Grannies in the same room, at the same time

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When I was kid, my grandparents were completely separate. I never saw them in the same room as one another, and they never really mentioned each other. There was no animosity, they were just separate.

Then one day both my grandmothers were in the same room, at the same time, and spoke to each other. I forget why but it’s indelibly etched in my psyche. My God, it was like when Pacino and De Niro met on screen for the first time in “Heat”. Like two separate worlds colliding.

Can anyone relate?

My paternal grandma was a cantankerous, difficult and at times thoroughly nasty piece of work. She was never invited to family gatherings involving my mum’s relatives because she was invariably rude and embarrassing.

My Grandmothers were both at my Christening and never in the same room with each other afterwards.

I carried on the tradition, my parents and inlaws met at our wedding and DD’s 1st Birthday. She’s 22 now and has never seen them together.

I don't think my grannies would of ever met

My grandparents lived in two different countries, and they wouldn't have even met when my parents got married because they had two weddings, one in each country as no one would have been able to afford to travel abroad for a wedding (my parents couldn't even afford it, they hitchhiked back to the UK after the Finnish wedding and counted it as their honeymoon) so I definitely can't imagine them in the same room. My maternal grandparents didn't speak English so they wouldn't even have been able to talk to my paternal granny. One of my aunties and her husband did go over to Finland and met the family though.

The last time my GPs met was at my parents wedding. Dad's family were staunch Protestants, Mum's were Catholic. This was not the done thing in Lanarkshire in the early 70s. The wedding photographs are a hoot.

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I’m very fond of the other Nana. We often meet up at family gatherings.

I think my paternal grandmother and my mums parents must have met a fair bit but can't remember entirely. They didn't have loads in common I do remember one granny came to the other's funeral.

My parents and in laws live about 15 mins away from each other and they seem to hang out a fair bit without us now!

the only time I can remember my grandmothers being in the same room was at my wedding . One died before my 2 brothers weddings.
my childrens grandmothers were in the same room a lot . They both lived a few minutes from us and were friends going to pensioners clubs together .

I get what you mean. I never saw mine together. They were very different people but my parents each had very different upbringings.

My Nana and grandma used to take my sister and I out every Saturday together. Take us to the pub, we’d get some food then play in the park. It was great :) I have one memory of a time when my Nana and grandma even came down the slides.
My grandma has passed now and my Nana is 93 and still going strong

Yes, I also have this as a core memory from my 4th birthday party, realising my grans knew each other 😂 I only had my grans, both grandads passed before I was born, so it was very much their world only at their respective homes.

I remember as a child that there was a time both sets of grandparents were coming over and I was really worried they wouldn't like each other. Despite the fact they had obviously met each other before, but little child me couldn't comprehend they had lives before I was born😉

My kids grandparents i.e my parents and OH's parents meet regularly but then again we live in the same city. They get on amazingly well!

I can relate as my grandparents probably never mixed, I know my Dads Mum didnt even go to their wedding 😅Looking back I cant imagine they liked each other very much & it would've felt very weird for them to be in a room together.

However, thankfully my parents and DH's all mix fine (even though my mum and Dad are separated) My mum and MiL call each other occasionally and love to chat when they see each other, they send each other birthday & Christmas cards. I made the conscious decision early on in our relationship for everyone to mix at get togethers and it was none of my business what they all thought of each other. Luckily they are all fairly reasonable people and they all get along fine

I'm not sure I ever saw my grandparents all in the same place. Almost sure it never happened in my lifetime.

Yeah - my grandparents lived a considerable distance apart and we lived closer to my mum's parents and stayed with them quite frequently at weekends when we were kids. My gran taught me lots of skills and although working class was quite educated and was brought up in a city. My other grandma was very different and I didn't really feel any connection with her when we stayed with her infrequently. I don't remember them ever meeting!

I don't think I've ever seen my parents in the same room. Nevermind my Grannies.

My grandparents would see each other at birthdays and Christmas. They would send each other Christmas cards and ask after one another.

At my wedding my son was in the same room as 3 great grandmas, 2 grandmas, one step grandad and one grandad.

I wish we'd got more photos.

My parents and my daughter’s other grandparents met on the ward just after I’d given birth to her. It was very awkward for them all and 30 years later and some growing up I realize I should have handled it much better. I now cringe when I think how inconsiderate I was.

My two grannies actually went on a month long holiday together when I was about 10! They got on quite well, and my maternal granny always sent my paternal granny photos of me and little letters as she looked after me a lot, while my other granny lived further away. It was quite a nice set up they had.

Not at all unusual if you met at, say, university and came from different parts of the country. Not everyone has a wedding and many children aren’t christened. There would be no reason for grandparents to meet.

Your head may explode at this but I never met my DH’s father or any of his side of the family because his parents divorced before I met him.

No tbh my nans met many times and my mum and mil also. I will say it’s almost unbearable to have them both in the room together though; the faff is unbelievable and you cannot get anything done whatsoever.

My grandparents didn’t often meet but I wouldn’t have thought it weird. They just lived in different directions and away from us. My in law and my parents do often come together when we’ve had events for the kids - birthdays, baptisms, new babies.

I was only 5 when one if my grandma's died so never experienced it myself but heard of the delightful poison pen letters sent between them. The joys of being born in the early 70's to a church of England father and a Catholic mother. They were married long before either of us kids were born and both sets of grandparents refused to attend the wedding.

My mum's dad told her she'd made her bed, they were married just short of 55 years though.

I’m a Granny and DH and I go on holiday (cruises) at least once a year with the other set of grandparents. In between the cruises we have ‘champagne and fish and chips’ evenings at each other’s houses. So we see quite a lot of each other, much to the amusement of our children!