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Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

622 replies

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:35

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

OP posts:
RatherTardy · 05/07/2025 00:02

Oh, @Hattie24 you're angry at the wrooooooong person, my love

YourOnMute · 05/07/2025 00:03

Photos can be taken of people in public places.
Second, does this post actually say these are the people attending the brothel?
If it doesn't, then photos of men in what I presume is a public place are attached.

ShamrockShenanigans · 05/07/2025 00:03

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:55

Yes I have reported but it’s still up. I’ve only spoken to him on the phone as soon as I found out, he is staying at a mates tonight after the pub which he has done for the past few fridays

And again you still haven't mentioned how he feels about it?

DCorMe · 05/07/2025 00:04

Cheesystick · 04/07/2025 23:59

She quite clearly and understandably doesn't want to be the subject of salacious gossip, as well you know FFS. Unhelpful bullshit

Well it isn’t salacious gossip, there is evidence of him and others visiting the flat which is believed to being used as a brothel. Although visiting it isn’t a criminal offence, keeping a brothel certainly is.
hopefully this evidence will be submitted to the housing association or local authority to evict the tenant

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 05/07/2025 00:04

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:45

He says he was seeing a physio for treatment of a muscle injury linked to his rugby playing.

Physio = sex worker.....No?

SoSoLong · 05/07/2025 00:05

Justwonderingifthisisnormal · 04/07/2025 23:50

Regardless of the situation with you and your husband and whether or not he used her services, it's completely illegal to post a photo of anyone without their consent. Same as registration number plates on cars. Unfortunately, most people lack this knowledge. Your husband can bring her to court for this.

Nonsense. Take thess photos from the Oasis concert, do you think the BBC have asked a few thousand people for consent? https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn9y5z5nqe1o

Liam and Noel hold their hands up in the air on stage

Oasis kick off their comeback: The best they've been since 1995

The band stage a triumphant show in Cardiff, as they launch their long-awaited reunion tour.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn9y5z5nqe1o

Lardychops · 05/07/2025 00:06

Cheesystick · 04/07/2025 23:57

No it isn't.

It isn’t in public spaces
not at all

ShamrockShenanigans · 05/07/2025 00:06

Lardychops · 04/07/2025 23:59

Agreed - only minors and even then good luck

Edited

There's no law saying you can't post a photo of someone else's child online either, especially if it was taken in public and you own the rights.

sneeziseason · 05/07/2025 00:07

Vaxtable · 04/07/2025 23:50

If your husband is as innocent as he says then he seeks legal advice and takes the matter from there. If he’s not prepared to do that then ……

Op said herself : No I am struggling to believe him unfortunately

If OPs doubt is well founded and he’s likely guilty of what they are accusing him of they won’t have a leg to stand on.

And it will only bring more attention to what he’s (probably) did , if they try send out “Big Billy Baws” legal warnings like some on this thread are suggesting

KatieDidIt · 05/07/2025 00:07

i do hope he wasn’t visiting this place while you were both still in a relationship. If it were me in your shoes I’d be booking myself a full sexual health check.

edited for grammar.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 05/07/2025 00:08

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:55

Yes I have reported but it’s still up. I’ve only spoken to him on the phone as soon as I found out, he is staying at a mates tonight after the pub which he has done for the past few fridays

Was he shocked when you spoke to him, or did he lie easily.
Start organising a divorce.

MotherJessAndKittens · 05/07/2025 00:08

Don’t know about legality of posting photos of people on FB but surely posting photos of men and suggesting they are using prostitutes is illegal as there is no proof any of them are doing anything wrong. However you seem to think she is accurate so instead of being angry at her, direct it at your husband and think how you would feel if that was happening near you.

ShamrockShenanigans · 05/07/2025 00:10

Whether it's classed as a brothel or not, will depends on how many prostitutes there are.

If it's just one, it's not a brothel.

Mind you, it's not a 'physio' either 👀

whynotwhatknot · 05/07/2025 00:11

yeah physio thats a new name for it

if its not true she can be done for libel if itg is tough

AnSolas · 05/07/2025 00:12

Justwonderingifthisisnormal · 04/07/2025 23:50

Regardless of the situation with you and your husband and whether or not he used her services, it's completely illegal to post a photo of anyone without their consent. Same as registration number plates on cars. Unfortunately, most people lack this knowledge. Your husband can bring her to court for this.

Can you post the UK act which makes that against the law?

Rabbitsockpeony · 05/07/2025 00:12

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:54

No I am struggling to believe him unfortunately

Of course he’s lying. Don’t be ludicrous. No physio works out of a block of flats. He was seeing a woman for sex. Wise up.

Still, that doesn’t make her post any less humiliating. Also her defence to the libel will be ‘truth’.

Lardychops · 05/07/2025 00:13

Radionowhere · 04/07/2025 23:55

Sorry OP but good for her. She must be at the end of her tether living next to a knocking shop.

Can you imagine it …
a trail of scum bag men in and out all day, , up and down the stairs as you are going about your daily life, spilling into the nighttime economy where it goes from feeling frustrating and uncomfortable in daylight hours to downright seedy and terrifying at night

MyQuirkyTraybake · 05/07/2025 00:13

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:39

It’s not about him. It’s his family who will suffer the consequences of the post

The relationship is over. Cut him out and get higher standards. He is to blame!

Itallcomesdowntothis · 05/07/2025 00:14

MissBattleaxe · 04/07/2025 23:42

If he's out in public the law says he can legally be photographed. If he is in a place where he can reasonably expect privacy, I e at home indoors, then he may have caused. I think the exception may only apply to minors, but I await wiser minds to clarify.

Absolutely and libel onky works if the OP can prove that the insinuation (which in itself isn’t an allegation but it is based on probability of being true!) Isn’t true. I would suggest if he was at the flat of a known brothel there is no libel case as it can’t be proven.

squidgybits · 05/07/2025 00:15

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:45

He says he was seeing a physio for treatment of a muscle injury linked to his rugby playing.

this should be easily proven and if no physio is listed at that address its different therapy he has sought

suki1964 · 05/07/2025 00:17

Cheesystick · 04/07/2025 23:47

My basic knowledge -

Well legally it could be defamation - her post implies your husband has been partaking in illegal activity. Your husband would have to lodge a civil claim and the woman would have to prove he was paying for sex. If she can't, he could win the case.
If she could, he wouldn't.
Based on what you've said, she couldn't prove it at all - him being outside a block of flats does not prove he was visiting a particular flat and then paying for sex within it.

The reality is this sort of thing costs thousands and thousands of pounds to pursue.

Your husband could report the photo to Facebook asking for it to be removed - citing defamation etc.

He could also message the woman directly threatening defamation.

visiting a prostitute is not illegal

Prostitution is not illegal

Soliciting is

Please educate yourself before offering armchair advice

murasaki · 05/07/2025 00:18

So basically you're embarrassed that your husband has been caught on camera paying for sex. Your concern is clearly for you, that people will judge you. They shouldn't, but they should judge the hell out of him.

ThisTicklishFatball · 05/07/2025 00:18

As always, it seems no one is offering advice that truly addresses what the OP is asking for. Everyone is too busy making assumptions, accusations, and judgments.

OP

You need to report the issue to Facebook at least 10 times before they are likely to take action. It’s also a good idea to seek professional legal advice from qualified solicitors and consider taking legal action if necessary.

ShamrockShenanigans · 05/07/2025 00:18

Lardychops · 05/07/2025 00:13

Can you imagine it …
a trail of scum bag men in and out all day, , up and down the stairs as you are going about your daily life, spilling into the nighttime economy where it goes from feeling frustrating and uncomfortable in daylight hours to downright seedy and terrifying at night

I've had to put up with similar many years ago and it wasn't fun, especially when my friend's 13 year old daughter was propositioned by an utter dirty scumbag.

If I was ever put in that situation again, I'd be gunning for the prostitute too, for bringing all the low life scumbags to my front door.

Radionowhere · 05/07/2025 00:19

Lardychops · 05/07/2025 00:13

Can you imagine it …
a trail of scum bag men in and out all day, , up and down the stairs as you are going about your daily life, spilling into the nighttime economy where it goes from feeling frustrating and uncomfortable in daylight hours to downright seedy and terrifying at night

It's absolutely disgusting. These men are totally amoral.

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