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Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

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Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:35

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

OP posts:
Gloriia · 05/07/2025 12:41

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 12:29

Oh well, never mind, looks like she's done it anyway and you getting incredibly triggered by it all for some reason won't change that.

Reading the OPs posts, she knows full well her husband has been using prostitutes.

I actually don't give much of a shit about any of it, beyond being disgusted in general by men who use prostitutes.

The bottom line is, if he's using prostitutes he can do absolutely nothing about the photos legally.

If he's not, he can.

Which sums the thread up really.

I'm not triggered by anything merely pointing out posting malicious crap on sm is not ok.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/07/2025 12:45

Hattie24 · 05/07/2025 09:45

The post is still there this morning but comments have been disabled, so hopefully it will fall down the page quickly (not that it makes much difference as the damage is done).

I do have sympathy for the residents, but don’t agree how they’ve gone about it. People in the comments asked why they haven’t addressed it with the women working there directly, and apparently there is a group of 3/4 which changes every fortnight and they all claim to have limited English.

My husband says the physio session was with a teammate who does this on the side as a favour for the team manager so there is no evidence in terms of a booking. However he says this team mate will vouch for him.

It has made me realise that the length of our break has been stupid and we either need to end it once and for all, or give it one last go.

A group of 4 women who change every fortnight - to me it seems 100% clear that this particular flat is being used by (probably trafficked) prostitutes, @Hattie24.

Imagine living with a constant stream of men coming in and out to visit these women - the sort of men who think a woman’s body is something a man has a right to buy, the sort of men who don’t give a shit that these women are often trafficked and forced into prostitution - and then ask yourself if you would want this happening on YOUR doorstep.

I do not blame this woman and her neighbours for taking direct action. I just wish the police would do more to protect the women who are being g trafficked, and the people who have to live in close proximity to this vile trade - and it is the traffickers and pimps I blame for the vile trade, not the women.

amicisimma · 05/07/2025 12:46

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:36

Which bit of the husband needs to take his own legal advice wasn’t clear in my post?

Why would you suggest to anyone that they spend money on a lawyer to tell him that although he was seen outside a building no one has implied that he entered it, never mind visited a particular flat in the building?

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 12:50

Gloriia · 05/07/2025 12:41

I'm not triggered by anything merely pointing out posting malicious crap on sm is not ok.

Well, you're getting very worked up about a woman who doesn't want to live next to prostitutes or have dreadful men sliming around her home.

No reason at all to think it is either malicious or crap, so as nobody knows anything I will assume the OP is correct in her assumption that there are indeed prostitutes in that building, based on the comments from other people as the OP stated who have pointed out there are a group of 3/4 girls being rotated constantly who barely speak English and the fact that the woman who posted it lives there and has back up from other residents.

It would be a massive stretch to try to pretend that the poster, the other residents and the other commenters are all making it up and being malicious, and if they are the men can sue the whole lot of them for defamation.

There's nothing the OP can do about it anyway as she is not in the photo. If her husband is innocent, he can sort it. If not, then great he deserves it.

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:51

Because I am a lawyer specialising in this branch of law and based on what OP has said (I haven’t seen the original post) this is actionable!

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 12:53

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:51

Because I am a lawyer specialising in this branch of law and based on what OP has said (I haven’t seen the original post) this is actionable!

Oh dear, as a, cough cough, lawyer you would know for an absolute certainty that it is only actionable if the accusation is untrue.

If they are prostitute users there is not a damn thing they can do about it because truth is an absolute defence in UK law.

But sure, if it is untrue they can go for defamation. My guess - they will do nothing and find a different brothel.

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:57

FFS - as I’ve said multiple times…

it’s actionable as a misuse of private information whether it’s true or not.

it’s also defamatory and therefore actionable as a libel but there is a defence of truth. But the onus is on the poster to prove it’s true and it seems very unlikely the poster could provide any evidence it’s true. There is not a no smoke without fire presumption when it comes to establishing a truth defence in a libel claim.

Are you always this stubborn about things you know very little about?

AcademicallyAverageTeddy · 05/07/2025 12:57

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:51

Because I am a lawyer specialising in this branch of law and based on what OP has said (I haven’t seen the original post) this is actionable!

If you specialise in this branch of law surely you know full well that whether or not this is actionable depends on whether or not he was, in fact, visiting a prostitute.

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:59

AcademicallyAverageTeddy · 05/07/2025 12:57

If you specialise in this branch of law surely you know full well that whether or not this is actionable depends on whether or not he was, in fact, visiting a prostitute.

Whether the husband succeeds or not depends on whether the person who posted it can prove it’s true. But it is actionable and the husband is entitled to make her prove it. Which she almost certainly can’t.

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 13:00

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:57

FFS - as I’ve said multiple times…

it’s actionable as a misuse of private information whether it’s true or not.

it’s also defamatory and therefore actionable as a libel but there is a defence of truth. But the onus is on the poster to prove it’s true and it seems very unlikely the poster could provide any evidence it’s true. There is not a no smoke without fire presumption when it comes to establishing a truth defence in a libel claim.

Are you always this stubborn about things you know very little about?

Legally, anyone in the UK can photograph people in public places without their consent. This includes streets, parks, and public events. The absence of a specific privacy right in these public settings means that individuals are generally deemed to have a reduced expectation of privacy while in public. These photographs can generally be used for personal, editorial, artistic, and journalistic purposes without needing the consent of the people in the images. However, the use of these photos for commercial purposes would require consent.

But as a, cough cough, lawyer, you would know that 😅

And you haven't the tiniest clue how much proof the woman who posted this photo has, sounds like she has witnesses at the very least.

Additionally, to prevail in a defamation lawsuit, a plaintiff must prove that the defendant made a false and defamatory statement about the plaintiff that was communicated to a third party.

Are you always this much of a fantasist😆

PeapodMcgee · 05/07/2025 13:03

The post hasn't been removed, the estranged husband seems more concerned with getting his 'physio friend' to provide him with an alibi, and OP is enjoying calling the neighbour names rather than looking closer to home. There will be no legal undertaking here.

AuntyHistamine · 05/07/2025 13:04

Hattie24 · 05/07/2025 12:16

😂😂

Such anger - classic batshit MN!

Pot? Kettle? 🙄

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 13:04

PeapodMcgee · 05/07/2025 13:03

The post hasn't been removed, the estranged husband seems more concerned with getting his 'physio friend' to provide him with an alibi, and OP is enjoying calling the neighbour names rather than looking closer to home. There will be no legal undertaking here.

Spot on. They were caught fair and square and they are going to say nothing, hope nobody catches on, deny deny deny and find a different brothel.

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 13:09

I have to go and won't be checking this thread again as it is getting repetitive. So, if you reply to me to try to argue, just imagine me repeating my earlier comments over and over until you finally give up 😇

I won't wish you good luck OP because honestly it sounds like the two of you deserve one another. I do wish the woman on Facebook outing the slimy sleazers the very best of British luck though. We need more like her.

AcademicallyAverageTeddy · 05/07/2025 13:13

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 12:59

Whether the husband succeeds or not depends on whether the person who posted it can prove it’s true. But it is actionable and the husband is entitled to make her prove it. Which she almost certainly can’t.

If the husband was shagging a prostitute he would be ill advised to spend thousands on a defamation case and no sensible lawyer would encourage him to.

There may well be evidence available. Based on this thread the most likely scenario is that he was seeing a prostitute and if that is the case there was no defamation

Katrinawaves · 05/07/2025 13:13

Boddica2000 · 05/07/2025 13:00

Legally, anyone in the UK can photograph people in public places without their consent. This includes streets, parks, and public events. The absence of a specific privacy right in these public settings means that individuals are generally deemed to have a reduced expectation of privacy while in public. These photographs can generally be used for personal, editorial, artistic, and journalistic purposes without needing the consent of the people in the images. However, the use of these photos for commercial purposes would require consent.

But as a, cough cough, lawyer, you would know that 😅

And you haven't the tiniest clue how much proof the woman who posted this photo has, sounds like she has witnesses at the very least.

Additionally, to prevail in a defamation lawsuit, a plaintiff must prove that the defendant made a false and defamatory statement about the plaintiff that was communicated to a third party.

Are you always this much of a fantasist😆

Edited

They cannot however publish details of the person’s sexual activities and that’s what’s actionable here under misuse of private information. .

As the OP has seen the post and various people have commented on it there is proof of publication to a third party.

not a cough cough lawyer at all. Just a real one. Unlike you I suspect.

2024onwardsandup · 05/07/2025 13:15

Hattie24 · 05/07/2025 10:59

We do still have love for each other, he’s a decent man deep down.

He’s is abusing women who are almost certainly trafficked - he is in no way a good man

ginasevern · 05/07/2025 13:16

Hattie24 · 05/07/2025 12:03

I’m keeping an open mind at the moment. The more I’ve read of that women’s previous posts on the FB group, the more she does appear to be a ‘NIMBY’/karen, so I’d say it is plausible she has got this wrong.

Got what wrong? The sex workers actually existing or your DH being there, or both?

wizzywig · 05/07/2025 13:17

Is your husband doing anything about the post or is it just you who is bothered?

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 05/07/2025 13:19

How disturbing that you are expending energy trying to cover up your husband’s misdeeds. Why are you fighting this battle for him? Why aren’t you more concerned that he’s been sexually exploiting vulnerable women? Attacking the woman who has brought light to this by calling her a Karen 🤦🏼‍♀️ Where is your dignity?

zingally · 05/07/2025 13:21

You're angry at the wrong person. It's your husband who has decided to destroy his family, not the woman who posted the photo.

Isthisreasonable · 05/07/2025 13:25

If you don't believe him, people you know have seen the pictures and you are concerned about your reputation I would be inclined to post some thing like this on your Facebook.

"You may be aware of certain photos on social media. No woman should ever be forced into sex work and no decent man would use their services. Beyondthestreets.org.uk is a UK charity fighting to end sexual exploitation and support sex workers to find ways out of this work. If you are in a position to do so it is a great cause to support."

IberianBlackout · 05/07/2025 13:25

Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:39

It’s not about him. It’s his family who will suffer the consequences of the post

No… the family is suffering the consequences of his shitty behaviour. If he wasn’t there to begin with this wouldn’t be a problem.

Negroany · 05/07/2025 13:30

Hattie24 · 05/07/2025 11:45

She is a snooping cow who posted images of men without any evidence to accuse them of wrong doing. Someone in the FB comments asked her if she was just jealous she isn’t getting any!

Do only men use this "physio" then?

Negroany · 05/07/2025 13:31

And why hasn't the male "physio" posted on FB to say "I live here, these are my clients who come for physio, please remove these pictures ".

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