To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

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New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Buying a house and going through the process, while hating my job that is helping me to the house

Me and DH both turn 50 in the next 6 months, and our poor self-care, physically (apart from 4 years when SW worked for us) is catching up with us.

Having done it once (lost weight), I should be able to do it again but I am dreading it yet I hate being nearly 20 stone and barely able to walk from car park into city for some shopping without wondering when the next rest is and being pissed off that clothes shopping is impossible at this size.

Reading these makes me realise I have no problems really.

Was going to say- Perimenopausal, permanently tired and grumpy! Know I should exercise but can’t be bothered!

Teen daughter on her 5th psychiatric inpatient admission in four years in a hospital nearly 50 miles away. Discharged last month after a 5 month stay and within two weeks was blue lighted twice after serious attempts to end her life. Very lucky she is still alive. Has since been blue lighted whilst an inpatient for blood loss after secreting sharps on to the ward. Constantly fighting with the LA/NHS/ICB to get the right support in place, whilst essentially have to live in a sterile, secure prison. Elder daughter in total autistic burnout after awful year at uni, eldest son struggling after break up of a three year relationship. Constantly borrowing on credit cards to pay bills as I’m unable to work whilst caring for daughter 24/7 and husband is severely disabled. Family completely uninterested.

Getting over cancer treatment and my dad's unexpected death last year. His birthday soon

About to have my third general anaesthetic since 10th March on either Monday or Wednesday of next week (on trauma list so awaiting confirmation of which day). Have been unable to drive for almost a year due to wrist injury which is also stopping me from being able to get my hearing aids in, so can’t hear. My husband is awaiting delivery of his first wheelchair and I’m worried I won’t get functional back in my wrist to be able to support him.
Also have a hospital appointment in 2 weeks for multiple large uterine fibroids.
All whilst working, parenting twin teens and perimenopause.

I’m tired.

We’ve been in the same situation for 12 years with my autistic son. It’s a life a wouldn’t wish on anyone. Having an addicted child who uses because he can’t cope with the difficulties he experiences being autistic , it’s a life of pure raw grief and absolute terror.

You need to talk to your DD about this!

Heartache.

2year old’s dad planning to marry another woman

Boredom : I ve got responsibilities so I need to keep ploughing on with a work and parenting routine for a few more years.

Menopause/perimenopause : dipped libido and energy.

Mysogynistic society.

That sounds a nightmare situation.

Injury slowing me down and NHS not responding so I googled physio, debt, childcare, family forgetting daughters birthdays and partner getting increasingly stressed and depressed, trying to help but only so much I can do whilst working, juggling childcare with no help from family or friends and training new people as people keep leaving due to not wanting to work that hard... people don't want to work or only want to work the bare minimum and it's not ok, I sometimes hate being a manager😐

To say I’m sorry doesn’t seem nearly enough.

Exhausting stressful job, very frail parent with dementia alone at home, depression, menopause.

not that much really in the grand scheme

I was in a car accident in 2021 and suffered a fractured vertebrae with a collapsed disc in my neck. It left me with adhesive arachnoiditis that's strangulating my spinal cord and two nerve roots. It's excruciating. I'm on high doses of an opioids and muscle relaxers, just to keep it bearable. Unfortunately, they make me feel so foggy and slow. My antidepressant also knocks me out, but it keeps the soul crushing anxiety and melancholy at bay.

I also haven't worked since shortly after the accident. We do ok financially, as I made some very sound investments and try to manage our money very wisely. I just have no real purpose in life, outside taking care of the family. Prior to the accident, I was working on a PhD in Immunobiology. My family is wonderful and I love them all dearly, but I miss my work. I haven't published a paper since 2022.

The guy we bought our house from 9 months ago hired a scam artist to do roofing work. Not only was the work done completely wrong, but he's trying to extort money from us now.

My husband was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and borderline personality disorder last year. While he can be a great help when he wants to be, he's also the cause of plenty of our problems. Like tearing up the house and leaving it wrecked for months.

I feel awful about complaining about all of this, when people have bigger problems. It feels good to say it all, though.

Mainly money issues, a house with that issues that needs fixing like a damp course and my three and a half year boy who still only says some word words. He is quite behind. Also maybe autistic.I am hoping he will cope at school nursery in September.

Martin Lewis did something on this morning about this the other day basically said go to the finance company and say it isn’t fit for use, I’m sure it will be on catch up I think it was Monday or Tuesday x

Trying to work out how to help 17-year-old autistic DS out of bed and get on with his life, whilst thinking how much easier things would be if I could leave a job I'm increasingly disliking.

Mine is money, my hours have been reduced, husbands business is struggling he is working day and night trying to keep it going, priority is paying staff and suppliers so not bringing any money home, it’s very difficult x

Trying to get a diagnosis for DS ongoing health related issues (which is time sensitive), the GP failing to action the referrals that she was supposed to make months ago, and not being able to afford to go private.

Other anxiety related health issues with DS (not caused by the above, but exacerbated by them).

Peri-menopause is absolutely breaking me, mentally and physically. I just want to feel like myself again.

Aging parents who live hours away (they announced they were moving closer to us which would have been lovely, but that was 9 years ago and it still hasn't happened!).

Our house needs a lot of work doing but no money to do it. So much decluttering needed too, but no motivation to do it (thanks peri-menopause!).

Being isolated with my non verbal autistic 8 y/o son. He is still in nappies and still smears it. No family help and hardly any friends. Have my husband but he finds this all so distressing too. My son is becoming more and more sensitive to noise and we can’t go anywhere without him screaming. I’m seeing his social worker tomorrow so hopefully we might get some more help.

After 30 years of adulthood never finding the right job I finally have one I love, but...it's stressful and exhausting as well as fulfilling, and doesn't pay enough.

I had a second job which I've had to give up as I was totally burnt out but need to find an alternative by the end of September or I'll have no money for saving or disposable income whatsoever.

I'm working towards longer term career goals but hard to say when those will come to fruition (involves and OU degree so could be several years). Other option is to relocate to a cheaper area which I absolutely love but elderly widowed mum is here and we have no one else to support her so I'm a bit stuck!

Have to say that reading this thread makes me feel very grateful thoug that I at least have some options and possibilities to consider.

Disabled Veteran, 5 kids, suicidal severe spinal and pelvic injuries.
Been sleeping on sofa for 3 years due to marriage breakdown. Been on social housing list for 2 years. One of those years in band one ( the most urgent band)
7 years old son is autistic and has a mental age of 4. 14 year old son has ARFID. 15 year old daughter has suspected autism and is very violent and agressive, she punches me, refuses to go to school. Husband is rarely around to help. I feel desperately alone and wish the council would help us with a house. Housing benefit is only £750 a month so couldn't afford to rent privately.
You deal with whatever is in front of you at the time. Jobs, cars, health, relationships, housing, parenting. Your biggest problems are stressful until something worse happens.
Normal small daily stresses are apparently hugely impactful on mental and physical health.

Going through divorce slowly, (no agreement on finances), alongside challenging chemotherapy for breast cancer, live alone with my dogs and cat, it’s a struggle. Missing my last remaining family memner (parent) who passed 2 years ago, struggled through sorting their estate out, then all this.