Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

[Hattie24]

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

God OP I’m embarrassed for you in that you’re even considering taking him back 🤣 find your self respect please

Wow. You're outrage is very misplaced. They fact his team mate is a "physio" and you believing it, you both deserve each other. I would advise you to get a STI test.
This is crazy 🤪 🤣🤣

Okay it’s very easy to say that sat on your computer behind a name and no feelings involved. Maybe compassion or just kinder words would be a human thing to offer?

I had some sympathy for you until your internalised misogyny started to show.

There is a three part test for legitimate interest. Purpose - is there a legitimate interest; necessity - is the processing necessary for that purpose; balancing - is this overridden by the individual's interests, rights or freedoms. Publishing photos of men you claim are visiting prostitutes using a nearby flat may pass the first test, although I am not convinced. It definitely fails both the second and third tests. There are other ways to deter men from using prostitutes, so publishing photos of men who may be using them is not necessary. And publishing photos of men at the entrance of a block of flats who may be using the services of prostitutes but may be visiting someone else is a clear violation of their rights. So no, publishing these photos is not covered by legitimate interest.

Why on earth would you ever consider giving it one last go? Have some self respect.

I thought you were going to say his nan lives in the block, or he lives there himself, hence the confusion.

But no, he is actually going there to visit prossies and causing ASB and you are trying to defend him? It doesn't harm his family for him to be exposed. It harms him, his reputation as a family man. And you yourself by staying with someone who does this. He's embarrassing himself only.

You should be on more than a break, you should split permanently. Then you wouldn't feel the need to try and defend and justify his dodgy sleazy behaviours.

Let him fight his own corner. He clearly doesn't care about your feelings at all.

I used to work with lots of blokes who would sit round and talk a lot. Blokey types trade men ect. I remember they told me that all men had a slush fund. A separate bank account that their wife /partner didn’t know about. I used to argue with them that not all men did but they insisted they did. Some pay would go directly to it.

some even said in previous jobs they worked away they would tell their wives it was say 3 weeks on one week home when it was really 2 weeks on 2 weeks home. And again lots did that.

There is no way he went to a physio. It was 100% a sex worker. And he 100% has a hidden bank account for that stuff.

Good thing GDPR only applies to organisations and not private individuals going about their normal day to day life.

' I do wish the woman on Facebook outing the slimy sleazers the very best of British luck though. We need more like her.'

Yes we could maybe get a few pitchforks waved while we're at it. Who needs proof! Shirley from Facebook said its true so it must be!!

A man who rents a woman’s body is not a ‘decent man’. Save your strongly worded messages for your divorce. Why are you wasting your time and energy trying to clean up after him? If he doesn’t care about the shameful thing he has been caught doing, you shouldn’t either. If you’re saying there’s nothing wrong with buying consent, why are you ashamed and humiliated by his actions?

Awful that you worked with such revolting men. Hope you've got a better job.

What crime has been committed?

None.

Ask your husband to go get proper legal advice on this matter.

Like being unable to prove proof of a booking, he will fail to do this.

There is no privacy issue to be had here. GDPR does not apply. There is no defamation case because he can't prove that he was seeing a physio. His mate vouching for him, will be laughed out of court.

And for those reasons he won't want to seek legal advice precisely because it throws more attention on what he was doing.

If you continue to pester this woman to take the post down you risk legal issues yourself for harassing her. Once again, he'll want you to drop the subject fairly quickly because he won't want the attention.

The fact you are considering trying to intimidate her, doesn't say much about you.

The best way to protect yourself and your family is to distance yourself from your husband and to get an STD test - otherwise this will come back to haunt you in the future regardless of whether this woman removes the photo or not.

People will have sympathy for you if you do. They won't think much of you and your family if you stand by your man.

You damn well know he's a dirty dog. If you lay with a dirty dog you get fleas.

@Gloriia - the OP has said that there are four women using the flat, and that there are different women every couple of weeks, with a constant flow of men visiting. To me, this clearly says the flat is being run as a brothel - probably with trafficked women. I can’t honestly say I can see an innocent explanation for this arrangement.

Dump the asshat and move on then it need not bother you.

Whatever. My point, yet again is posting pics on FB is not the way to deal with it.

Council, landlords, 101. Taking it upon oneself to out alleged undesirables and their alleged customers is not the way forward.

I'd suggest apart from it being malicious it's potentially dangerous she may well out an innocent person and ruin their life or even out someone who may well confront her.

My husband says the physio session was with a teammate who does this on the side as a favour for the team manager so there is no evidence in terms of a booking. However he says this team mate will vouch for him
Of course the team mate will vouch for him, the teammate will be availing himself of the same services and your husband will cover for him in return if need be.
This is part of what allows men to exploit women and work everything to their advantage, they all cover for each other!

So these women speak limited English and get swapped out every few weeks? Your husband is a disgusting misogynist who doesn't care if he's raping trafficked women, and you are pretty misogynistic yourself.

You can report the post to FB and they will take it down.

Open a dictionary, OP. Under the word 'gullible' will be a picture of you.

ETA: Per your updates, see also 'bitter' and 'misogynistic'.

You just lost my sympathy with this grubby little comment

Calling women cows and Karens is deeply misogynistic.

Your husband patently uses prostitutes. Also deeply misogynistic.

You should get back together.

Just divorce him and be done with it. You don’t believe him, and with good reason. Just try to get on with your life without him instead of getting dragged into his disgrace.

Not your shame, not your embarrassment

you can see what your “H” is up to… how long are you going to keep this facade up?