To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

[naturalcrackle111]

New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Chronic invisible illness and pain. Very close relative with alzeihmers and not sure how long they have left and we live in a different country, thankfully both UK but factor busy jobs two children under 6 it's difficult to navigate.

Sorry to see everyone else's troubles.

This is a heartbreaking thread. I'm so sorry. All of you deserve so much better.

I am up to my eye balls in debt. Massively so. .a single parent who works full time in a very demanding job (good money. But as a single parent it's ways below average household income). I don't have enough money to see me through to Monday. I am seriously stressing. Credit card is maxed out and been stopped. eldest DD is autistic and she will spiral if I take away or stop her hobby (which has caused most of the debt) and I'm totally conflicted. I literally can't afford to buy food. I will get by! We will eat the content of the cupboards. But even they are not full anymore! I hate being on my own as I don't get the opportunity to share the burden of this.. both financially but also the stress of it all!

Plus my chronic health condition is getting much worse but I am ignoring it. Have been for at least a decade and I'm starting to feel it niggle. My blood pressure is through the roof. Also been ignoring that for over 6 months. When I say chronic-it is life threatening.

So I just need a mega rich partner who like middle aged, fat, depressed, skint with no way out other than a bloke (fucking hell!) to help me. It is a fucking bloke that caused all this! I mean on a day to day basis I am over the horrific year that he cheated and left me with an micro preemie (29 weeker and under 2lbs) and an autistic 4 year old. But honestly, I'll never get over that. I have learnt that I am strong and resilient. But I'm now still in a fucking mess. He deserves a fuck load of pain.. when is that going to happen??? Cunt married the other woman and holidays multiple times a year. Bahamas last year!

The things that make it worth while? My amazing daughters. Immensely proud. They've both achieved more than the majority (they have. That's not me being a twat! They are European finalists in their sport!). They have their own health battles but even though we spend a lot of time sniping at each other, we are extremely close.

I'm worried now they are older, their dad's money means more than my sacrifices. I see signs. And that is breaking me.

Sorry this was for @MaMisled

DD aged 13 self-harming and suicidal.

How incredibly shockingly awful for you but amazing that you’ve come through. You’ve survived so much. I’m glad you have peace at last

My Mum has been diagnosed with dementia and I am getting kicked out of my home with nowhere to go and I am thousands of pounds in debt.

I’ve got a lump in my boob and a hospital appointment about it tomorrow.
I’m stressed to the max and expecting the worst

worried about a close friend who is going through addiction and homelessness and won't seek the correct avenues of support.

worried about dd (6) who is being home educated and i'm trying to apply for an EHCP but ran out of mental gas to find evidence and send that off.

also trying to navigate the PIP appeals process and find evidence for that. i have a chronic illness. impossible to get a doctor's appointment at the moment to gather evidence for me or DD.

spending every penny i have on driving lessons and saving for a car asap, as dd started trying to throw herself into traffic when overstimulated at bus stops.

all my loves, exercise, healthy eating and hobbies are being neglected for the mental load at the moment. spend a lot of time staring into space whilst DD watches youtube kids.

live in social housing after being homeless so that means i'm in a place where i have no family and it's very hard to form friendships with my situation. isolation is not helping my past traumas from staying out of my mind.

i want to give up on all of it and turn my house into a commune, but i've tried house sharing with people before and it never worked out.

Developed severe tinnitus after an ear infection 10 weeks ago.
Havent slept well since.
Now losing all my hair from the stress.
Had to leave work to try and manage it all. No idea how to accept the noise for the rest of my life.

Oh And now my lower molar is starting to ache. It has a large filling in it already. Dreading the dentist/drill - no of course it’s on the same side as my tinnitus. Might just get it pulled instead as I think a root canal will likely fail.

I've been retired since 2012 and I understand how you feel MidlandBlue. A couple of years ago I attended an open day for a charity that I was interested in and decided to volunteer for them. It helped me to see how fortunate I am. (the charity supports people with disabilities) I have met lots of people with different outlooks and life experiences. My IT skills have improved and I'm so much more confident in general. The charity puts on social events and really values and encourages it's volunteers. When you feel valued, your life gains purpose. If there's a charity you'd like to support near where you live, perhaps volunteering might help.
Good luck! 💐

good luck for tomorrow, I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

I hate my job and have wanted to leave for over a year.

Shelling out 2.5K to incompetent rude roofers to fix an issue leading to water leaking through my ceiling even it rains heavily.

Otherwise I can't complain. I've had a hard life at times, this is comparatively easy, albeit stressful.

@naturalcrackle111thank you that’s really kind. And brought tears to my eyes

Same as always, fighting a shitty disease thst is taking my ability to walk.

So sorry to hear of all of your problems. After reading the first couple of pages mine pale into insignificance. I wish all of you the very best and hope you are able to get through these tough times x

Perhaps a happy thread alongside it asking what's making you happy at the moment would be a good balance. People do tend to.opt for negativity.

Not wise, you have no idea who anyone is on here, or what they are saying is the truth.

I am so sorry you are going through this. If it were at all possible, I would give you a hug.

I cant imagine how hard this is for you and I hope you have a good support network around you. ❤️

Have gone freelance but am getting very little work. Missing my former colleagues.

One reason for both is my terrible social anxiety due to CPTSD which means I have very few friends and struggle to make phone calls, get routine domestic maintenance done, go to the dentist, take care of/arrange to get my car fixed...It affects everything.

I'm unbearably lonely and can't see a way to change it. Meds and therapy have not helped.

I’m in the same situation and utterly depressed and anxious

I’m being bullied

im 45….

cant believe it’s happening again.

Ds who is 20 is dating a woman the same age who is on benefits plus PIP owing to her bipolar. Whereas unfortunate for her to be on PIP her life is going nowhere and ds is getting on fine in life. Busy with his fulltime job car plus savings. She is not currently on meds has let her meds run out. I am concerned her deadbeat attitude will rub off on him. We talk every day are very chummy as I am a single parent and have always been close. She uses class A drugs occasionally as self medicates. Dragged up person wrong background Awful family history. Her 2 half sisters are in foster care. Sorry this is so long. He now takes cannabis every day though not at home as I do not allow. He was only having twice weekly before with a mate.

Cant get over my father's death. I just want him back, how he was.

Dear @Welikebeingcosy
im so sorry to read your post. I understand so much feels overwhelming but maybe you can start to make a difference with very small steps otherwise you will feel worse and worse.

Maybe you can try and make yourself do the following …
….. try and do an exercise video on YouTube- yoga or HIIT. Maybe one with your DD in morning and yoga when she’s sleeping? start today - one foot in front of the other - just do it!
….Can you walk to your DRs surgery and ask in person the best way to get an appointment? Mine always tell me exactly when they’re being released or have some emergency ones and book me when I’m actually in there. Try and walk with your DD - can you cajole her make a game of it ?

….Im not religious but can you go to Church? pick a family friendly one near you? People in church are usually friendly, it’s a change of scene, take a deep breath and just try it?

…and finally can you cook? Do you have access to a kitchen? If so, start off picking up some veggies on sale tins of tomatoes and make the odd simple meal. I believe what you put inside helps your health and mind and it may also help your DD either to chop or prep with you. Give some structure …

Just set yourself these little goals and really push yourself to do them - and hopefully they will make a little difference xx