To not want to be asked for charity donations every time I pay for something in a shop?

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It’s happening everywhere; even at a self serve check out we’re asked if we want to ‘round up’ for charity.

Every single charity shop I go in now does it at the till. I’m always polite and say no, not today when they ask for more money, but a man who works in one of the shops I go in takes a no very personally and starts slamming the till around and shoves my receipt in my hand whilst glaring at me. He once shouted at me for not wanting to ‘help people’ when I said no.

I give a lot to charity but I want to donate when and how I choose to, and not be put on the spot.

And as for shops like Tesco asking for charity donations, they can fuck right off and donate out of their hefty profits.

@Velmywell no it’s not inconsequential really. As I said in my post, I’ve been shouted at in a shop for saying no.

I don't find it inconsequential either. Particularly the checkout chuggers. They are very aggressive and I don't want to have to explain, in a packed supermarket, that i've just paid for my loaf of reduced bread with 2ps and 1ps so no, I won't be setting up a direct debit for whatever your charity is.

I've got a great excuse. It's so good that my DH has started to use it too.

"no thanks, I work for a charity so am already giving enough."

I’d rather make my charity donations direct so I can choose the charity and they can claim gift aid.

The companies will be using your charity donations to offset their tax which is why they do it.

They never say which charity, either.
There's plenty of charities i wouldn't want to give to.

I agreed once because I felt embarrassed and put on the spot, but never again. I still resent it and remember it with annoyance! (Yes, stupid, I know.)

I wish they'd stop, but it seems unlikely. Now I just press 'NO' or answer, 'Not today' and try not to feel awkward. I imagine that most people hate it, so anyone around probably feel the same way. For all they know, you've just made a massive donation, and it's none of their business, anyway!

As for the rude man, I'd be tempted to laugh at him or fake a concerned look and ask if he's having a bad day. More likely, I'd roll my eyes and say nothing.

“a man who works in one of the shops I go in takes a no very personally and starts slamming the till around and shoves my receipt in my hand whilst glaring at me. He once shouted at me for not wanting to ‘help people’ when I said no.”

OP, that’s outrageous - I wouldn’t be going in there any more. If I’d been particularly cross, he might have got a diatribe on how much charity CEO’s earn, abuses committed by charity workers, charities as huge corporations, how I object to paying for advertising and prefer my money to go direct etc etc etc. I totally agree with the OP that it’s unnecessary for every single purchase to expect you to make a charity donation.

I had it in Primark last week. A woman shaking a bucket homed in on me as I walked in and then again on the way out. Then hostile, passive aggressive attitude when I said no.

You're confusing charity and taxation. Very different things!

Several shops near me are doing this - our little Tescos, both chemist's.

Tesco asked if I wanted to round up my £10.19 payment to £11 the other day. Even my DS who thinks I'm being tight thought that was rude.

We do give monthly to 2 charities of our choice and I'm a trustee of a charity and DP is involved in a Trust that donates thousands per year. But I still feel I am being mean saying no.

McDonald's is the only one I actually do it for. It's their own charity and my friends being able to stay in their houses made such a difference when their baby was sick.

I agree, its annoying. Usually at charity shop tills they say it knowing that other customers will hear you saying no, so its like they're shaming you into paying extra.

And the charity collectors in Boots / Sainsbury's etc are so annoying.

Recently was in town, had a chugger in Boots and then someone asking if I wanted to round up my purchase in a charity shop. I said no. I thought it's priced fairly, as opposed to a bargain, I've spent £16.50 on a dress and I don't want it rounded up. The person seemed a bit taken aback.. but really I'm already supporting the charity.

I feel like you do , op. I want to choose when I give to charity . And definitely don't want to sign up for a monthly dd.

It is Counter Chugging and frankly as bad as those terrorising our high streets. It should be banned.

another charity hating thread….

Our Walmart in the US does it all the time

This!!! It's a tax dodge for the companies. Outrageous

I opt out unless I think I have had a particularly good day and am feeling lucky and grateful. Then I like chance to make a tiny contribution to something. I have an opt in day maybe once a week.

The only time I think it's acceptable to ask is at McDonalds - I do think it's really great that they fund the Ronald McDonald houses. Let's face it, we would be so glad of that if our children or grandchildren or other relatives were ill.

I was behind a woman in a store the other day where the clerk had pressed Yes for her and the woman queried it. The clerk had to cancel the sale and put it through and had a right face on her throughout. The customer was scarlet but everyone in the queue agreed with her. It's just theft if they do it without telling you, and often bullying in the way they ask.

The main problem is the urge to be polite and worrying what other people think.
There is no obligation to be polite in these circumstances. I will happily say no, don't explain why you are not donating, there is no need for explanation no is enough.
No is enough for chuggers too.

The volunteer in the last oxfam I was in said they hated asking people to round up! Socially awkward for them as well.

Even the local petrol station does it. It's not very accountable- no idea where the money is going!

We have a charity giving account and we set aside money each month then decide how to give it. Obviously lucky to be able to afford to but I prefer it that way.

I have worked in the charity sector for 20 years and I can’t tell you how hard it is raising funds nowadays! So many wonderful charities are closing down because they do not have the money coming in. Charities aren’t funded by Councils and the Government through your taxes, they absolutely rely on the generosity of the public. And more and more people are leaning on charities for things like food bank vouchers, mental health support and medical support…

No I don’t press Donate on the shop tills. After working in many charities over the years, I don’t like supporting large national charities with huge overheads, which is who the large supermarkets tend to support. Find a local small charity really making a difference and help them instead 🥰

Mcdonalds is the only one I do it in as well as I have had cause to use a RM House and the difference it made to me on that day was massive.

Ok if I’m completely honest I slightly enjoy hitting ‘no’. Which is easily as dysfunctional as them asking for it. Old and grim faced.

Pisses me right off. They should ask "Do you want us to donate our profits from this sale to charity?"