Do you have a favourite child?

[outlanderish]

Settling a debate with DP. He's convinced you can have a favourite child. What's your verdict?

5 children, no favourite. All wonderful in their own way. All annoying in their own way also.

My children always say my baby boy is my favourite so I tell them hes not my favourite child hes my favourite son.

I definitely love both of mine equally .. one of them is much easier company and less uptight so find her easier to be around .

I also only have one - but I tell him that he's my least favourite of my children!

(he is a teenager and he gives as good as he gets!)

No, but I do have an easiest child

Our dog is all of our favourite in our house. Other than that I love them all the same but enjoy whoever is being the easiest and least grumpy at the time.

Ask him who’s he’s saving from the edge of a cliff.

I have one of each and I always say “you’re my favourite girl, and you’re my favourite boy”

My love for them is equal but I am closer to one than the other and that is because they put themselves in my life more than the other. Both young adults and at Uni.

No, when they ask me, I tell them they're all equally annoying.😉 I imagine they feel the same way about me and their Dad.

I have a fav baby boy and a fav big boy- they're 20 and 25 🤣

I have a favourite daughter and a favourite son. Obviously only one of each. I absolutely love them both the same. They’re very different people but both bring joy and are interesting in their own individual ways. They’re just great

in this house the cleanest child is my favourite.

I definitely have one that I find easier abd one that’s harder work. But the harder one is brilliant in other ways. I definitely don’t favour one over the other

I have four and genuinely I do not have a favourite.

I think your DH is probably right. I also don’t think people on this thread are being entirely honest- because although in the past it was accepted as normal, today it’s considered deeply taboo.

I think it’s true that you profoundly love all your children and in very different ways , so it’s difficult to compare. But I also think most people secretly have a child they are especially drawn to/ charmed by over the others. Often it’s very obvious and comes out in their behaviour, but more self aware parents are careful at hiding it as they should be.

I have a favourite daughter/preschooler and a favourite son/baby (I have one of each) 😆

Exactly this.

Presumably his favourite.

I lavish love, affection, affirmation on all of them but apparently I say it through my eyes/ tone of voice when with my one child. That's what all of them told me one day.

I had to really consider that because I don't think I do have a favourite and was quite hurt and offended they thought so, but I do think the particular child is the least hard work so im always pleased they arrive with no stress.

I have three adult DC
i do and always have loved them equally and lots and lots
but yes, secretly I do have a favourite. And it’s the one I’m least close to oddly.
my friend group sometimes talk about this and we all say I definitely don’t have a favourite but if I did it would be DC X.
interestingly all three of mine think they’re the favourite!

I prefer spending time with DS2 because he's calm, lovely and funny while DS1 is autistic, rigid and often rude. But.. my love for them is the same, instinctive and I would do anything for both of them and always treat them fairly. .

"But I also think most people secretly have a child they are especially drawn to/ charmed by over the others."

I see people say things like this & honestly can't relate at all. I have four (adult down to younger teen) and the idea of having a favourite is just bizarre to me - mine are all so very different from one another they all delight, amuse and concern me in different ways. It would be impossible to say I liked one of them more, or found one of them easier or more charming or whatnot.

I tend to think the "oh everyone has a favourite but just won't admit it!" is something people say to makes themselves feel better!

My GC all think they aren't the favourite but all think a different one is the favourite. I'm not sure if that's good or bad.

I have 8 and the truth is I love them all, try to spend equal time with them (due to geography it isn't really possible) but I am more bonded to one for various reasons, I'm not sure if that makes them the favourite but they are the one who needs me most.

Both of mine are my favourite. Adore them both with everything I have.