A polite reminder from the OP to everyone:
This is Thread 5 and we'd got this far together without needing to be policed at all by MNHQ and with little to no deletions. What very few deletions there have been have been requested between ourselves and the thread has moved on, amicably and with increased understanding about what is and isn't acceptable on here. We've worked together to keep posts reasonable and debate civil for over 4500 posts and that has been pretty amazing. Well done and thank you to all the very many - the vast majority of - pps who have made it that way.
It was therefore disappointing - there is that word again! - to come back and find PMs from concerned posters, to also learn that some posters had understandably found it necessary to report some pps to MNHQ, and that @BeckyAMumsnet had subsequently decided she needed to fire a shot across the bows of the thread.
It is a minority of posters crossing the line. Before posting, in future please make sure you engage brain, read and remember the warning shot from Becky, and consider whether what you are posting is reasonable and in the spirit of the thread. That way the thread can continue for everyone and you will also be welcome on it. Let's not bother MNHQ again.
NB Please be careful when it comes to naming or implicating people who aren't in the public eye or have no connection to the story, especially where details are unclear or still emerging i.e. DON'T DO IT.
Keep on the path. No more saltiness. Thank you.