I feel so broken

[Heartfeels]

I have been in a situationship for 3 months and I've fallen in love with him.I ended things yesterday because I knew in my heart it wasn't going anywhere.This has absolutely devastated and broken me to the point I'm constantly crying and cannot see a way to come to terms with this.I was married for 28 years and been on my own for 7 years and this was the first man I let into my life.

Thank you you're so right xx

Thank you I'm realising it more now x

Not for him, don't shut yourself off to a new relationship.
This guy has player written all over him, stop being sad, get mad, he used you, filled you up with lies, he had no intention of having a serious relationship.
I'd bet he has done this many times.

Thank you I'm realising it more now hopefully given time I'll probably agree with you xx

❤️

Thank you so much I am usually a strong person but this has absolutely devastated me xx

Thank you xx

Thank you I'm usually a really strong person but this has knocked my confidence massively xx

You were blindsided and that really hurt, especially when you're a strong lady.

This is on him. I remember the feeling falling for a player.
Thankfully it was 20 years ago. Took time to see what a prick he was. I didn't think people would use someone like that, I cringe now if he pops into my head.

There are lots of lovely men, divorced, ready to learn from the past.

Don't rush in, but keep your mind open, you're a women in her prime, enjoy life.
Buy yourself something nice today.

I know we can't choose who we fall in love with, but the reality of who he is can easily be reframed as deeply unappealing and the fact you lost 2 stone from unhappiness while only being together with him a few weeks is hugely alarming. You did absolutely the right thing ending it and it's okay to feel emotional about that but it doesn't mean you're broken. You're actually very smart and wise to not suffer any more of that kind of 'love'. Get through this initial hurt and look after yourself, mentally and physically. You'll feel much better without him messing with your head and heart.

Read about limerence. It’s a thing, and people who haven’t been through it don’t understand, hence all the baffled comments. Certain personalities are more prone to it, such as people who have anxiety, trauma etc. Yours sounds like a classic case, you sound like me at 20, but thankfully I got my shit together and am in a much better place now.

Sorry to hear this. You are not a fool and you shouldn’t feel worthless though I completely get it as I felt it when a similar thing happened to me recently. (I don’t take my own advice!).

It isn’t a reflection on you and says more about him. Please try and remember that xx

Thank you so much❤️

Thank you xxx

Ill have a look about limerance it's not something I've heard about before xxx

Thank you for being so caring,it's very early days but I'll get through it somehow ❤️

Hi, I know this is an oldish post but just wanted to say good on you for not only recognising the situationship was no good for you but for also walking away. That takes guts and strength. Ignore all the posts saying get over it etc, everyone is different. I have fallen for someone, known him for a while, lovely guy but he is the same, hot and cold, he’s either all in or all out. No happy medium with him. I know I should walk away for my own sanity but I can’t bear the thought of being without him. Hope you are feeling better x

What's a situationship?

Aw thank you so much ,im still missing him but im feeling a little bit better as time goes on and im realising that it would never have worked out between us.It still hurts but im starting to move on now,it's not easy but I know im going to be okay .

The first mistake was spending any time in a “situationship”. But you live and learn. Next time a man is vague or just wants to “see how it goes, no labels”, block, delete and move on.