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To not lend my new car to step daughter and son

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Leo125 · 13/07/2025 11:26

Recently parents bought me a new car lovely little suv paid alot if money, all of a sudden my step daughter wants to speak to me after months of I don't want to play happy family's with you, don't want you to spend time with me and couldn't come up with a reason as to why apparently I have done nothing but just wants to spend time with her dad, absolutely support this and he regularly sees her alone and does activities of her choice all good!

Now all of a sudden she wants to reach out, I'm thinking this is because I have a smaller little runner of a car often comment how she likes it give it to me blah blah, I want to keep it and have no intension of giving it away worth at least 2k and I arnt in a position to afford to do that regardless
Fast forward to point in hand she's now asking dad to go on insurance and take it on a trip a long way they have already planned I have sod blatantly no even with insurance costs which I may add I'd or we would prob be expected to pay they would want to use alot at a guess and I don't want it tbh both young drivers am I just been mean or should I not back down to dp

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harriethoyle · 13/07/2025 18:30

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While you're busy getting on your high horse about this, @harriethoyle, you've fallen into the trap of being rude yourself. Why make allowances for OP but not for anyone else?

LivMumsnet · 13/07/2025 18:47

Evening.

We're just popping in here to ask for some Peace and Love please.

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Bedknobsandhoovers · 13/07/2025 18:48

If you don’t want them to borrow it - then say no.

If you don’t want to have a discussion about it then say that the insurance is prohibitive/unavailable.

I wanted to insure one of our cars for my daughter and partner. Both 30s.Plenty of experience. Car nothing fancy.

Daughter- teacher- no problem.
Partner - in arts/creative work. Several companies wouldn’t allow her to be added. For any money. (And that’s before I knew she’d got 6 points!)

harriethoyle · 13/07/2025 18:52

Thanks @LivMumsnet - apologies to anyone I’ve offended defending @Leo125 from the tide of piss-taking that was going on.

pinkyredrose · 13/07/2025 19:57

Deathinparadisefan · 13/07/2025 17:47

The bit where you said I was having a pop at the OP, whereas I was responding to another poster’s joke.

Oh I didn't realise!

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