To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

[naturalcrackle111]

New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

so so sorry lovely, I can’t even imagine what you are going through right now. Big hugs 🤗

Reading this and doing an extra count up of my blessings. Sending love and hope for improving circumstances to posters with health and money issues.

Have evil neighbours

99% sure I'm in peri or full menopause at age 34 due to an operation I had which ruined my ovaries. Struggling with the symptoms, plus sad because I can't have another baby.

Palls into insignificance against the major heath problems above and so first world but my house gives me endless stress as I don't have enough money to keep up with the maintenance.

I am definitely the pads and spare knickers type of person. I also have ridiculous ibs/d which has left me embarrassed before, but as you’ve found, people are super kind for the most part.

Navigating PMDD

Oh bore off. You could tell by the title of the thread what it was about. The people who have posted on here (the vast majority of whom are having a really Shit Time), don't need your sarcasm. Go off and find a bridge to guard.

Currently undergoing treatment for breast cancer and not being able to be the mum, wife or employee I want to be.

Missing my DH who died very abruptly in January this year, and feeling lonely and isolated.

Menopause is kicking my ass - can’t get a good night’s sleep. Diagnosed under active thyroid joining in, making me feel drained of energy.

Work offering no flexibility to drop to four days rather than the five I’m currently on.

Sending love to majority of other sensible posters. Life can feel so hard.

Good luck to everyone on this thread with such big problems to overcome 💐
hope things improve soon.

Sending love and hugs to all the posters who have shared their problems. As some other posters have pointed out, it puts things into perspective. Wishing I could do something to help.

My daughter has cancelled me.
This sounds simple but is not.
She sees everyone else-arranges socials and things with my other kids, even my mum, but excludes me.
I alternate between grief and anger towards her for her bullying behaviour.
I exist and my feelings matter.

no one cares.

My family is implosing and I don't know if I should want to help (I can't do anything for them instead of ruining myself and m'y health) or just let them be (but the guilt is during)

I love you all for sharing <3

I’m so sorry everyone is having a though time sending hugs… we find out tommorow if OH still has a job, I work 4 jobs study and raise kids have to find £1k a month to cover nephew rent thanks to oh being a guarantor and still recovering from a bad attack last year. So you know can’t complain

In order of annoyance

1. I have a brain aneurysm
2. I have god awful migraines almost every day
3. I have three very loud children (two have special needs) who drive me up the wall 😂

Coming up to the 11th anniversary of my tfmr, and even though it's so long ago, my guilt is off the scale. It's there constantly, eating away at me. Anything that goes wrong, I feel I deserve. Sometimes I want to disappear into a big hole and die. Sometimes I want a time machine so I can go back and change my choice. I feel awful.
Sending love to everyone else on this thread x

Financially struggling
No time to myself as too busy looking after others (at work and at home)

I want to send so much love & support to everyone who has commented on this thread. There should be no competition, everyone is dealing with their own issues & sometimes it's really helpful just to 'scream into the void' like writing it on Mumsnet.
For me, I'm generally accepting of everything but at times things do get on top of me.

• wonderful 14 Yr old DD still on the waiting list for a duel adhd/asd diagnosis. 3 years and counting. Her happiness is frankly all I care about.
• 6 years of being a single parent, dealing with ex-dh who believes 1 night a fortnight & no communication between visits builds a positive relationship with DD. It doesn't.
• worried about DP. His remaining parent in hospital, he's near breaking point trying to support everyone but isn't looking after himself. We dont live together (both have kids & dont want to blend until they are all adults, just another 4 years to go!) & he can't drive so trying to support whilst not physically being there every day is tough.
• I'm physically disabled. Used a walking stick since my early 30s (now 47) & now use a wheelchair when needed. The fear of keeping going for DD worries me enormously.
• I've been medically retired for nearly 6 years now. I was an Assistant Headteacher, now we live off my teachers pension & PIP. It's all on me & I worry daily about money.
• PIP up for reassessment in August. Enough said. Everyone who knows me says it's going to be fine but those of you who have gone through it know the fear only too well. Without it, I can't keep a roof over our heads.
• I'm pretty much at peace with my disability but the pain is too much. Chronic pain, associated medications, constant hospital appointments, just gets incredibly wearing at times.

Reading what some of you are going through has been a humbling experience. I wish each & every one of you who are struggling that simply writing it down has given you a modicum of relief from whatever is wearing you down xx

One child with severe LDs and one with HFA and very poor mental health, several suicide attempts, providing suicide watch, only attending school very part time. not much support and trying to hold down a job and it's all going tits. Huge money worries as nobody wants to employ me. Doesn't help that the school hols are about to start and both will be at home 24/7. Life is incredibly difficult for us right now.

I get that this person’s post seems to be very insensitive and tone deaf (as several posters have pointed out) but my guess is that they posted quickly upon reading the OP and didn’t look to see what others were dealing with. I actually opened up this thread thinking it would be light hearted. It very much isn’t so I will keep my extremely minor concerns to myself.

Those waiting excessively long for adhd and autism assessment, do look to see if you’d be better off on right to choose. Lots of information out there.

Just feeling constant shattered. I'm sat on the sofa and just want to fall asleep. Even cooking dinner (it's only stir fry) feels like too much effort.

I'm definitely in perimenopause but this feeling of constantly being exhausted is just crippling me.

Family and neighbour problems uuurggggh
It's always other people. Left alone we are ok.

My husband left me out of the blue in January .
Denied an affair but moved straight in with a woman from his work and her kids so ..

I am a full time carer for our disabled daughter with no support ( my family 3 hrs away , husband now 1.5 hrs away ) so I cannot work .

Reliant on him paying our bills while I negotiate divorce . ( which will drop any day with him and he will go ballistic even tho it’s all on him )

our disabled daughter doesn’t have the capacity to understand and asks for her dad every night .

my mum has advanced Alzheimer’s which my dad is struggling to cope with .
my dad just diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer - they live 3 hours away .

My 17 yr old daughter thinks her first boyfriend is cheating on her so I’m trying to support her .

there’s not much good in my life right now !