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To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

502 replies

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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maddiemookins16mum · 09/07/2025 20:50

Does the bird have a name?

SleepyOtter · 09/07/2025 20:50

Groundhedgehogday · 09/07/2025 16:51

many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair.

Other staff members are also hand rearing birds? Where do you work?!

This really made me laugh 😂

m00ngirl · 09/07/2025 20:50

Lesina · 09/07/2025 20:44

Keep feeding the bird and advise your bosses they are psychopaths. Hit up social media. Feed the bird. You are a star ⭐️

Totally agree. People like you give me faith in humanity. Thank you for looking after this little bird. If what he is giving you in return is an insight into the psychos you work with, and that takes you to a better job, he may be doing you a favour too. The universe works in mysterious ways!

twilightermummy · 09/07/2025 20:51

LaudCodec · 09/07/2025 20:09

Is this thread actually happening or am I having some kind of episode?

Pahahaha! 😂

I actually love this thread. Love the cute picture, love the crazy op.

ChateauMargaux · 09/07/2025 20:52

Have you read 'Featherhood' or 'Penguin Bloom'?

(sorry if someone else has asked this..

Whatwouldnanado · 09/07/2025 20:52

You are a complete star and this thread should be moved to classics. Your colleagues sound a miserable bunch. As previous poster said the baby should be ok left with food and water. What’s his name? Updates on his progress please!

1984Winston · 09/07/2025 20:55

I used to work in a vets but all the ones I worked at were fine with this sort of thing, it's part and parcel with working in a vets (currently sat with my 7 year old hand rear cat that never left!) They are being ridiculous

Glitchymn1 · 09/07/2025 20:57

What a ‘fantastic vet’. Not somewhere I’d be taking my pet!

Cute bird- well done for caring OP. I hope you can save the bird and your job.

andweallsingalong · 09/07/2025 20:57

Totally off topic, but you brought back memories of early high school when one of the boys in my class was an expert in rescuing birds and would occasionally come in with a very tiny baby bird in his inside blazer pocket because it couldn't be left alone through the day.

No idea whether the teachers turned a blind eye or were oblivious.

Reallyneedsaholiday · 09/07/2025 20:59

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:33

Also, just for information, at our sister branch two members of staff are also raising birds. One has a crow and the other has 2 gulls. I'm not sure where the birds are when they're on shift.
Another staff member was raising a pigeon but it sadly died.

Could you ask your sister vets if they could take the bird, if they’ve got a history of doing similar?

AlexisP90 · 09/07/2025 21:02

I definitely wasn't expecting this when I saw the title of this thread...

AlexisP90 · 09/07/2025 21:03

I get where you're coming from OP but you could lose your job over this. I would try and get a friend/relative/other sanctuary of some kind to take the bird

Butchyrestingface · 09/07/2025 21:03

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:14

This is him/her. Baby magpie.

Fuck it, OP. I'm on your side. Do not let Mauricio the Magpie die.

MysteryNameChange · 09/07/2025 21:04

This is the best thread turnaround ever, he/she is absolutely lovely.

Cattenberg · 09/07/2025 21:04

Glitchymn1 · 09/07/2025 20:57

What a ‘fantastic vet’. Not somewhere I’d be taking my pet!

Cute bird- well done for caring OP. I hope you can save the bird and your job.

Agreed.

In the town where I used to live, a local vet practice built a prosthetic beak for a wild duck who'd lost most of his. Now, that's the sort of place I'd trust with my animals (and I did).

Limehawkmoth · 09/07/2025 21:08

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:44

Well 'the thing' is so outing but it's not dangerous and doesn't include any skiving.

It's also through work that I'm doing it in the first place.

Why have you not explained this to management to get them to make changes so you don’t have to do something you’re not supposed to and get bollocked for if there is no other way

god that’s a long sentence .

KrisAkabusi · 09/07/2025 21:11

DressOrSkirt · 09/07/2025 19:15

Now I know what the thing is I've changed my vote to YANBU. If I knew my vet was telling off a staff member for this I would be changing vets!

Even though she's putting any other bird and possibly other pets at risk too? Would you bring your pet to a vet where you knew staff were ignoring quarantine and biosecurity rules?

Winter2020 · 09/07/2025 21:15

Could you give your son a few quid to feed the bird? Set alarms on his mobile phone for feed times.

Jb2182 · 09/07/2025 21:18

MysteryNameChange · 09/07/2025 21:04

This is the best thread turnaround ever, he/she is absolutely lovely.

I came on to say the same thing. I genuinely thought you were going to say you'd been giving out free drinks to friends or something but this is amazing 😍 he's gorgeous!

Crazymayfly · 09/07/2025 21:24

Crikey - I thought you’d been stealing food whilst working at a supermarket and was set to say please stop. But this? You work at a vets for gods sake have your bosses no empathy to animals that need care? If you were at my vets I’d be bringing you chics to say thanks for being so lovely!

Absolute bellends your bosses are. Can you make a post on SM to raise awareness and put progress updates on (if do that when you’ve finished work). I bet it would be popular and good for business.

Your bosses - and any colleagues that have moaned about it - and total knob cheese!

I say keep on feeding!

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/07/2025 21:25

I would ask them what bird flu protocols they'd accept, and that you had assumed they were cool with this given it was THEM who handed you the bird to look after and they should reasonably understand what that actually entails!

Also I am extremely very jealous as I have always wanted a magpie (I realise hand rearing one should not mean it is a pet as the goal should be to re-wild, but shh, I can dream of a friendly, convenient, tidy, non-destructive corvid buddy).

BeesTreesSeas · 09/07/2025 21:26

Groundhedgehogday · 09/07/2025 16:51

many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair.

Other staff members are also hand rearing birds? Where do you work?!

This tipped me over the edge 😂

Topsyturvy78 · 09/07/2025 21:27

Is there no bird rescues that can take the bird? I know our local rescues get overrun with chicks at this time of year. Especially baby gull's the parents are most likely close by but gone looking for food. A friend of mine found a gull chicken in her garden. She provided shelter and water and left it alone to see if the mum was about. She was coming to check on the chick and feed it. But it had fallen out of it's nest and too young to fly. Mum had other chicks in the nest.

Grammarnut · 09/07/2025 21:29

Tell your manager. Can't you bring the bird in?

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/07/2025 21:30

Also how old is he now... I think you may find he is keener to feed himself if you drop back to every two or even three hours, as long as he's getting six to eight good feeds a day - in the wild, he'd get fed when Mum or Dad could be arsed with that level of feathering and the random/sporadic nature of the feeding encourages following about and eventually, flying, and trying to eat stuff (with comedic effect like opening beak at a food item and expecting it to hop in there...).