Couldn't sit and enjoy doing nothing. I even took up knitting and crochet so if I was sitting watching TV I could still be doing something constructive. Therapy has helped me to realise that it's ok to relax and do nothing sometimes, that I am still good enough even if I am sat on my ass zoning out, enjoying the quiet. It is self care to take time to do whatever you want even if that is nothing at all!