DH and the washing machine

[recklessgran]

Just looking for some perspective on this as sometimes I think I'm going mad. We returned last night from a week's holiday - obviously with the usual dirty laundry and like most women I'm keen to crack on and get the laundry started and out on the line. This morning DH got the cases in from the car so I thought I'd get the first wash load on ahead of going out to get groceries for us as well as my demented mother to whom I would need to deliver said groceries.[Lives alone with a small care package] and obviously haven't seen her so would need to catch up and make sure she's O.K, etc
DH fully aware of this plan [and the fact that I always start the washing as soon as the cases are in from the car]. He was taking our dog out for a run whilst I cracked on with above jobs. No issue with that - usual routine. However the next thing I can hear the washing machine going so I asked DH what was in the washing machine. Dog towels he says. Dog towels says I? What? Now - today when I've got a case load of dirty holiday washing to do? Yes, you guessed it - all this hot weather and he decides to put a load of muddy dog towels on that he's been storing in his boot since the last wet weather so obviously not newly muddy or needed to be washed today or likely to be used imminently given the current heatwave. He does not understand why under the above circumstances I'm so cross that he has prioritised laundering the bloody dog towels. So, AIBU to be really cross with DH this morning as he seems to think so having just stormed out with said dog ? [So as not to drip feed he has form fror this kind of thing and often has his own agenda where it doesn't occur to him to consider anyone else's needs.]

Oh lordy, more womaning things I’ve failed to do all my life - washing holiday clothes the minute I step through the door, and ‘allowing’ a man to use ‘my’ washing machine.
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They'll soon dry, I hung out a load of washing and when I pegged out the last pair of pants I took a cotton t shirt off the line and put it on, bone dry!

I don’t think I could be bothered to get worked up about this. Dirty dog towels also need washing so who cares what order everything gets done?

I’d just cancel the cycle and chuck the wet towels into the bathtub/utility sink/garden for him to deal with later. He knew the post-holiday laundry needed to happen and is just being awkward and thoughtless. He can lug the wet towels in and restart them once the important stuff is done. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Also dog and horse laundry is always lowest priority and happens after clothing or sheets because it’s dirtier, so he’s massively unreasonable for that.

It all needs washimg, what does the order matter? Unless you’re missing the really important info that you need something desperately today then this makes no sense, and if that’s the case then just prioritise that thing in the next load.

DH would do.this. on the stupid eco 4 hour wash. the dog absolutely wouldn't care, unlike the teenager who cannot wear any thing but what is in the suitcase and not her extensive floordrobe.

DH was quite happy not cooking for a decade but noticing I'd switched the oven on at an uncharacteristic time of day, 10am, switched it off to conserve fuel. It was Christmas and yes the turkey was in there.
His fucking mother congratulated me on having a DH who took notice of kitchen things.

We had this (although small house not flat) but bought a dehumidifier and it's been a game changer.

This is the kind of behaviour that would upset the very old fashioned, uptight and rigid people I know.

Ah he thinks he is helping , you said washing so that's what he did.
Next time tell him what type of items you want in first.
I give my husband a list when he asks what needs doing ,it's easier.

Hopefully you asked for a nice new patio for Christmas the following year.

Just impressed he could operate the washing machine! I was away for a week in September and when I got home ds greeted me wearing a christmas jumper as everything else was in the wash. I didn't blame ds as I knew he used the wm at university- and he'd just come out of hospital having been in intensive care. Dh thinks he's being helpful when he opens the door at the end of a cycle!

Is there a business opportunity out there - teaching ridiculous men basic household chores, for a hefty fee?

I feel some of them are stupid enough to only value tasks that are monetised in some way, and would jump at the chance to earn a participation trophy.

I'd stop doing his wash. Separate yours out and do it properly. Leave him to figure out his own. A ten year old could do better than this man.

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It would annoy me too, OP, because my washing machine is an officious bastard that decides for itself when the washing is clean, whatever cycle I choose, and would keep muddy dog towels in there for ages. If you wanted something specific washed and dried, the delay would boil my piss. Not great on a hot weekend. Nothing to do with being inflexible about routines. Maybe OP wanted to lie outside in a bikini that needed to be washed.

Its a bit annoying (and totally the sort of thing my XH would have done, only he would have done it deliberately to be a dick)
But I have to say that I have spent the day rooting about the house for stuff to wash because everything is drying in about half an hour, so all the dogs blankets, cushion covers, and various winter jackets have been bundled through before the country goes back to being damp and miserable.

I'm more annoyed about the fact that my neighbour is playing George Ezra on a loop very loudly in her garden, if I have to hear Shotgun one more time she'll be getting bundled into the machine and boil washed.

I'd be more upset about having 2 guests to stay today after only getting back from holiday last night!

Missing the point I know but this would upset me far more than the washing!

You left the cases in the car overnight??? I would have had them in no matter what time and the first load in the machine on timer to start in the morning. Our cases are emptied and put away straight away.

Wow, my DH doesn’t know how to work washing machine (apparently) despite being a plumber and installing 100’s. I wouldn’t be too annoyed, the dog towels do smell.

Both the holiday wash and the dog towels need doing so it doesn’t make a lot of odds. But then DH does all the washing machine loading and unloading (and is far too punctilious about ironing, in my view). And we mostly put washes on overnight on the cheaper tariff anyway.

LTB obviously!! How dare he not follow the rules 😂

I’m of a similar mindset with the holiday wash, I literally bring the case in, empty it immediately into the machine and turn it on. It’s fully empty and everything where it should be within 5 minutes of arriving home.

This wouldn’t bother me too much though, it’s a hot day the towels will be dry within a couple of hours during which time the clothes wash could have been done ready to replace the towels.

It's an absolute non issue.

Why can’t you enjoy the company of your guests unless the holiday washing is all done?

‘Most women’ come on, let’s not generalise women down to being compelled to put a wash on after a holiday 🥴

You are massively overreacting. It’s mildly annoying at the most.