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To think it's actually OK to recline your seat on a long haul flight?

407 replies

winterwonder1 · 04/07/2025 19:21

I always thought it was just one of those things, but this poll seems to make out it's anti-social behaviour. And that hack is just batshit.

Best life hack to stop air passengers reclining their seat | Chester and District Standard

Flier shares 'best life hack' to stop passengers in front reclining their seat

Traveller shares her 'best life hack', involving a tub of Pringles, but is branded 'pathetic' and 'a horrible person'.

https://www.chesterstandard.co.uk/news/national/uk-today/25287018.best-life-hack-stop-air-passengers-reclining-seat/

OP posts:
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/07/2025 00:58

minnienono · 04/07/2025 23:54

@Hulabalu

bulkhead seats are used for the bassinets for infants, plus they are also used for people with limit mobility as often near toilets. Exit rows are for able bodied adults only - you can usually book them by paying extra. My dh is 6ft and if we want extra legroom we know we need to pay, we don’t because I’m a cheapskate!

Agreed. Tall is far from the only thing that might mean someone needed a bit of room, or wanted to choose to pay for it.

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 05/07/2025 04:19

Seats made to recline. If I'm traveling and I need a snooze or more comfortable position, I recline whether it's a one hour or 14 hour flight. If you need more space or feel your comfortable travel is more important than mine, find an alternative way to travel.

Jamietarttdoodoodoodoo · 05/07/2025 04:51

Remaker · 05/07/2025 00:33

I’m Australian so have done my share of long haul flights. I’ve never been on a flight when passengers have been allowed to have seats reclined during meal service. The flight attendants will wake them up if necessary.

I only recline to sleep, after the lights are dimmed. At that time the majority of the cabin is reclined so it works. People who recline on a 2 hr daytime flight are arseholes. But equally people who get aggressive when you recline to sleep in the middle of the night are also arseholes. My poor 6’1 15yo was so worried about upsetting someone he kept his seat upright for 24 hours Sydney-London. Fortunately on the way back we were allocated the back row so he could recline the entire way and he had no one sitting in front of him. Best flight of his life he says.

Why are people arseholes for reclining on a 2 hour flight? For all you know that person has just got off a flight from Australia or London and now has a 2 hour internal flight. If they are tired, recline away if the seats have the facility to do this! It’s never black and white. You can’t know what or how many flights a person has been on before they end up in the seat in front of you reclined!! Yes upright for meals but at all other times reclining is absolutely fine

GRex · 05/07/2025 06:17

It just depends on direction of travel. Most people will sleep east to avoid jetlag, so flying to Asia or from US to UK it's reasonable to recline immediately to sleep. Flying west, no, stay sitting up to watch films, eat or whatever. Up/ down you don't recline as it's the same time zone.

Poppins21 · 05/07/2025 06:28

RawBloomers · 04/07/2025 20:15

It’s obviously important for a lot of people to be able to recline on a long haul flight to facilitate sleep, but it’s also unreasonable that it impinges on someone else.

I think airlines need to invest in the seats where reclining pushes the seat forward instead of the backrest backwards. Then people reclining restrict their own space instead of someone else's.

Totally agree

Poppins21 · 05/07/2025 06:31

Hulabalu · 04/07/2025 23:02

Or maybe they’re just tired and need to recline to sleep

And then that opens up questions about the arseholes who happily snore on a flight too.

Velmy · 05/07/2025 06:50

Titasaducksarse · 04/07/2025 19:31

It's OK along as you're not the utter cunt that reclined on me literally as soon as seatbelt sign went out for the entirety of the 13 hour flight we were on.
Normal behaviour is meal then recline once people start napping, watching movies etc

That's me, sorry 😅

I usually go business on a long haul, but work send us to the US cattle class a couple of times a year. If I'm taking a 10+ flight in cattle, I'm getting as comfy as possible for as long as possible. Wing or front row ideally so nobody reclines on me.

notimagain · 05/07/2025 07:00

GRex · 05/07/2025 06:17

It just depends on direction of travel. Most people will sleep east to avoid jetlag, so flying to Asia or from US to UK it's reasonable to recline immediately to sleep. Flying west, no, stay sitting up to watch films, eat or whatever. Up/ down you don't recline as it's the same time zone.

That logic means no recline on something like the dozens of overnight westbound Far East (SIN, KUL etc) to Europe flights and no recline on a late night Europe departure for South Africa....

You are also not factoring in the sleep needs of those who have maybe connected onto something like a westbound Europe US flight from a south to north overnighter.

StarlightLady · 05/07/2025 07:03

I travel to Singapore quite often for work. When cabin lights are dimmed for overnight, l don’t have a problem with it. But l recently had a very large man in front of me recline his seat as soon as seatbelt signs were off and remained like that for the whole 13 hour flight. He ignored cabin crew requests to bring his seat forward for meal times.

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 07:27

EveryDayisFriday · 04/07/2025 22:45

Not been on a plane for 5yrs but love to recline. Last time we managed to book the back row where we could recline without upsetting anyone behind us. It was lush.

That's weird as back row seats have a wall behind them and don't usually recline as no foon

Trailswood · 05/07/2025 07:32

This year for the first time we will be flying business class on our 10 hour flight - I can't wait! Lie flat beds - bliss!!!

notimagain · 05/07/2025 07:36

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 07:27

That's weird as back row seats have a wall behind them and don't usually recline as no foon

It's not that weird, it depends on the aircraft/cabin configuration.

On a lot of long haul aircraft at least some if not all of the back row seats recline.

Weepixie · 05/07/2025 07:39

I’d only recline once the meal service had been cleared away and everyone had settled down, and if the person in front of me reclined before then I’d ask the cabin crew to ask them to sit up and wait until after the meal was over. Anyone refusing to would probably wished they had if I then got up to the loo and had to use the back of their seat to hold on to because I once, according to the person in front of me, ‘almost set his bloody neck’ when I did need to get up. It was absolutely not intended but now if I have to get up I just do and I couldn’t care less about anyone’s neck given how hard it must be in the first place.

Roselilly36 · 05/07/2025 07:40

I had two awful flights, both daytime, one to US, guy in front recline as soon as seatbelt sign went off, and a flight to the Canaries, the guy in front was massive so the seat went back even further with his weight. I couldn’t get out to go to the loo I have MS and bladder issues, so need the loo frequently.

One of the things I actually like about the budget airlines, the fact their seats don’t recline, makes for a more comfortable flight.

XjustagirlX · 05/07/2025 07:49

I always recline for a long haul flight. The seat of a plane generally goes up then the head rest juts out. They are designed for men who are generally taller than women.

I am 5 foot 4 so my head generally hits the bottom of the headrest and it juts my head in a really uncomfortable face down position. By reclining the angle of the headrest is less severe.

I would always move the seat upright during mealtimes.

DeirdreDragon · 05/07/2025 07:49

Laserwho · 04/07/2025 19:43

Someone did this to me when I had a toddler on my knee..they didn't like it when my toddler kept knocking into the seat due to lack of room everything he moved. Think before you recline, if there's a toddler on a knee there will not be enough room to do it.

Are you honestly saying that you expect other people to sit bolt upright to accommodate you because you’ve got your toddler?

Sorry to break it to you but that’s not how life works.

caffelattetogo · 05/07/2025 07:49

Velmy · 05/07/2025 06:50

That's me, sorry 😅

I usually go business on a long haul, but work send us to the US cattle class a couple of times a year. If I'm taking a 10+ flight in cattle, I'm getting as comfy as possible for as long as possible. Wing or front row ideally so nobody reclines on me.

So you don’t like it if someone reclines in you, but ok for you to do on the person behind?

m00rfarm · 05/07/2025 07:51

Laserwho · 04/07/2025 19:43

Someone did this to me when I had a toddler on my knee..they didn't like it when my toddler kept knocking into the seat due to lack of room everything he moved. Think before you recline, if there's a toddler on a knee there will not be enough room to do it.

That is poor behaviour from you on a flight.

ParmaVioletTea · 05/07/2025 07:56

winterwonder1 · 04/07/2025 19:21

I always thought it was just one of those things, but this poll seems to make out it's anti-social behaviour. And that hack is just batshit.

Best life hack to stop air passengers reclining their seat | Chester and District Standard

Of course it’s ok to recline your seat. Just put it up at meal times.

Morgenrot25 · 05/07/2025 07:58

Yes, it's absolutely fine, obviously within the times it's allowed.

Bitzee · 05/07/2025 07:59

They should be up for meal service because otherwise the angle makes it hard to eat. But outside of that then it’s fine to recline them, expected even on a long haul flight. If the person in front of you reclines and you recline too then you’re back to the same amount of space you had originally so I do not get why it would be a problem for anyone. The outrage makes no sense.

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/07/2025 08:00

SirRodneyEfffing · 04/07/2025 19:28

Yep, we’re taking an 18 hour plane journey in about 10 days. Too right, as soon as meal service is cleared I’ll be reclining as far back as possible. If the person behind feels that restricts their space, then they’re quite at liberty to recline too

Will you ask them if they mind, first? I would.

Morgenrot25 · 05/07/2025 08:00

youreactinglikeafunmum · 04/07/2025 19:39

Very clean 😭 - i just hate wearing socks and would want to be comfortable. I'd even have a blanket on me

Please don't.

caffelattetogo · 05/07/2025 08:00

m00rfarm · 05/07/2025 07:51

That is poor behaviour from you on a flight.

Under twos often don’t have their own seat.

Morgenrot25 · 05/07/2025 08:01

Laserwho · 04/07/2025 19:43

Someone did this to me when I had a toddler on my knee..they didn't like it when my toddler kept knocking into the seat due to lack of room everything he moved. Think before you recline, if there's a toddler on a knee there will not be enough room to do it.

With respect, that's not the problem of anyone but you.