Adult lazy day

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Is it socially acceptable for an adult to have a ‘lazy day’
For context I am a single with parental responsibility 70% of the time, plus I work full time. Due to the summer holidays my DC are with their dad more this weekend. I have completed house hold task this morning and now I am sitting in front of the telly. However I feel guilty in doing so.
I would like to go and do something but I’m short on funds.
House is clean
House and garden all tidy apart from DC bedroom which they refused to tidy.

YABU- get off your bum and do something
YANBU- it’s okay to have a lazy day every now and again

I will be spending the rest of the day in front of the telly doing nothing.
unfortunately I would say I have plenty of self doubt, and this post has given me a lot to reflect on.

Really you can’t sit and watch tv without feeling guilty

OP, you're not weird.
I cannot rest. I grew up in a house where resting was for the weak and a lie in was the epitome of laziness.

My entire life I have to be doing something, cleaning something, sorting something, have something planned.

I'm (at 38) finally realising I need to be on the go less- mostly because my DD is picking up on my "unhealthy" habit and I don't want her growing up thinking it's normal, as you'll see by these replies here, it's not.

Enjoy your relaxing, and try and work on the guilt, I know it's hard.

Well done for recognising its not normal, and glad you’re letting yourself rest now! This is what I imagine the OP grew up with

I love a lazy day! I spend most of my time doing things for my children, my husband, my elderly mum...I don't begrudge any of this but after 35 years of being the one who looks after everyone else, I've recently decided to put my own needs first sometimes ☺️ and it's bloody brilliant!

Enjoy OP, it’s good for you.

My kids are grown up and left and I’ve had a chill day today. TV and mumsnet.

It’s even more important with small kids. Recharge.

OMG this is the ONE upside of being a single parent. I went through hell when my ExH left me (classic mid life crisis affair and I was blindsided, then he became a prize cunt); after initially breaking my heart and taking a pharmaceutical cocktail of drugs to numb the pain when my DC left me to stay with him for his ‘contact’ (court order) - and the OW who they didn’t know from Adam, that he’d shacked up with), I eventually had to trust the process and I did start to enjoy the weekend got ‘off’ once a month. I used to go out on a Friday night with friends, then after housework was done, stay in my PJ’s/bed/do as I pleased until Sunday. 20 years on I’m now semi retired and I now have a regular afternoon ‘hour’ in bed-it’s difficult mentally, as my parents were the type to never allow lie ins and attribute them to being ‘lazy’. DM is in her 80’s and still gets up at 7; stays up til 11; NEVER wears ‘comfy clothes’. I’d rather stick pins in my eyes than live like that. Think ‘Hyacinth Bouquet’ generation. I’m more Patsy and Ed. Enjoy OP.

I had 2 days off on a row earlier in the week and I spent most of it sleeping or otherwise resting in bed - I work full time and with this hot weather I haven't really slept properly for weeks and was absolutely on my knees with exhaustion from it.

I felt so much better for all the rest I had and I was able to then get all the housework done the other day, because I actually had the energy to do it, and I didn't feel totally burned out afterwards either. It's not being lazy, it's looking after yourself.

I'm 64. The only way I can get through the working week is to give myself occasional lazy days, just to get my strength back. But I raised five kids as a single parent, so I have NO guilt now about spending some time on myself; I spent twenty years of sleepless nights and working to try to keep us afloat and now it's MY TIME and if I choose to spend the whole day in bed eating Hobnobs then I bloody well will.

Perfectly healthy to have a rest day now and again (if I don't I find I actually get less done). Case in point, my miserable (retired) neighbour who recently had the nerve to lecture me on how I'm younger than her, so should be doing more gardening with my days off. I already fill my garden bin by each collection date. My garden is by no means perfectly manicured (I wouldn't want it to be it's wildlife friendly so does have the odd weed) but it's not overgrown. This is after she told me, she has to pay her adult son (who lives with her) to do chores around the house and garden 😆

For fuck’s sake you are an adult. Do whatever the fuck you please.

That's my Monday! I have earmarked it as my nothing day. I will stay in bed then watch the DVDs I want and read the books I want. I will have a Margarita at lunchtime if I fancy one and we will have baked eggs for supper. Once a year is enough 😁

Imagine you are a phone, and sitting on the sofa is the equivalent of having a charging cable plugged in. perhaps a weird
metaphor but Ive seen it around and think its helpful - you have a battery that needs charging every now and again

I love a lazy day - but the secret is to properly ‘allow’ it, plan it, look forward to it - then I can be guilt free!!

I've had a lazy day today. Everyone has been fed, kitchen tidied, some washing done. But none of the other stuff I could have been doing. A lot of TV watching. Sometimes that's what you need.

This. What a strange thread.

Of course, its entirely normal to have a quiet day( it’s not lazy)
if you’re seeking permission You have it, and please don’t overthink and enjoy your quiet day

You have a problem if this is even a question. I have at least one lazy day a week and as much time in the evenings as I can. Why wouldn’t you? Who is going to judge it and why would you care?

wasting time isn’t wasted time or something.

I don’t believe anyone feels this guilty for doing nothing. You are an adult do what ever you want

Why do people feel the need to be endlessly doing something? Just being is really enjoyable. Watch TV. Stare at birds in the garden. Have a bath and a nap and read a pageturner. I do this at least once a week.

You’re an adult and that is the whole joy of being an adult! If you need reassuring then just think of the millions of dossers on benefits who live like that every day.. you’re only doing it occasionally!

Having an hour in the evening after a busy day is one thing. A whole day is not something I’ve done apart from when poorly which is very rare.
Maybe I have some issues, but I have received some validation on this thread.

This made me laugh.
What do non working people actually do all day?

Have as many lazy days as you like. Have them Even if the washing hasn’t all been done / floors hoovered / etc. It’s a revelation..

I do this once a week and feel zero guilt. I need it.