This is how we’re sleeping tonight.. or most nights.

[Sulking]

key code:
green - husband
white - DD (5yo)
yellow - DS (3yo)
purple - me.

2am, can’t sleep, being kicked in the ass and stomach.

I could go sleep in their room but I will be even more sore in the morning as I suffer from chronic back pain after my c sections that I have to have particular mattresses/toppers to be comfortable.

AIBU to want to DIY a double-king size bed across the entire back wall of our bedroom just so I can sleep at night?!🤣

get the kids in their own beds! You poor thing! You can’t sleep like that

Erm why aren't the kids in there own beds we have two 3s and a 4 and they have all been in there own beds properly since around 14months

I know, totally our own fault. They used to go back to bed when asked but then they started saying they were scared, and when asked to go back to bed now they give that heartbreaking sad look where their eyes well up and they’re trying not to cry but are and it breaks my heart 😭

I keep saying to DH that we need to just spend a week of being super strict with then going back to their own bed. Another issue is we’re both half asleep and neither of us wants to take them back to their room (back downstairs as we’re in a three story house) so we both end up just giving in.

going to make a real effort in the summer holidays to get them back into a good routine 😩

They used to sleep amazing, all the way through in their own bed. But it just stopped about 6 months ago.

We have a 5yo and almost 3yo and a similar sleeping set up! The 5yo does have his own room, but probably 3 nights a week ends up in our bed in the early hours. The 2yo hasn't yet transitioned to her own room. We have a super king bedframe with a toddler cot sidecar'd to it.

I miss those nights. Get the extra double bed and make the most of it.

You said your husband is green (assuming not the Hulk) but I can only see a figure in pink?

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I think if you can’t send them back to their bed for whatever reason, you buy a mattress topper that’s comfy enough for you, so you can utilise the blissfully empty space in their bed. Will be the best investment you ever make!

Rod. For. Your. Own. Back.

Time to reclaim your bed. No matter how tired you are, the children's puppy dog eyes, or having to cart them downstairs to their own beds, just do it.

Every. Single. Time.

We used to have a super king plus a single and drop side cot all in a row 😆 plenty of room that way.

This was my life and I had to be strict because I needed the sleep but I still feel guilty about it.

Also this isn’t one of those colour perception things is it? There is no green, just pink.

There is no harm in them wanting to sleep with you. You won’t make a rod for your own back!!!!

Most people seem to forget that the majority of adults sleep with another adult every night!!!!!!! And these are children. It won’t last forever so enjoy it.

My sisters friend and a diy bed that was the full length of their bedroom so kids to get in and have space. They have grown to be very independent teenagers that sleep in their own room.

As a temporary measure OP can you either

• put their mattresses ( or one of them to share ) in your room on the floor

or

• buy an extra mattress and put two larger mattresses together on the floor for you all to share

( the base of yours would need a home though )

Then work on them moving out over the summer

There is no need to be super strict nor to justify why they sleep with you sometimes.
Falling asleep is a vulnerable thing to do and if they are more comfortable all together I would just create a huge family bed. We often did musical beds growing up and it was good to feel safe. Another option we did was my parents bought a double bed for us kids so we could sleep together with siblings but not with them sometimes.

Now we have a superking and at some point have had a cot attached to it.

I think sleeping on a different storey is not ideal for children so young so would just embrace the family bed while they’re still young. I don’t think I would get much sleep sending DC off sad to their own room, especially on a different floor. Also see if anything can be done about your back pain, that sounds rough.

One of us is colour blind because I don’t see a green figure just a lilac and purple

I see lilac and blue but I think it’s fare to guess the larger figure splayed out with feet on pillow is the man of the house and the squashed up figure bottom left is OP.

But where’s the donkey?

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Op I put my children together - job done. They have always slept together on and off.

I could not carry on. The level of exhaustion was ruining my life. For your own sake and theirs - get them sorted out, having a tired crabby mother isn’t fun!

The rod is already made!
Op is NOT enjoying this.

Everyone in their own beds.
No sleep is no fun.

Upgrade one of their mattresses and keep a spare phone charger in there. Either move into the nice empty room or squash in with them and see if they can readjust to staying there through the night. We are up to about 3 nights everyone in the right bed from 11pm-5amp

Tbf if I was a kid, I'd be pretty scared to be a whole floor away from my parents!

Do they share a room or each have there own room?

I used to love sharing a room with my brother, I liked being able to here him breathing so I didn't feel alone in the dark. Once we were too old to share (maybe when I was 7/8), my parents let me keep a lamp and the radio on. At some point I would fall asleep and they must have turned the radio and lamp off when they went to bed.

We stuck two beds together to make one giant one, it was bliss and they moved out when they were ready ❤️

We have something fairly similar many nights, sometimes one of us will move to a child's bed but most of the time it brings me much more joy and comfort to have my family all together than the discomfort of broken sleep. My older one is spending more and more time in her own bed and although I encourage it, I slightly miss her cuddles.

I’d be scared if everything was in a backdrop of red! It looks like an abstract horror painting 😧

I would put the children together to start with in a separate room. You cannot be getting a fulfilling nights sleep and intimacy with your DH must be difficult.