I’m probably being a prude but…

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…what is the deal with teenage girls running around basically naked these days?

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Then, I was on the beach today (we live near the sea) with my two primary school aged sons and there were a group of maybe 13-14 year old girls, they were very young, more than half of whom were in thong bikinis. They spent most of the time on the beach doing a photoshoot, predominantly photos of them from behind looking out to sea, presumably for social media?!

I know teenagers have always been teenagers, but I’m pretty sure underage girls weren’t wearing thong bikinis on the beach when I was that age 😳

I could see other families on the beach felt uncomfortable with it too.

Do their parents know? Is this just how teenagers dress these days?

I don't really care what teens wear - I used to be a goth and regularly wore 8 inch heeled boots out and about including to the supermarket with my mum - but I have to pull you up on your logic here. Vulvas, penises and anuses are all also just skin.

I’m not saying that at all. I’m saying what you wear doesn’t have any impact on your chances of getting raped or not. I mentioned to another poster about the case of Pony, an orangutan who was forced to wear makeup and made to “work in a brothel” and another case were a man from the UK was raping calves to death. Google it as I know you probably won’t believe me. But them victims weren’t wearing clothes and it still happened. Utterly horrifying.

Am I stalking girls? 😅 What a bizarre thing to say.

“If you don’t like seeing children sexualised then you must be a predator”

Is the wildest take I’ve ever seen

Please, please don’t tell me you have any responsibility for children’s safeguarding in any capacity.

So naive, I'm sorry to say!

No, I bought them. I don’t really see the issue with it. I was in year 8 and the majority of my friends wore them, so it was a common. Normal full sized briefs. I didn’t feel comfortable wearing them. I disagree, I find them very comfortable and still wear them now. I find you very naive when it comes to teenagers but you might be from an older generation I don’t know. I knew friends at 14/15 that had boyfriends and having sex, it happens. Teenagers a lot more clued up than you think. I had a placement in a sexual health clinic and it was very normal to see teenagers coming in. I think it’s better to accept that this happens than just ignore it. There was that Sarah Platt story line in Coronation Street about underage pregnancy, so it’s not a new thing. That was like 20 years ago I think. I suggest you watch Skins or Sex Education to wise yourself up.

I'm a bit on the fence here. I think thongs, nudity, whatever goes on the beach. But I don't want to see up a teens skirt on the escalators in Westfield...

I don't. I don't understand why what I said would worry you though - could you clarify?

So someone tells you about their own horrific abuse incident to highlight how clothing doesn't make a difference and you call them naive?!

You've clearly never been to a gay club or a Pride event then, or a city where there is a large gay community on a Friday or Saturday night.

It's not a new thing either, I can remember seeing guys in incredibly short shorts at venues like the London Apprentice and the Vauxhall Tavern back in the early 80s.

Thank god!

Ah yes
Males never have their arses on display

Builders bums and "gangsta drop pants" are definitely females...

It’s no wonder teens get confused. We tell them to assert themselves, we tell them to be themselves and then they are in the wrong.

But OP, surely there is a huge difference between what is a acceptable in the high street and what is acceptable on the beach?

l do consider you can overthink these things. I was UK born but lived in Paris because of dad’s job. As teens (l’m in my 40s now), we used to stand on a bridge on a summer’s night and flash our boobs to the tourist boats on the River Seine below. No harm was done and we ended up with professional jobs.

We're talking boys, not men.

Genuinely though - I was just saying I thought the argument that bums are "just skin" is a stupid one. Why does that make me some sort of threat to children?

You were clearly saying that "it's just skin" failed as an argument because the bits that should be covered are also "just skin"

Which shows a good understanding, not a threat. I don't get it either

You’re completely right!
My mistake.

Im really sorry @Kuretake

No worries! Thanks for replying

Although anyone should be able to walk around showing their wares, in theory, in practice it’s very unwise.
I doubt if many mums on here would approve of their daughter appearing in public like this!
Yes teenagers will do silly things, but what has been described on here is indecent and possibly a crime.

Literally!

And I’m not taking about rape, I’m talking about young teenagers being overly sexualised through patriarchal beauty standards that tell them walking about with their arse on show is a good idea.

I can't be bothered to read the whole thread.

I'm 65 and often called a pearl clutcher on here

At 13/14 I sunbathed topless at Port Grimaud, Juan Le Pins, etc., as did my mother. And carried on doing it for several years. My daughter did/does on the cotes vermeille, probably since about 13.

At the same ages, neither of us ever had our backsides on show in town. But then I wouldn't wear flip flops in town. Equally vulgar. However, I can't say I pay that much attention to local school girls as I'm too busy going about my business.

If it's offensive and they are wearing an identifiable uniform (its purpose), perhaps a letter to the Head Teacher about the inappropriateness and reputation of the school. I recall my old HT reading out letters about the vulgarity of the gels, bringing the school I to disrepute for chewing gum and eating in the street.

Maternity hit pants in 1971. I was tempted but resisted.

But a) there are hundreds of the rude little sods who stop at random, push past people, walk completely blocking the pavement so I have no choice but to look forward...and girls being 51% of the population will therefore be in my line of sight
b) I avoid looking, my post was that I worry that people think I'm some sort of creep who is there to look and that I am just trying to look