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Attracted to a married man

135 replies

Prontehpronto · 04/07/2025 19:52

I am very attracted to a married man at work, I am married too. We work from home (diff homes!) and talk alot about work over teams but he makes me laugh a lot and makes me feel really nice. In the office he finds every opportunity he can to talk to me, I know he is attracted to me too from his body language and how close he comes towards me. We both have children. I have been unhappy in my marriage for a long time, my husband works late, drinks, is very overweight and makes me feel lonely and sad, he is verbally abusive and dismissive of me. Im sure im not cup of tea either and thats why he is out all the time. Im just his house keeper and look after the kids. Im quite a high achiever at work and think my husband resents me for that, for my age I suppose im still quite attractive. Even now he is out drinking whilst im alone with the kids. I want to continue to talk to this other guy and would like something physical to eventually happen between us, I think about him alot, I haven't been attracted to a man like this for a long time, I don't think I even fancied my husband this much. I want him to pursue me but also feel very bad and sad, we both have young children. Any advice or stories similar stories please.

OP posts:
Disturbia81 · 06/07/2025 13:52

Don’t try to increase your happiness by ruining someone elses.
First step OP, get your freedom.

Absentmindedsmile · 06/07/2025 13:53

Leave him alone. Think of your kids, and his fgs. 🙄

Moglet4 · 06/07/2025 13:55

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 13:50

Yeah, that person, the one you quoted, is just a fantasist making shit up as they go along, obviously. Trying to get a rise. Bit of a dickhead thing to do, but you get them on this site.

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I don’t know, I sometimes wonder. After all, there are so many married men having affairs that I think it’s safe to assume there truly are a load of women out there who have equally few morals as the lying scumbag husbands!

Wayk · 06/07/2025 19:51

You are human but it is good that you sought advice. You do not deserve to be treated the way you are by your husband. Your marriage is over and you need to address this with your husband. Be kind to yourself and cut back on communication with your colleague. Best wishes.

Isabellivi · 17/07/2025 18:27

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Finteq · 04/07/2025 20:00

If she has an affair with him.

It's not her who has destroyed that family.

The blame lies with him.

She doesn't owe his wife anything.

It's that man who should be considering his marriage and family. And the blames lies entirely with him.

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I might just go round blowing up stranger's houses then because I don't owe them anything.

Pessismistic · 12/09/2025 23:44

Hi op your post came up as a suggestion because I was commenting on another post think I’m in love with a married man look it up and read her comments you might be able to resonate also if you can get out don’t ruin someone else’s life because you are lonely and unhappy. I understand your pain but taking someone else’s husband is not the answer. Also I think sometimes we see what we want to see. His wife might think he’s as bad as your husband and feel exactly like you. Sort out your own life without involving anyone else. Good luck.

PollyBell · 13/09/2025 00:08

So you are putting your needs before your children? If you are not happy leave

Maddy70 · 13/09/2025 00:32

It's a fantasy. How attractive is it when your husband throws you out, you're sharing your children with their new step mum and your married man chose to stay with his wife?

outerspacepotato · 13/09/2025 00:38

Get a divorce.

Leave a married man with young children alone. You'll just fuck up their lives if you keep it up.

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