I feel so broken

Laiste · 16/07/2025 16:26

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3 months is a bit quick to be in love OP.

Especially if part of those 3 months youve been feeling it's going nowhere ....

Why is it going nowhere ?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 16/07/2025 16:27

Give yourself a few days to get over him.

OurBeautifulBaby · 16/07/2025 16:27

I’m guessing he didn’t offer any reassurance?
It’s only been 3 months - You will bounce back.

MrBallenIsaFittie · 16/07/2025 16:31

Come on, pull yourself together! You shouldn't be 'broken' after a 12 week fling.
Wallow a bit for a couple of days if you need to, eat as much Haagen Das (sp) as you can stomach and move forward with your life.

Lmnop22 · 16/07/2025 16:52

Why is it going nowhere?

Did you tell him you were ending it because you’d developed feelings for him that were more than a causal arrangement?

If so, and he hasn’t reciprocated then you just have to wait out the heartbreak, distract yourself with friends and family and Netflix and takeaway until it starts to feel better!

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Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:08

Lmnop22 · 16/07/2025 16:52

Why is it going nowhere?

Did you tell him you were ending it because you’d developed feelings for him that were more than a causal arrangement?

If so, and he hasn’t reciprocated then you just have to wait out the heartbreak, distract yourself with friends and family and Netflix and takeaway until it starts to feel better!

I've known him for a few years and always secretly liked him and he messaged me out of the blue wanting to meet for coffee and things went from there.We were seeing each other once a week and he was so lovely to me very loving and attentive but then I wouldn't hear from him for days.

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BetterWithPockets · 16/07/2025 17:09

OP, personally I would ignore the posters telling you to pull yourself together on the grounds it’s ‘only’ been three months. Sometimes (imo), it’s not about how long it’s been or even the person themselves, necessarily — it’s about suddenly being in a situation where you can see a different future for yourself, a future you really want, and didn’t previously think you’d get to have — for whatever reason — and then, just as soon as you start believing it might be possible, having it taken away from you. You’re allowed to grieve that, of course you are. But it is still early days, and I promise it will get easier. X

BetterWithPockets · 16/07/2025 17:10

FWIW, I also think you’ve been really strong to recognise it’s not working for you and to end it.

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Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:10

Laiste · 16/07/2025 16:26

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3 months is a bit quick to be in love OP.

Especially if part of those 3 months youve been feeling it's going nowhere ....

Why is it going nowhere ?

I get what your saying but I've known him for years and always had a thing for him.

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Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:16

BetterWithPockets · 16/07/2025 17:10

FWIW, I also think you’ve been really strong to recognise it’s not working for you and to end it.

Thank you it wasn't an easy decision at all,I shouldn't have posted on here really but I've got no one to talk to and I feel so alone right now.

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Createausername1970 · 16/07/2025 17:16

Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:08

I've known him for a few years and always secretly liked him and he messaged me out of the blue wanting to meet for coffee and things went from there.We were seeing each other once a week and he was so lovely to me very loving and attentive but then I wouldn't hear from him for days.

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You know how it felt from the inside. But from the outside, it seems like you acted a bit hasty.

Did you actually tell him how you feel?

3 months isn't long and it's only in the last decade or so that we have all lived in each others pockets with so much messaging and social media. It's not my norm, to be honest, and I wouldn't want someone messaging me every day. It doesn't necessarily mean he isn't interested in you, just has other hobbies and interests

What's done is done, but if you can back track and actually have a conversation about what he wants out of life, it might be helpful.

Notouchingmybhuna · 16/07/2025 17:18

Situationship?

LittlleMy · 16/07/2025 17:18

BetterWithPockets · 16/07/2025 17:10

FWIW, I also think you’ve been really strong to recognise it’s not working for you and to end it.

Absolutely this. @Heartfeels you’ve been very strong indeed. And that will work in your favour since you will (eventually) get over him a lost sooner as a consequence ♥️

dollyblue01 · 16/07/2025 17:20

What’s the reason it can’t be anything more ?

dollyblue01 · 16/07/2025 17:20

How do you know ? Have you asked him for more ?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 16/07/2025 17:23

You aren't in love with him.
He was mirroring what you wanted him to be, otherwise if he really was caring and attentive, he wouldn't ignore you for days.

Pull up your big girl pants. He used you. Sorry xx

flowerfairyy · 16/07/2025 17:23

You saw each other once a week? So you only saw him 12 times in a romantic way?

MondeoFan · 16/07/2025 17:24

How do you know it could never be more? Did you tell him that you’re in love with him and because of that you can’t see him anymore?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 16/07/2025 17:25

Once a week for 3 months, you didn’t even give it time to build into anything so it clearly wasn’t love OP. Give yourself a day or two to be sad and then move on

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Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:27

BetterWithPockets · 16/07/2025 17:09

OP, personally I would ignore the posters telling you to pull yourself together on the grounds it’s ‘only’ been three months. Sometimes (imo), it’s not about how long it’s been or even the person themselves, necessarily — it’s about suddenly being in a situation where you can see a different future for yourself, a future you really want, and didn’t previously think you’d get to have — for whatever reason — and then, just as soon as you start believing it might be possible, having it taken away from you. You’re allowed to grieve that, of course you are. But it is still early days, and I promise it will get easier. X

Thank you so much,I really fell for him in a short space of time but I've known him for 7 years and always had feelings for him.I really appreciate your understanding.People saying to eat ice cream and watch netflix isn't really helping to be honest.Im struggling to eat and I've lost nearly 2 stones with feeling so heartbroken about it all.I was married for 28 years and on my own for 7 years, the only man I've let get close to me because I trusted that he wouldn't hurt me.Hes 58 and I'm 59 there's no fool like an old fool 😢 x

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 16/07/2025 17:28

You fell in love without the person he pretended to be, he wasn't attentive or caring. Otherwise he would not have avoided you for days.

Put your big girl pants on or he'll call you the next time he is horny, you'll be sucked back in.

Daygloboo · 16/07/2025 17:32

Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 16:23

I have been in a situationship for 3 months and I've fallen in love with him.I ended things yesterday because I knew in my heart it wasn't going anywhere.This has absolutely devastated and broken me to the point I'm constantly crying and cannot see a way to come to terms with this.I was married for 28 years and been on my own for 7 years and this was the first man I let into my life.

I know it sounds blunt but if someone isn't right for me or not nice to me I get over it quickly..who wants to be with the wrong person.

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Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:33

LittlleMy · 16/07/2025 17:18

Absolutely this. @Heartfeels you’ve been very strong indeed. And that will work in your favour since you will (eventually) get over him a lost sooner as a consequence ♥️

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Thank you for for understanding x

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Heartfeels · 16/07/2025 17:36

LittlleMy · 16/07/2025 17:18

Absolutely this. @Heartfeels you’ve been very strong indeed. And that will work in your favour since you will (eventually) get over him a lost sooner as a consequence ♥️

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Thank you for for understanding x

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Skippydoodle · 16/07/2025 17:36

Am I missing something? It ended yesterday but you have lost 2 stone - confused.