I live on a new build estate with my DP & baby. The couple opposite moved in shortly after we did, they’re a couple with a young child. We were pleasant with them, as we are with all of our neighbours and would exchange small talk if we saw them outside. We have a neighbours group chat on WhatsApp where we ask about parcels or parking etc.
When I was pregnant, our neighbour started messaging me frequently to check in which I thought was nice originally. They kept inviting us over for dinner and a ‘Mario party’ & hinting at us hosting them. We eventually accepted and went round. As nice as they seemed, I don’t think any of us had much in common & it was a bit awkward.
The husband is nice enough but the wife is quite pushy, she started messaging me about arranging a coffee date but wouldn’t take no for an answer, o was making a lot of excuses but I felt bad turning her down. DP told me to just join her for a coffee she might be lonely and it may be okay. Ended up going round at 39 weeks pregnant where she dumped a load of her clothes on me, she asked if id like some baby girls clothes then offloaded me with a bag of boys clothes aged 11-12 and tried to give me a load of her old clothes too.
Since then, she’d been messaging me everyday, triple & quadruple texting me. Asked me 7 times how I was planning to deliver the baby (c section or induction etc), whenever I would leave the house, she’d message immediately asking if I was ‘on my way to hospital’ or ‘is the baby coming’, & everyday had a message counting down the days to my due date (shouldn’t have told her I know).
As soon as the baby was born, it was “when can we meet the baby” repeatedly, and when I let them come round she overstayed her welcome to be honest. It was nearly 8pm and she started making comments about better get back as she had to cook dinner and next time they would come for dinner. Then for the next 3 months it was messages asking to meet for coffee, go to the park or for a walk. I gave in again because it was relentless, she came round for a coffee and stayed for 6 hours. In the end I offered her a glass of wine as I was pouring one, then she started asking ‘how could you drink whilst you’re breastfeeding, I would never’.
Often when I leave the house, she will message to tell me I look beautiful. She found my Facebook and added me, she then messaged me to tell me my pictures were beautiful. If I’m outside, she sees me from the window and messages to ask if I’m texting?? Often messages me to tell me her child misses me and wants to see me. Messages me good morning, what are my plans & sends me photos of her and her child etc.
Shes asked me to join her for her birthday to go to a restaurant, it will be just me and her. I’ve ignored her but she keeps messaging me. I can’t make an excuse as she will see I am home. I don’t want to make it awkward but she’s really not getting the hint, I ignore her messages probably 80% of the time. I now realise I shouldn’t have started being over friendly in the first place. I thought it may be a cultural difference as she’s not originally from the UK and thought she may be lonely. She does have a part time job and I’ve seen her with a couple of friends though.
Expecting to be flamed but what can I do?