To not want to be asked for charity donations every time I pay for something in a shop?

[pennyHD]

It’s happening everywhere; even at a self serve check out we’re asked if we want to ‘round up’ for charity.

Every single charity shop I go in now does it at the till. I’m always polite and say no, not today when they ask for more money, but a man who works in one of the shops I go in takes a no very personally and starts slamming the till around and shoves my receipt in my hand whilst glaring at me. He once shouted at me for not wanting to ‘help people’ when I said no.

I give a lot to charity but I want to donate when and how I choose to, and not be put on the spot.

And as for shops like Tesco asking for charity donations, they can fuck right off and donate out of their hefty profits.

Haters going to hate as evidenced by your post.

Asking - would you like to make a donation? Is not harassment.

“Haters”🥱

But the problem is you cant move on, you have to physically opt out. I was rushing to buy some paracetamol in Poundland, mil who is in her mid 90s and starting to lose some facilities was in the bank next door. She worries about walking home with cash....She had walked by before I'd sorted it looking very upset.

I give regularly to charity. These companies are doing to make them look good, not us

Most of the staff in my local Superdrug press the “no” button before most people will have realised it is there, for which I am thankful.

I hate chuggers in or near shop doorways, supermarkets shouldn’t allow them.

They shouted at you?? Did you report them? (It’s the MN way!)

Its annoying but far less so than chuggers, I always press no. I do enough for charity.

With chuggers, I just tell im already signed up which sometimes is true depending on the charity.

This gives the rage OP! How about the shop donates a percentage of the profit they made from my sale to the charity instead!

Perhaps the law should be changed- easy enough to have a separate card reader for donations somewhere in store.

Or even require a shareholders vote annually before it can be continued.

YANBU. It’s annoying and I always say I’ve already donated.

It caught me off guard the first time, I was buying things for food bank. Because I felt embarrassed I said - this is the food bank.

My eyesight isn't that great so the cashiers always say to me just press the red button, otherwise I'm there for ages tapping my card and wondering why nothing's happening.

Edited to add that sometimes they just press the red button for me 😄

It irritates me so much, but I press no and/or say no thank you. I have no compunction in doing so. They can strop all they like but you won’t change my mind. Same with tin rattlers and street chuggers, I just say no and walk on. I support my hospice charity, along with Breast Cancer Care and The Poppy Appeal. If I’m paying cash and my change is a few coppers I’ll ask if they’ve got a charity tin. No other donations than that.

@pennyHD you really should make a formal complaint about that man for behaving like that, it is inappropriate, rude, and aggressive.

It doesn’t really bother me, I don’t mind feeling a bit virtuous by adding 20p to my shopping bill sometimes. I actually weirdly quite like the macdonalds one as I’ve had reason to use their hospital accommodation in a very stressful and difficult situation. I like giving back a bit.
I just press no if I’m feeling like it that day or I don’t particularly like the charity they’ve picked.

It really winds me up! Poundland do it too! If these huge organisations want to donate then they can out of the bonuses they pay to the people in charge.

We are living in very difficult times and I'm worn out by the expectation we continue to give to charity.

There’s also a charity shop in my town where a lady sits at the door at a small desk with a bucket saying donations please as you walk through the door and looks at you.
I actually like walking around round the charity shops in my spare time but will avoid this one because of this.

They've been doing this in the US for years and it was always going to spread

Personally I just tell the truth and say my charitable giving's sorted for the year, and any "slamming around" would bring a polite enquiry as to why they're behaving like that

Hate it, and the chuggers have ramped up on high streets and shopping centres… FUCK OFF! Then there’s the homeless asking for money. I feel like I’m being begged at all the time and sick of having to say no or avoid them

This is so outrageously pestering behaviour that I don't even feel guilty about saying no anymore.

If your train is delayed and you apply for compensation, some train companies ask you if you want to donate it - all of it - to charity. Why do they think you have applied in the first place?

My usual supermarket - I won't name it but it's not a national chain - does the red and green button thing. I've found I can decline fairly unobtrusively as I move my card towards the reader by making a backwards movement of my little finger so that the nail taps the red button.

Maybe not as a one-off, but it does feel rather like death from a thousand paper cuts at times...

It’s really annoying and I imagine most of the sales assistants feel the same way.

It's instead of the collection tins they used to have by the tills. Yabu, no one has to give.

I dislike chuggers immensely and card reader chugging just as much. Saw it yesterday in TK Maxx for the first time in that particular shop and clicked No right away.

The charities I donate to are my choice and my own business and anyone haranguing me about it would get short shrift. A relative of DH ended up with money problems because he was so soft hearted, he had a number of direct debits and just could not say no. I am sure his financial worries contributed to his health problems but we didn't find out how bad they were until after his death.

To all those who find it difficult or embarrassing to say no when asked for a donation at the till or are worried about what those behind them are thinking - you need to have in mind that the question is put together by marketing to say 'Would you like to round up for or donate to charity' but what the marketing people started with and is the real question is 'Would you like to give us some more of your money so that we can take credit for your donation to charity by including in in the headline amount of how much we donate to charity each year and also so that we can offset your donation against our tax bill to pay less tax (and therefore less tax for public services)?' Think of it like this and it becomes very easy to say or hit 'no' and also, if others are like me, those behind you in the queue are likely to be feeling pity for you if you donate because they think you don't know that you are being fleeced by the shop.