To ask what gives you the rage that probably shouldn't

[Tearsinheavens]

For me it's when I'm sleeping in, maybe at the weekend or if I've worked a late shift and I hear cars going past in the morning around 8am and they are blasting music. It gives me a desire to want to slap them. I know they are well within their rights to do so, and therefore I am being unreasonable but I am just convinced they are annoying people inside 🤣 I'm not a morning person. Obviously.

People on buses/ walking dogs/ pushing prams having long loud conversations on their phones. People on buses etc watching films on their phones with the sound turned up. FFS, i was in a cathedral yesterday and there was a middle-aged bloke sitting there watching a noisy film on his phone!!! I just want to hurl their phones with great force into the nearest river.

@mediummumma

Please may I ask, what exactly is wrong with headphones in public?

After the rush of the school drop off I have a walk to the train station and then a long commute.

I put my headphones on because that is time for me to prepare for the day and / or decompress if it's the walk to return home. In the morning I listen to a prayer teaching or meditation. Or music.

I don't want to hear -

People taking calls on speakerphone at max volume on the bus
People having long and loud conversations in the quiet train carriage
People trying to show off about how big and important their job is (usually men) and all their meeting and action points for an hour and a half
I don't want to hear all the swearing that goes on these days - even standing at the bus stop people seem to think it's fine to use really vulgar, swear-y language in front of other people.

In the evening walking home I listen to my preferred music or a podcast as when I get home it's straight into dinner bath and bed and my kids will be on Siri playing their "tunes" and when my husband gets in he will put the tv on and monopolise the channel choice.

My headphones are my way to carve out some time to actually listen to and engage with things that interest me and don't grate on me.

I always take them off when I am in a shop or speaking to someone eg bus / train driver.

Please explain to me how just wanting to not be bombarded by other people's noise is rude.

The fact that at work i have the name of the person who will sort what I need sorting out but I still have to raise a ticket, on a system that they locked me out of due to inactivity, so now I have to raise a ticket to get my account reactivated before I can raise the ticket for my original issue. Doubling the time.

In my old company, I was on good terms with one of the IT guys so I would just pop my head around the door or send him a message and he'd sort it then raise the ticket for me. Oh how I miss him 😢😞.

Other people using my usual bike parking spot at work. It’s not my space, there are about 30 bars to lock a bike to, but I’m normally at work very early and have a favourite (very close to a barrier so it’s rare to get another bike on the other side of me hence avoiding them inadvertently putting their lock round my bike, which seems to happen on a regular basis here going by the ‘who has locked their bike to mine’ emails that get sent round to everyone in the building). On the vanishingly rare day I arrive after 8am it is always taken by some cheeky git who doesn’t realize it is actually my space.

This thread is about things that give you the rage but actually shouldn’t 😀@HelpMeUnpickThis
So @mediummumma hates headphones worn in public but she knows it’s a bit irrational

This! And traffic jams. Which I’m also contributing to!

Contrary to what I’ve said above, when people get on a bus or similar and look round with their mouths open as if they can’t believe there are other people there.

People who are unwell on public transport and sniffing etc

Being interrupted when I’m in the middle of something

It isn’t rude at all. It’s a way of maintaining one’s own personal space and time for oneself.

If you weren’t in public you wouldn’t need the headphones!

People who write about hearts being “full”.

People and their “journeys”.

Their weight loss journey.

Their career journey.

Their dog ownership journey.

All these journeys.

Anyone talking about their ‘journey’ when it does not involve travelling.

People who can hear me talking to someone via the headphones they can see me wearing… and start talking to me anyway.

This is totally irrational (and mean) but if someone starts telling me a recipe, I get so impatient and annoyed. I’m not going to effing remember it!!
I just want them to stop talking but can’t stop them politely, its totally irrational because I usually want the recipe but not that way, orally. It’s like I’m dying when they are telling me it’s so stressful.

But it’s totally my fault as how would they know all of this if I don’t tell them.

The way my partner reads the Gruffalo. He puts the emphasis on the wrong word and his cadence is completely different to mine and I HATE it.

Certain tones of voices - but I cant fully explain what the tone is, which enrages me further. I think it is earnest, breathy voices when people really want you to feel listened to... I have been looking into misophonia lately as I didnt realise this could be a "thing". These voices give me a stomach ache with rage.

My cat moaning for food while I am cooking. So I stop, feed him, he sniffs at it then walks off. So, so rude

My neighbour humming outside. She is the sweetest, loveliest person, I couldnt wish for better. But her humming makes me seeeeeethe when I am sat reading and she is pottering around in her garden.

DD/DH/DF - the "D"s are so stupid on MN. Especially the DF - you have to read a whole post before you know whether it is dear Father, Friend, Fiancée, Fat Head. Then re-read because you realise that the poster isn't saying her father isn't doing/saying / asking her to do something vile.
Or "DH has just hit me, called me a Cxxt and said he has been sleeping around" - is he REALLY a dear or darling Husband then??? NO
Though even worse is "D"Dog/Cat etc JUST STOP IT.

Whenever OH & I go to.the gym, as we pull in to car park he says "ooooh, it's busy!" If i can see around 10 spaces, it definitely ain't busy, but he says it every time without fail

And wherever we are, when I'm trying to park, and might have to do a few backwards & forwards manoeuvres, his head is spinning in different directions watching my every move and he always makes a comment like "you're a bit close this side". I fucking know because I have eyes and I haven't fucking finished!"

Currently giving me the rage is not being able to find a coffee table. I've been in multiple shops and on multiple websites and still not found what I want.

I don't actually know what I want. I just know that "I'll know when I see it".

But having to keep using my old coffee table in my newly refurbished lounge is definitely stressing me out, as it's stopping the room from looking finished.

I’m with you on the DH and Dwhatever on Mumsnet @HAL200
Utterly daft.
Particularly when he is a faithless, abusive sh*t.

Once I wondered about a DGP getting involved in something, why would you let a GP get involved ? 🤔
It wasn’t her doctor , it was her grandparents. 🙄

One occurred to me this morning - when advertisers decide they want a jaunty jingle, but just pick a tune and wedge the words in any old how, so that the stresses in the tune and the stresses in the spoken words don't add up. For example, in the Felix advert, the last line is "It's great to be a cat" - and because of the way they've crowbarred it into the music, the stress is on to not be - and it sounds so wrong to my ears, as a musician.

I think it's because they are too tight to get an actual musician to write the music, or at least to help them fit the words in so the music makes sense. Frankly, it usually sounds as if they've let the sixth form work experience student do it!

When I phone a certain family member on my mobile, and they answer with ,"hello Lynda mobile!" This is obviously how my number is displayed on their phone, but dear Lord, it drives me batty.

When someone changes the toilet roll but there is a tiny bit of paper left on the previous roll. And, of course, they've just left the horrible article right beside the toilet. It gives me the heebie-jeebies and irrational rage all at the same time.

Totally reasonable to be annoyed about this. Cyclists on pedestrian paths really piss me off too. They seem to have a huge sense of entitlement and expect that everyone should constantly be moving out of their way. They can fuck right off as far as I’m concerned.

When someone goes to pass you something then pulls away , DH knows I hate it so doesn’t dare but the videos of ice cream sellers messing around instead of serving normally would have me telling them to shove the cone up their arse

It also really pisses me off when people park on the pavement so that people with pushchairs have to walk in the road.

When I see videos online of someone's wedding / special occasion, and the man (usually) thinks its hilarious to push the woman's face in the cake.

Now - its nothing to do with me, I don't know these people, but it really really riles me up. Someone has spent ages making that cake and I'm sure it cost a fortune. If it is a bride, she would have paid and spent ages getting her makeup done, hair done, gorgeous dress ... and now she has to spend the rest of her day with cake everywhere and streaky makeup.

If someone did that to me, I would walk out and instantly divorce them as they obviously have zero respect for me.

Hand cream and foot cream that doesn’t have a flip top lid but has one that you have to twist back on with sticky hands 🙄
It’s not rocket science to see which works better in the circumstances.
Is there a big difference in price for manufacturers between a twist on/off plastic lid and a flip top lid ?

Oh yeah, I hate emphasis on wrong words or parts of words in songs. I can't think of any prime examples but I know Alanis Morrissette used to be guilty of this

For a similar reason I fucking hate that song Meet Me In The Middle that rhymes 'middle' with "liddle" ie "little". If they'd made it rhyme with Lidl it wouldn't be ao bad,
eg "Baby, why can't you just meet me in the middle
Or maybe you could meet me in Lidl..."