DH and the washing machine

[recklessgran]

Just looking for some perspective on this as sometimes I think I'm going mad. We returned last night from a week's holiday - obviously with the usual dirty laundry and like most women I'm keen to crack on and get the laundry started and out on the line. This morning DH got the cases in from the car so I thought I'd get the first wash load on ahead of going out to get groceries for us as well as my demented mother to whom I would need to deliver said groceries.[Lives alone with a small care package] and obviously haven't seen her so would need to catch up and make sure she's O.K, etc
DH fully aware of this plan [and the fact that I always start the washing as soon as the cases are in from the car]. He was taking our dog out for a run whilst I cracked on with above jobs. No issue with that - usual routine. However the next thing I can hear the washing machine going so I asked DH what was in the washing machine. Dog towels he says. Dog towels says I? What? Now - today when I've got a case load of dirty holiday washing to do? Yes, you guessed it - all this hot weather and he decides to put a load of muddy dog towels on that he's been storing in his boot since the last wet weather so obviously not newly muddy or needed to be washed today or likely to be used imminently given the current heatwave. He does not understand why under the above circumstances I'm so cross that he has prioritised laundering the bloody dog towels. So, AIBU to be really cross with DH this morning as he seems to think so having just stormed out with said dog ? [So as not to drip feed he has form fror this kind of thing and often has his own agenda where it doesn't occur to him to consider anyone else's needs.]

That would irritate me too OP. A lot.

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I read your post and basically thought 'so what' - If it's a good drying day I'd be doing 2 loads anyway.

Surely op should have been setting the alarm throughout the night to ensure all of it could be done overnight thus freeing up the machine for her husband . . .

Not a big deal. Just ask him to put the holiday washes on after the load of towels has finished. Laundry is not women’s work and no, ‘most women’ in equal households aren’t keen to crack on with laundry after a holiday any more than their male partners.

My DP is absolutely not allowed to touch the washing machine. Unlike many of you with gardens and outside space who like a good drying day, we live in a small flat with no outside hanging space. I can only dry eight large items at a time, even on hot days it takes a full day to dry a load. I approach the washing with military precision. Every now and again he inexplicably decides to ‘help’ and we have to have the washing conversation again. I feel your pain op.

Like pp, I would have put a load on last night. In fact my holidays luggage would have been packed with the washing already sorted.

omg 😂we need the laughing emoji back!

I am the boss of the washing machine/ washing fairy and this wouldn’t bother me unless the clothes in your holiday washing were urgent and the weather outside was bad.

How petty and silly. How long is the wash going to take? A waster of energy worrying about this.

Like most women I'm keen to crack on and get the laundry started

Wtf? Your post smacks of sexism and ‘women’s work’ bollocks.

Totally! This is me too. Really pisses me off when anyone else goes near the washing machine. They can unload it, they can hang the washing up (where I tell them to), they can put it away, but they DO NOT put it on!!

Mine would be dry and ironed by now 😂

You’re unreasonable for saying like most women. My OH always gets the washing on when we get back from holiday.

No, I know they aren't but they rarely get a mention on MN 😉

Now we are into speed of laundry competitions. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Sitting with a coffee while husband is doing the ironing. As he has done for the last 20 years of Saturday mornings.

He's going to have a busy day washing then, isn't he. I'd be telling him to have fun with it all and not touch it.

This is really not a big deal...... your laundry won't explode if it has to wait for an extra hour before being washed! Just relax- you've been on holiday, so don't undo all the good of going.

Depends if you have enough knickers or not I guess

Annoying, but this happens when you marry an idiot. I’m sure he makes up for it in other ways.

This would piss me off too and is exactly the sort of thing my husband would do

It could be worse. At least he knows how to use the machine. I went out for lunch with a mate and my H called me to tell me the washing machine was broken. He even changed the fuse. Unfortunately, he hadn't pressed the ON button.

This would annoy me but not excessively. DH has no clue on how to use the machine so no worries there. I have these brilliant big zipped bags that the dogs stuff goes in to avoid getting hair etc in the machine then it's on the washing line. I don't tumble dry the dogs stuff. amzn.eu/d/dvJo944

Memories of a Christmas Day years ago when OH decided that mid morning, as I was cooking lunch for 12, was a good time to put a washing load in, including all the oven gloves!

Meh, does the wash cycle take five hours?

My husband is great at putting the washing on. Then leaving it in there for a few hours to get nice and creased before he puts it on the line. Then takes it in and leaves it all crumpled up in the washing basket until I put the clothes away. (He works from home and I work 10 hour days). Yes there are bigger things to be irritated about and people tell me I should be grateful that he even puts it on 🙄 but we have the right to be annoyed. I would be annoyed too.

We expect far too little of men. This is sad.