To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

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New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

I am so sorry to hear this, sending lots of love and hugs.
cancer sucks, it truly does xxx

My problems are not big compared to some. I have a chronic illness, moving house, sick parents, demanding teens, my dog died, my closest aunt died and my parents have never much cared about me - so I am working through that. Apart from that I am good! Grateful it’s not worse tbh.

Hi @TheTwinklyLemur - I’m sorry to hear this. Does your mum live with you or near you? X

My husband died 11 months ago and I’m trying to navigate supporting my two daughters (8 and 11) through their grief as it’s just starting to properly surface.

Also feeling mega stressed as I’m juggling a busy full time job with doing everything else now

@Asthenia you can get yourself out of this! If other people can and have done, then so can you. It must be a massive worry but know that is is reversible and one day, with the right smaller actions built up over every day, you will be debt free. It's a project that will probably consume you but you will change the trajectory of your life. I think Tiffany Aliche was in a similar position to you. Hers came from being convinced to put tens of thousands on a credit card for an investment that turned out to be dodgy and the bloke ran off with all the money. This was during the 2008 crisis and she subsequently got made redundant, making it worse. She got herself debt free, it took a while, and she made a project of it but she did it. Have a listen to her stuff.

I don't know the reason for your credit card debt but know You aren't the first and won't be the last so if you are harbouring any shame about it, then drop that! 💐

That I have about £6 in my bank and won’t be paid for 3 more weeks

@Asthenia just looked Tiffany Aliche up to refresh my memory and identical amount to you! Well, ok in USD

She was $35k deep in credit card debt and scared sh!tless

I know this is easier said than done, but (especially if you are under 50) the chances of a breast lump being cancerous are very small. Fibrous lumps, cysts, etc are extremely common. And there are many, many types of "breast cancer" (it's an umbrella term for all sorts of very different types of growth), most of them very treatable nowadays. Good luck with it 💗

An update to my post yesterday; as of this morning it's at least a year until I'll be able to drive again.

Way bigger problems I should be focusing on, but I'm fixating on the driving.

Why would you declare this? Just sell whatever you want without telling the tax man.

That's not how eBay works... selling on eBay has become a bit of a minefield for sellers.

thank you, and I’m sorry you even had a glimpse. Hope you’re doing okay x

To opt for negativity?
Have you read the thread and what people are going through?

im not saying we should all shallow in misery to talk about OPTING for negativity is utterly wrong.

We've been there and it's awful, the constant worry. Hope things improve soon

I finally went to the doc today to get my mole looked at. Even if it is sinister I've done something about it now. Parent being diagnosed with cancer has lit a fire under my arse about assorted health worries .

It really is. We've come through some awful times, a few years ago I was over drawn on the 2nd of each month and dh bot long after. I have nearly finished off paying the credit card debt which is from bills and weekly food shops. I'm so glad we don't have that struggle anymore.

I suppose the worry right now is really 'why can't I talk to my supportive partner?' This has been a problem since I was a child, I worry abou things on my own instead of talking about them, often making a situation worse.

I'm in the same boat as you but my husband is now in his 4th year of being out of work, and it is hard to be positive with him whilst struggling with all the finances on my own and like you I'm starting to question my feelings, my marriage and what the future holds. Reading everyone's posts on here is heartbreaking.

To be honest, I think a lot of my main problems are struggling with unresolved trauma from my concussions and being harmed by the antipsychotic that gave me a neurological involuntary movement disorder. I've been living with the movement disorder for a decade but I still get incredibly anxious when I need to take any new medication, as I wont know if it is going to be a drug that makes my symptoms worse, as I've had horrible adverse effects and reactions to seemingly innocuous substances like antifungal creams, artificial sweeteners, and even calcium vitamin pills.

I guess I've got a form of chronic anxiety but it's one that can't really be treated properly as I'm always going to be extra sensitive to medication now.

It's the helplessness and anger at my health (and the GP who prescribed the medication) that is always there 😞💔😭

Not sure if this of use to you but there is an organisation called Cardiac Risk in the Young. I hope you get things sorted soon.

To add to that, my husband has cardiomyopathy and my children have heart scans every two years. No issues at all, GP was told to do referrals by DH’s specialist team.

Don't be afraid to ask her new school if they have any items of uniform which have been in lost property and hasn't been picked up, also Facebook market place, someone local to you may well be selling uniform cheaper as it's no longer required, as long as it's in good condition this could be an option for you.

My biggest problem at the moment is nowhere near as bad as some I've read, but it's that my dp vetoes everything I suggest.

I know the no trumps the yes but it's every fucking time I suggest something and it's really starting to make me frustrated and questioning my relationship.

Autisic children, ex who cheated and now im going through a divorce, dad has cancer, mum is mad, im going through all sorts of tests for a variety of health issues. Menopausal, money worries, working full time.

Thankyou and I'm so sorry you are also supporting someone with the same issues. I took DB into my home too, before he got a HA flat, and it was exhausting. I just did a little research on Al Anon and will make contact tomorrow. Thank you so much for that, really really helpful. You just know its not going to end well, don't you? Horribly sad and destructive.

My heart goes out to everyone who has posted and I wish you all love, strength and hope.

Waiting for outcome of voluntary redundancy application....