Instances where you’ve been the cheeky fucker

[NebulousWhistler]

I’m ashamed to say that I was a cheeky fucker last week.

Son finished up in Y6 and most of the year headed to the park with parents. I was working so went to pick up but couldn’t go to the park so he asked if he could go to the park with the rest of his year/parents which I agreed to.
Got busy at work so forgot the time but knew someone else’s mum would just take him to their house until I eventually was able to leave work (wfh). The other mum didn’t mind at all, (not that I left her much choice really) but it was very entitled of me to assume that someone would look after him. I am rarely this parent but I fell short on this occasion and recognised my CF behaviour immediately.

Aibu to ask you to make me feel better with your own tales of cheeky fuckery?

This thread was always going to be a bun fight!

It is like playground bragging about how you were an arse and asking others to share their stories about taking advantage of others, but thinking the word ‘lighthearted’ will somehow make things better!

I don’t think the OP behaved terribly, especially as it was a one off, but it was just rude and neither funny nor clever. Fine to do it the once, less fine to start a thread about it with the subtext of ‘haha, that was really funny’!

Thank her perhaps buy her some flowers or bottle of wine to show her how much you appreciate it.

I don’t think it was CF. I think op has a ‘village’ around her helping with her child, her child trusts the other parent.
When you have people you rely on/ who can rely on you, no one is being/feeling used for having a child over.

The comments on the thread just show how insulated, untrusting, and selfish our modern ‘communities’ are.

I never fill up my windscreen washer in the car because I know the next time DP drives it he'll get annoyed and fill it up for me! He gets to feel helpful and a bit superior and I don't have to get my hands dirty opening the bonnet, so it's win-win.

That’s exactly it. I’m lucky in the sense that we are a village. I know all the mums well and they us. No one, not one, would leave one of our children there alone. They’d look around and check. Every child would get scooped up.
If I wasn’t part of that community I’d never have done it;
my CFery is because I took advantage of the fact that I know with 99% certainly that he wouldn’t get left. And if that 1% happened, well, he’s 11.5 and a sensible chile; he knows where we live and could have walked.

Maybe I’m luckier than some on this thread that we do have this lovely community around us.

I know this makes me sound like I lived under a rock for 30 years and my mother for 66 years but I went to a wedding in Italy (English couple) and my mum lent me her ivory lace, drop-waist twenties style dress. Nodody saud anything negative but I have since wondered whether a couple of complements I received were making a point. I didn’t know this was an absolute no and nor did my mother. I mean it wasn’t long or anything but it was ivory or cream lace.

Or he could've just walked home. He's not a toddler

Because it wasn't agreed or planned. She just forgot. Child didn't know the plan, and we don't know how far it was. Presumably child was waiting around for her to arrive and she didn't, so another parent took him home. Sounds pretty neglectful to me. Totally different to planning in advance that he makes his way home along a route he has done before.

So you didn't forget, you just didn't bother?

Agreed, by year 6 they've known these other children and parent since they were 4 years old in most cases.

Some MNetters don't like community though and that's why they have no support network and cry when someone knocks on their door

Maybe because he wanted to hang out with his friend? It's really not that a big a deal for most people

This isn’t CF it’s child neglect!!! Seriously if I’d been the other parent I’d have called social services on you by now!

Christ 😳🤣

For what?

My only thought would be that the last day of primary school is quite a big thing and I would have wanted to be there. Most people arrange work/other stuff so at least one parent can pick up on that last day.

I wouldn’t have minded this one bit OP I never mind having my DC’s friends round and I don’t think it’s CF behaviour with a child that age, they don’t need looking after. It’s certainly not neglect.

Why couldn’t you buy him a happy meal yourself? 🤔

They weren't in McDonald's at the time so pp would've had to leave her young child at the party. It's in the post

I'm assuming the poster meant after having finished playing in the park in which the OPer left the DC.

It sounds from the up date it would have been safe for the DC to walk home.

After playing, obviously. Just walked home when everyone else left, no need to be taken by someone. But probably enjoyed the chance to carry on playing at his friend's house. But in any case, no big deal at all.

Yes I get that. But maybe an 11 years old decision wasn't based on 'i'd he safe to walk home now', maybe it was based on 'i'm having fun and can go to Jonny's house to carry on playing'

I don't see how this is CFery from your ds unless he asked the parents for a meal?

The OP scenario reads fine to me - this sort of situation is totally acceptable with the lovely parents in my dc class. We are all there for each other and all of our kids as part of a community.

The only time I would raise eyebrows is where someone is continually relying on others for no good reason and not reciprocating.

My own CF moment was taking a younger dc to a play barn type party and the parents felt obliged to include my younger dc in the party. Said dc was ridiculously fussy and ate practically nothing so it was a waste of their money.
I still feel guilty now and he’s 16🤣🤣

Our neighbour did that! I gave it to her thinking, what’s the harm? DH told me off 😬.

Maybe I have been? But it’s not a concept I recognise-on Mumsnet it seems just to mean the give and take that keeps society moving. I help you-you help me.I can’t imagine circumstances where I would have a problem with doing what you asked. Mumsnet seems to equate doing anyone a favour with donating a kidney!