Adult lazy day

[BulbsAndLampsDiffer]

Is it socially acceptable for an adult to have a ‘lazy day’
For context I am a single with parental responsibility 70% of the time, plus I work full time. Due to the summer holidays my DC are with their dad more this weekend. I have completed house hold task this morning and now I am sitting in front of the telly. However I feel guilty in doing so.
I would like to go and do something but I’m short on funds.
House is clean
House and garden all tidy apart from DC bedroom which they refused to tidy.

YABU- get off your bum and do something
YANBU- it’s okay to have a lazy day every now and again

I'm looking at getting an Apple Watch, but actually, I like the sound of your garmin!!

Ywbu to not do it. I have been retired for 9 months and dh finished work due to his health 15 years ago. I take every opportunity to do nothing. I worked for 50 years and brought up 3 children so now if I don't want to clean the bathroom I don't. Life is too short and hectic to dedicate down time to chores.
Dh does occasionally have a little dig "ooh you're always on your tablet" and I'm not polite when I answer so fucking what? I don't know what he thinks i should be doing because i don't ask. He does clean too BTW so I don't know what his issue is.

Sunday is a day of rest . I think it was the worst thing ever when Sunday opening was allowed. Germany shuts down on a Sunday except for vital services. It hasn’t done Germany any harm .

This is a massive level of overthinking. It's your life, your home, you're an adult. Do whatever you want! Absolutely no-one cares.

I'm not even sure what is a lazy day. What are adults supposed to be doing?

Blimey, all weekend is lazy days for me, and any time I’m not working really. That said, my house isn’t a hovel, but unlikely to meet some people’s standards.

Life is too short to worry about doing things that bring you joy….if that’s watching tv whilst you mindlessly scroll then good on you!

In the long run. Your lazy day is good for your wellbeing, both emotional and physical!

Of course it’s perfectly fine. You don’t need to ask anyone about this. People are too caught up in ‘busy work’ because they think this makes them righteous. It doesn’t.

You do not need to prove yourself to anyone. Your house is tidy and clean - great. Even if it wasn’t doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy some downtime. Put your feet up and enjoy the tv!!

Rest is a form of self care and highly recommended here!

Sit on your fat arse is one of life’s great joys.

@BulbsAndLampsDiffer DH said to me this morning “I’m so looking forward to having a lazy day today”. Aside from a couple of loads of washing and a quick batch cook for the freezer (15 minutes of prep/assembly), we’ve done nothing we didn’t want to do! Golf on tv for DH, dog walk, gym and book for me. Accompanied by wine. Pizza incoming. Enjoy your lazy day with the thread’s collective permission!!

I would find it hard to have a whole day of laziness but only because I'm so used to having little ones to look after. But now they're older I frequently sit in the garden with a coffee & my book in between "pottering" around. Go for it I say!

I would have a bath in peace without any interruption. Maybe a face mask and then sit in front of TV with no kids fighting for the remote. Then I might do a bit of knitting

I’m did sweet FA last Sunday as me and DH were feeling a little jaded after a day out with friends the day before. My DC are older so I did a bit of driving about for them and provided food but literally the bare minimum and I didn’t feel guilty at all.

As a mum of 3 year old twins I’m envious of anyone having lazy days. With that in mind have one for me too!

Completely understand, op. I grew up in a house where we’d get shouted at if we were caught sitting down when mum got in from work. We were school kids on the school holiday.
i have a house of my own, three adult children that live with me and I still apologise if I get caught sitting down.

This is why mums burn out. We feel guilty for sitting down. If you need a sit down embrace it and relax. Your body is telling you that you need it.

Have a lazy day. I had overnight guests that left at lunchtime. House is clean and tidy. I closed the spare room doors and sat on the sofa. Been playing computer games for hours now.

enjoy. I am really busy for next few weekends so loving my time alone

1000% it's fine to have a lazy day! You don't even need to justify it by saying you've done (insert chore) Honestly, life is VERY short, and if you get an opportunity to have some down time, whether that is by going to the gym, reading a book, or just doing nothing at all, then do it. Everyone deserves the chance to unwind, you'll be a better person (and a better parent!) for letting yourself switch off for a while 😁

Sometimes i just hit burn out and cant move for a day. Its fine. If you dont relax burn out will get you anyway.

I have no DC, I work 30-40h a week, my house needs a clean. Today I frankly couldn't be fucked, I've had 2 takeaways, 3 movies and multiple hours of phone scrolling and may at some point have a shower and make not a single apology for it, why should we? We are grown adults and can use our time how we wish.

You’re an adult, do as you please.

I feel increasingly agitated when I try and do nothing 😒
I'll wake up, take the dog out for a long walk, start eying up all the things that need doing in my house, all the housework, I know my garden will probably need doing, car needs cleaning etc.
So I do sit down but I'm not relaxed, I jump up every now and again and clean something, iron etc then sit down again for a bit until its bothering me too much again....
There's a few times we have tried to watch a few episodes of a new series and I manage 2 episodes before I'm agitated and need to go and do something.
Funny thing is my house is still never clean after it!

My DH struggles to relax at home. He literally has to be doing something on his days off, and says he feels lazy if he sits down during the day. If he was on his own for the day, he would never dream of putting the TV on during the day. Whereas I retired early, and love being at home. I have a little routine of doing pilates, walking the dogs and catching up with a friend for coffee/lunch. On a day where I've nothing planned, I love watching documentaries, reading and well...scrolling on social media. Sometimes I do get pangs of feeling a bit lazy lounging around for long periods of time, but I tell myself I've worked hard for this house, I deserve it! Funnily enough, I don't get those pangs of feeling lazy if it's glorious weather and I'm on a sun lounger with a book in the garden...just when I'm indoors for some reason!

As an adult, you get to decide what you do. . Brilliant , isn’t it?

I have a lazy day once a week. Sometimes twice 😆
I have a toddler so if I have some alone time I’d definitely rather binge watch tv and chill on the sofa rather than wash up!