Found more of your 'granny pants' WTAF??

[StipyTiger]

For context i'm 46, short and until recently was a size 14 (i've lost a bit). When I was pregnant 5 years ago I bought some lovely pants. Yes, I know it's 5 years ago but they're colourful, a good make and don't cut into me. They cover my whole bum. Nowt wrong with that imo - I'm not going back to wearing thongs or uncomfortable pants - especially when it's hot. DP was going through the washing and handed me some of my clean washing and said 'here are your granny pants'. WTAF? His boxers have got holes in them with the elastic gone - and before anyone says it, he has new ones but refuses to throw the old ones out as he'll wear them in bed, great as contraception as they're awful! AIBU to be annoyed by this as he knows I'm sensitive about my weight? He's a skinny waif and struggles to put weight on where I'm still struggling with my apron from pregnancies. Should I just get rid of his clothes when he's out?!

He was commenting on the style of your pants, (ie not thongs, skimpy things) rather than the size of you.

Keep your comfortable pants and ignore him. I am with you, big pants are the future. Bigger the better I say.

erm hello twin 🤣🤣🤣 I could have written this myself.

I bought some big pants during pregnancy and said “I’ll stop wearing these once I’ve had the baby”

5 years later I still buy the same ones albeit 1 size smaller.

I love my granny pants!!! Long live a comfy knicker :)

It sounds like you've done well to lose some weight, which was a natural weight gain. Tell him it's your bum and you will cover it, as you see fit.

I'm not sure I would take it as a dig at your weight. More a dig at the style of pants you're wearing, which sound like they provide full coverage which (rightly or wrongly) fit the criteria for being called 'granny pants'. I'm not knocking them either, they sound similar to mine!

You know your partner better than me, but I'd just shrug it off as a clumsy comment rather than a jibe at your weight.

This wouldn’t upset me. I’d own it and laugh!

I think I’d remind him of his Contraceptive Pants!

I’ve recently moved to Granny Pants after a(n adult) lifelong love affair with thongs. This was triggered by a painful interface between said thong and piles. I intended for it to be a temporary move but have never returned.

Husband said something similar to me about granny pants, I said thanks and it’s not been mentioned again.

I’m 53, I’ll wear whatever pants I want and it’s got naff all to do with him.

It’s literally nothing to do with your weight.

I wouldn’t take it as a dig at your weight at all. More of a jokey dig at your choice of knickers. Just laugh and move on.

BTW, I wear the same knickers. Can’t do with wedgies or uncomfortable underwear.

What he said has nothing to do with weight at all.

Does he say/do other things that are critical of your body? Or do you think this is you projecting your own insecurities a bit?

On its own, I don't think there's anything inherently problematic about what he said. They are granny pants! I have them too because comfort is king. And my husband takes the piss, which is fine because the rest of his words and actions show me that he wants me to be comfortable and happy, and thinks I'd be gorgeous in a bin bag anyway. And I take the piss out of his knackered old boxers which is also fine because I think he's gorgeous as well and we are just too preoccupied with kids and general life to be worrying about our undies.

Tell him to grow up! Both my slim, pretty etc DD’s in their 20’s wear full briefs out of choice because comfort matters, I see them on the line when they stay (I’m sure they may have some other pants but they aren’t for their mother to see!)

I call big pants granny pants too! If he said it in a jokey way, I don't think I'd be upset by that. Two of my friends wear the big pants, I wear the minis (not thongs) because I get too hot in big pants (perimenopause!) and when we're shopping, they've joked about buying their granny pants 🤣

Firstly, stop justifying your pants preference. It's nobodies business but yours what pants you want to wear. I don't think your DH was saying anything about your weight, it sounds like it was just a joke about granny pants. Comfort matters so don't let him make you feel like you can't wear your comfy pants. Love the contraceptive boxers btw🤣

My husband always makes a joke about my granny pants when I’m on my period and like to make sure I have all bases covered 😬 I don’t see it as a jab, it’s just a term used for years for full coverage knickers.

Obviously aeons ago now, but I took my DM (already a granny) to see the first Bridget Jones film when it was newly released - hoping it’d amuse her! - and she was highly offended at Bridget using the ‘granny pants’ term. But my poor old DM did take everything seriously/literally.

Own those granny pants. I need a pant to cover my belly button so I have super GPs. I care not a jot what people think 😆

its nothing to do with your weight it’s the style of pants. I remember even as a child proper pants that cover your bun were granny pants.

I have some from giving birth I call them my granny pants.

What is it when men and holy boxers though.

My husband calls them my 'comfies' which I like !!

This doesn’t sound particularly malicious, just a slightly jokey comment that, for some reason, you took more personally than you might have done on another day.

I wouldn’t dwell on it.

DH asked me why I wore such big knickers and made a quip - I held them up next to his boxers and showed they were in fact MUCH smaller. I referred to him wearing "grandpa pants" and "acres of knickers" for a few days and he's kept his trap shut since 😂

Where are these pants from? I need some

I told my OH if he liked skimpy knicks he was free to wear them

But those are granny pants. I am a size 8, and they are granny pants. And very comfortable they are too. It is just a slang descriptor of that style of big pants.