To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

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New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Recurrent miscarriage & the worry of if we’ll ever be parents

My son is struggling with his MH and has started self harming…

my mum is about to be diagnosed with dementia.

Have you double checked you can't get UC?

I work in this area. Honestly sometimes starting off with a gentler transition to FE on a lower level course can be the best thing to do. You don't need ANY qualifications for many college courses. Our students have an amazing time and go on to do brilliant things, right for them, but just at a slower pace than their peers. Sorry to detail the thread but it breaks my heart to hear that you are so worried.

Caring with mother with dementia. Sometimes we have fun. I need to try and encourage her to accept going into a home. She believes she still does her own shopping, deals with everything but she can't go out on her own and can't remember much or follow simple conversations. It's just sad.

Gosh what a sad tbread. Wishing all well 🙏

My sympathies! My dog had an undiagnosed chicken allergy that suddenly got worse - how I found out was he shat his way through the house in the middle of the night and was so upset about it, he paced, and paced, and paced... I woke up around 4am to panting and pacing to what looked like a scene from a slasher horror movie... in sepia. He'd even managed to poo down under the floorboards through a tiny hole!

I laugh about it now but it was honestly horrific. I hope your dog feels better soon and you manage to get the smell out - that was the worst.

This is a 1st world problem compared to a lot of people. I hope life will become a little easier for you.
My biggest life problem is being a mature student, keeping on top of DD's activities, cleaning making sure DH is all okay, childcare all covered as we don't get much help from family (DH is an amazing dad and hubby).
Money is really tight some months, and i'm trying to do as many bank shifts as possible whilst having enough time to study and attending placement hours.
Im quite anxious about tomorrow's exam and im pondering about thinking is everything ive worked my absolute ass off for the last 2.5 years going to be worth it.
Everything feels a little heavy but I know deep down i'm in a privilaged position.

Son with SEN not working, using cannabis and coming home late every day

Packing up my late mum's house as completion is in 2 weeks. Heartbreaking. I miss her so much. I feel so alone in the world without her.

Same.

Do it, I did, best thing I ever did. Absolutely no drama for the last 12 months. Bliss

My lovely, supportive and socially/environmentally important job is going to see me penniless in old age. I don’t know what to do for the best-choose health and happiness now or make sacrifices now-big ones-to change to a career that might still end up doing me more harm than good. I’ve been going round in circles for years.

Also my boyfriend is a bit tricky to communicate with sometimes.

I know how bloody lucky I am. Sorry to everyone who’s got it so much harder x

@wheniwasyoungersomuchyounger can you tell us more about this. I may be able to support

My abusive DH

Not minimising what you're going through because I have been on SSRI for 20 years with ups and downs. Is it possible that you need to adjust treatment? Sometimes I have to up to 4×75 mg venlafaxine whereas for years I've been on 2×75 mg.

Also wanted to add that exercice really helps. Even when I have 0 energy I force myself to swim or walk in the morning. It doesn't make me happy but it makes the rest of the day a bit easier to get through. Reading good books (subjective) is a really good way to go in to another universe/person.

There is no "magical solution" but try to find things that help you even a little bit. Without medication I wouldn't be here today so I hope you're open to that if the psychiatrist prescribes it. I was so ill that I could hardly move, stopped eating, couldn't read because my vision blurred. Was terrified of even sticking my nose outside the door and the SSRI was/is like a crutch to be able to live an almost "normal" life. I wish you all the best 💐

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It’s the professional reputation that holds more value than the pay increase.

I’m in the Civil Service, but also a qualified/Chartered professional, and as a young woman, this promotion represents a significant achievement - what has taken me just a few years took my (male) boss over two decades to reach.

All that, for a £5k bump and a new job title. 🤷🏽‍♀️

My partner is a senior civil servant, so money isn’t really a concern. Thankfully childcare is in hand. So ultimately, it comes down to whether I can be bothered with the 30 minute commute each way. I have a nice car, so it really shouldn’t be a problem.

@ASheepNamedBagelthat is a frustratingly small amount of recognition, but 30 minutes in a nice car is 30 mins of a podcast or audible and probably worthwhile! Congratulations!!

I am so so sorry for your loss 😞

I'm having to give up my foster placement because I just can't work with his dreadful school.and mo option to move him.

Backpain.
Sister and brother-in-law shouting at my little nephew.

I have the very same problem with my Son. Its so so stressful. I feel your pain.

Thanks, but yeah I've checked a few times. Because my youngest is starting uni in September I'm not entitled to anything.