To not lend my new car to step daughter and son

[Leo125]

Recently parents bought me a new car lovely little suv paid alot if money, all of a sudden my step daughter wants to speak to me after months of I don't want to play happy family's with you, don't want you to spend time with me and couldn't come up with a reason as to why apparently I have done nothing but just wants to spend time with her dad, absolutely support this and he regularly sees her alone and does activities of her choice all good!

Now all of a sudden she wants to reach out, I'm thinking this is because I have a smaller little runner of a car often comment how she likes it give it to me blah blah, I want to keep it and have no intension of giving it away worth at least 2k and I arnt in a position to afford to do that regardless
Fast forward to point in hand she's now asking dad to go on insurance and take it on a trip a long way they have already planned I have sod blatantly no even with insurance costs which I may add I'd or we would prob be expected to pay they would want to use alot at a guess and I don't want it tbh both young drivers am I just been mean or should I not back down to dp

Sell your old one, you have a brand new one now. Problem solved

Sorry this is your car? Why is your DH allowing her to go on insurance, this isn’t up to them at all. And personally I’d be saying no way.

Sell your old car, your vehicles are not your boyfriends kids business.
He can buy and insure cars for them if he wants.

Which car is she after ?

Is your DH shutting her down or ecouraging her entitlement?

You can have two cars if you want and you get to decide who drives them. It’s a no from me. You reap what you sow, a lesson SC will learn. Will your DH support you?

Why do you want to keep the car if you have another. You’ll have to pay for tax, MOT, insurance, upkeep all whilst not using it?

The longer you leave it the more it will depreciate in value.

Sell the old one. Why on earth would you keep it and pay its mandatory costs????

At first I thought you were probably being unreasonable. DH and I always keep our old ones as spares for the kids when we get new ones every 3/4 years, but that’s because we get a benefit from it. Going out for drinks and want a lift - get a kid to drop you off/pick up😁. Want a lift to the train station - get a kid to run you😁. Want to go to a shop to pick something up quickly in an area you know there is usually limited parking and you drive around for ages to park - get a kid to take you and do laps around the block while you duck in😁. There really is 1001 uses for kids and spare cars that could benefit you HOWEVER, on reading your OP it doesn’t seem like any of this would apply, or you would get a benefit. So, just sell the old car pronto.

It's unclear whether this is a new SUV worth £20k or £2k?
Did you miss off a zero?

Have as many cars as you like, you don’t need to sell one to say no to her. She sounds rude and grabby.

I can't work out how many cars you have but I wouldn't let anyone have anything of mine if they hadn't been respectful to me. And being respectful now that she wants something doesn't count.

Could she afford to buy it outright?

If you put them on your insurance you will suffer if they have an accident. For me they would have to at least take out their own insurance which may be very expensive if they are new drivers. And pay a % of the tax and all fuel and other consumables. Or just sell the car, offer them first refusal to buy it at the going rate if you like.

Does your Dp pay towards your car?? If not why is he in cahoots with DSD on her using your car without your permission. Nip in bud now, get car up for sale in good condition, I wouldn’t trust someone else on a road trip, what if they scuff it etc you’d have to pay to fix before u can sell. Sell it now! Keep the cash.

‘Little’ and ‘suv’ ?

There are many mini cars on higher chassis’s @tanstaafl. Eg the fiesta is now a puma. Toyota Yaris is now a Yaris cross.

I need too cars as dh doesn't work disability and I keep car for work I support us both it's not about money it's about her shitty attitude towards me and now she wants use of a car bought for me by my parents dh and I only been together 4 years dd is 25 and not mine, trys to get everything out her dad possible

Need too cars as disabled partner I work

So your partner can use the old one and you have the new one in your name only.

The correct response to her request is " Ha ha, no, not happening".

Must add they have own old car and two moter bikes is simply wanting a nice suv to take on their trip for a nice drive I don't want them on my insurance it's my excess etc etc etc

1%voted Yabu..
Hello op's dsd.... She can fuck right off surely?

Don't give it a moment of thought, they have access to multiple vehicles and they're not your kids.
It doesn't seem like a really enjoyable relationship on the face of it, do you enjoy funding all these people?

It's your new car, that's even more of a no than your old car. It's laughable that they even asked when they have their own. If you've just bought this car they should have factored in the cost of hiring a car if they needed something bigger or more reliable for their trip.

Tell her to knock it off, it's not happening.

She's only pleasant to you when she wants your car.

Tell your husband you weren't born yesterday and she's not taking your second car anywhere. If she gets in an accident, will it be your insurance that goes up?

Why can't she work and pay for one herself?