Worried about Dd being ginger in the uk

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Redhead, Golden haired…

We are moving back to the uk next year. Dd was born in the country we’re currently living in. The majority of people are dark haired, brown eyes and tanned skin.
Dd is reddy gold hair, blue eyes and fair skin. She gets attention everywhere she goes about her hair and eyes, people compliment her a lot and are very gushing about her looks, it’s lovely

My impression is that this is very different in the uk and cruelly this is used as an insult almost, is this still the case? The thought of it is heartbreaking

My kids are ginger. Y7-9 DD got grief for being an effing ginger cnut. It tailed off later.
Ds learned to fight in y6 when people were rude about his hair but is v sick of people wanting photos with Ron Weasley.

There are loads of red heads in the school so I don't think mine are singled out. I think it's just an anti-ginger thing.
I calmly shredded a friend of dds recently when he made a ginger comment. He's a nice kid too. He won't do it again.

Red hair is considered lovely and very attractive by most people: she’ll be fine!

My husband has very dark hair and so do I.

When I was pregnant, a friend gleefully warned me that ‘2 dark haired parents can make a ginger!’ like that was some sort of disaster. I thought it was so rude.

snorts That is an outdated stereotype that belongs back in the Nineties and early Noughties, and even then, redheaded girls were sought after. It was boys that were teased for being ginger and even that has mostly gone now.

I’m sorry you still believe such awful generalisations about our country.

Because I know how shitty people can be just because someone has ginger hair and I don’t fancy my child getting bullied and made to feel like crap…!

I’ll second this
may be lovely but often can be exhausting for a young person to be repeatedly commented on by strangers, in relation to appearance. It can make them feel as if they have to constantly maintain an appearance to be palatable to society…but on the flip side can just be nice and boost confidence..never know how these things will manifest.

as an aside, yes lots of racism and comments to children as above.

See..I don’t find that funny 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think it's a thing anymore, it was for a moment in time, schools in the 1980/90s but not now

I know people have picked up on the "fawning" comment. My daughter was always "fawned" over back in the country she grew up in for her looks. When she was younger it didnt seem like an issue but as she has grown up it has made her very self consious and she hates attention. Back in the uk now it seems much healthier despite there being the potential to be picked on for being slightly different. We have had no issues though. I think likely your daughter will be fine, but of course could face issues anywhere for any reason. I hate to say it but i agree with other posters thatvit seems to be the boys who get horrible comments.

My dh was very ginger as a child & adult (he's now white) & doesn't seem to have suffered. Both dc are a dark ginger, but the ginger becomes more prominent in the summer. They were never teased throughout their school days in the 00's & 10's. I think it comes from dh Scottish & my Irish roots. I was born with ginger hair & 'm very proud of my ginger family!

Ginger here!

Never really had much shit for it, but then I'm not very easily offended. I think if you show weakness and get upset if people say anything then it will cause problems, as then they see it as a way to wind you up. My daughter is massively ginger too and she gets no trouble at school for it and she is in Senior school now. Get your kid armed with a repertoire of return insults and let them get on with it. 😁 Don't make too much fuss either.

I am as ginger as you can get and my only bully is the sun. And maybe my older brothers. 🤣
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Yes I agree with this, my DD has her dads orangey ginger hair and is commented on everywhere we go, every day, I did once snap at a woman who was particularly fawning that ‘yes, sometimes white people have ginger hair, it doesn’t need to be pointed out constantly’ I was in a bad mood that day but I think people don’t really understand when they think they’re giving a compliment but what the other person hears is ‘you look different to everyone else and I’m another person pointing it out’.

erm not sure how long you’ve been away for but def not an issue in the slightest in UK. racists are fixated on dark skin / foreigners instead these days.

I also have a daughter with golden red hair, fair skin and blue eyes and she's not been teased about it through primary school (her year has at least 4 redheaded kids). We've always told her how lucky she is to have such beautiful coloured hair, and seperately we talk about how people can be unkind and pick on anything that stands out (not just hair related) and the reasons behind it etc, so hopefully if anyone does she'll tell them to shove it/ignore them. I also had red hair, occassionally I'd get called ginger but it never bothered me, and noone took the piss about the colour of my pubic hair!

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This is my son. He’s one of the three out of 4 kids that I have that are ginger (good genes 🤷‍♀️🤣). He gets nothing other than a bit of gentle ribbing from his mates currently about needing to stay in the shade due to current weather. My DD also ginger got the odd comment but nothing huge. Other ginger DS nicknamed himself the ginger ninja at school before anyone else could-so again other boy banter about needing to stay out the sun from his mates he’s not been bothered by his hair colour.

My daughter has red hair, she gets compliments about it. We’re in the UK.

It hasn’t been what I’ve seen of the experience of red haired children at my children’s school. Or when I was at school.

Unfortunately kids will always find something to pick on others for. I used to get called “p*ki” because I’ve got dark hair and olive skin, despite being Caucasian.

I am pale, freckly and have red hair…as does my son. I can only say I have NEVER been bullied or even had a comment regarding any of that negatively, even when I was little (live in Scotland of that changes anything)

My son has had one comment (he’s 7) where someone called him ginge…he is 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s not an insult! We are bringing him up to
embrace it and his freckles and hair colour are unique! I hated my hair when I was younger and wish now I didn’t ruin it with hair dye for the last 20 odd years!

DS is a redhead. We’re in Scotland so fairly common he’s had the odd ginger comment but he’s pretty proud of his, Scottish/ Irish roots and his fellow ginge (fox red Labrador). Mainly women give him compliments and say they spent a fortune trying to dye their hair that colour.

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my DSis is an auburn-redhead and I have two girls with gingery hair. Their experiences at school were worlds apart - DSis definitely suffered from a running commentary on her hair colour, whereas DDs have never had anyone say anything about it except to comment what a lovely colour it is.

Things have changed a LOT in the last 25 years in that sense, I really wouldn’t worry about it too much.

My impression is that this is very different in the uk and cruelly this is used as an insult almost, is this still the case? The thought of it is heartbreaking

Meghan, ask your husband not us. You'll be better off staying where you are.

My red haired niece was spotted by a modelling scout. Her mum said no to the opportunity - she was 14yo at the time. Shes just qualified as an accountant. I dont think she had any issues.

My nephew has red hair. He's never said he had any issues either. He was a real boys boy though massively good at sports so I suspect that helped.

Years ago people used to insult those with red hair, but I honestly think it's a sign of beauty.

I'm a redhead. I've never had anything but compliments about it. More tedious is the assumption that I'm 'fiery'

Jeez. That’s a vastly definitive comment. You have red hair and have visited every city town & village in the UK, is that right?

I’m pretty sure in second half of the 20th century some people managed to be foul to those of different races (no blacks, no Irish) as well as people with red hair. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. Quite the opposite Id imagine in some cases.