To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment

[naturalcrackle111]

New bathroom needed
dh needs a car

Reading this thread helped put things in perspective for me though and so much to be grateful for. Im so sorry that so many are dealing with such challenges, particularly the health worries and loss of loved ones. Sending compassion, love and hugs.

This is nothing compared to many replies, but..... Just spoken to dd who has said if she fails her exam resit on Friday, she won't carry on yr 2 at uni....She failed her exam by 1 mark, 1 mark and she's going to throw it all away if she fails this exam 😢
On top of that, myself and husband are on holiday in Tenerife and have had a beautiful relaxed 1st wk, on our 2nd wk now and had to endure cannabis smokers as our neighbours and so not been able to sit on our balcony or have balcony door open for 6 days, wake up this morning to find they have checked out so have had a lovely day chilling, eating and relaxing on the balcony to then have a bunch of lads check in to the apartment next to us half an hour ago, much whooping, cheering and shouting currently going on 😮‍💨 This is our 2nd time staying at this resort and never had a problem the 1st time we stayed.

Been fighting the exdh for maintenance for 5 years now. Uc payments just been cut, and we dont have money for food or bills till I get paid end of July.

I have a (paid) job, which I love, with a charity. Our funding has been cut and as a cost-saving measure they aren't filling vacancies, which means I still work the same hours, but in more different places and I can't provide as good a service in the original place. And if I'm on leave there's no- one to cover for me. My gut feeling is that eventually (but maybe in 2-3 years) I'll be made redundant, but I'm approaching retirement age anyway and have savings that could tide me over - the real worry is the effect on the users and how it makes our organisation look. I'm always steeling myself for someone to have a moan about something I just can't change.

I’m 29 weeks pregnant and my job was eliminated last week. My severance pay is shit, and I have no idea how I’m meant to look for work in this condition - no one will hire me, if I even managed to make it to an interview. I’ve been going between panic and dissociation ever since I got the news.

On top of that, I fell yesterday and think I may have sprained my wrist, but being pregnant I can’t take anything for it.

ASD/ADHD burnout, not coping with work, things are getting messier and more complicated by the day and I don’t know what’s going to happen. Feel trapped and want to leave but no motivation and no idea what job I might enjoy.
I have debts I can never seem to clear.
Close friend died recently and don’t really have anyone to talk to about it.
There’s good stuff in my life as well but things feel heavy right now.

I am not telling you to use chat gpt to write your essay. But it can help with structure, checking your work, word counts, what type of thing to include and things like that.

We've been trying for a baby for 2 years. We have had exactly one positive test that ended in a miscarriage at 10 weeks.

Ooh it's a toss up between -

• sleeping terribly/anxious wake-ups maybe peri menopause related?
• parenting 3 complicated girls by myself, current biggest worry is moody and withdrawn 14yo.

Finishing my anesthetic training in a few months, no finances for a consultant job. Mortgage is about to expire and don't know where will end up

But I realise I am lucky to "only" have these worries currently. I have been through a tough few years with messy divorce but generally feel calm and fortunate

Can you offer to foster cats for cat removing centres? I knew a woman who did this

This made me well up as the mother of an only son. I am so sorry.

Going through family court and abusive/drug addict ex having access to our small child.

I am a retired nurse.
It's from years of lifting and providing physical care.
I started nursing in 1986 years before manual handling guidelines or hoists were introduced.
Even after the first guidelines were introduced in 1992 employers did not enable staff to follow them as there would be no equipment, or no space to use it, or it would be broken and not repaired for months or most often you would be put under pressure not to "waste time" following a safer procedure because there were never enough staff to do the job.
The culture from the top was lip service only but in practice just get on with it at the expense of our own health.
I had my first "bad back" episode at age 21 and it has never been right ever since.
Now I can't stand of sit or walk without aids.
Degenerative disc disease and spine problems in general are extremely common in nurses.
Despite this, because it is most often accumulative rather than due to a specific injury, the NHS never accepts responsibility so getting any sort of compensation is impossible.
There are thousands of disabled nurses no longer able to work.
Yet we are lumped in with the general "lazy scrounger" tag frequently applied to disabled people.
Such fun.

Exactly this.

Getting off MN to go have a shower, just can’t do it.

My mother's finances (and her general health and well-being. It weighs heavily on me, not unlike a weighted blanket. This concern has been a constant for mosst of my life, AFAIK)

Coming to term with how my father treated (and treats) me vs my younger half-brothers. I wish I was over it but witnessing them experiencing support during milestones I didn't receive any comparable support, witnessing how present my father is... Well, it hurts. Deeply. Growing older makes me more and not less aware of that hurt, unfortunately.

My weight (although I am working on it and it's going well!)

Reading this thread has also made me realise that I am (fairly) healthy, in a happy relationship with great friends, a good career and no personal tragedies. So.... There's that. I would like to be a bit more intentional and grateful for my blessings.

My darling dog has just been diagnosed with heart disease, he's 12. I am just so sad as I thought we had years left together, he's the other half of me and I'm not sure I can even begin to imagine life without him. He comes to work with me, sleeps on my bed, and even sits next to me when I use the toilet. My shadow. My best friend. I'm still recovering from losing my Dad to cancer and now this. I know he's just a dog but he's my dog.

It's great that you have such a supportive partner though!

Ive got a hemeroid and my chocolate starfish HURTS

My dad is dying.
Ds starting school in September and I worry he'd get bullied (no reason I just have anxiety)
Worry about the school gate mums and if they don't like me it will affect ds.

Gosh reading this thread has really put my problems into perspective. So so sorry to hear of the awful struggles so many of you are facing. Life can and is very cruel 😥 really hoping for better times for all of you x

Housebound, the list of ailments is boring but not being able to fully control pain is fairly high on the list.

He isn't just a dog, he is your best friend and you are entitled to feel the way you do, as you would about any other friend. I hope treatment can help and give him a good quality of life for however long he has left.

i lost my 13 year old goldie a month ago and grieved/am grieving how I would if he was a human. But I know I gave him a lovely life, I loved him very much and he loved me, and I'm holding on to that and all the lovely memories we have x