AIBU for attending show with male friend?

[CrossingBoundaries007]

I've been started dating this man less than a year ago and he recently proposed.

all was well until I found out he had given out his number to 2 different women on dating sites after he had proposed to me. Living some pictures etc.

when I confronted him he said he forgot to deactivate the account. Then I told him about his recent conversations but he lied and said that he wasn't active even though I had read all their conversations.

He stopped talking to me for a week. I got pissed off and a male friend invited me to see a show with him. Normally I would decline but this time I agreed cos I wanted to go out.

Fiance is now angry with me and acting really pissed.

AIBU to think there was nothing with me going to the show with my friend?

Fuck him off

I’m going to go out on a limb and say stop considering yourself engaged to this man that you barely know.

He's a cheat and jealous with it. Don't marry this man, just ditch him.

I've voted YABU - not because you went out with a friend but because you are still with this vile man. Have some self respect and dump him.

Why are you even back with him ? After a week of silent treatment?

Going to the show is not the problem...

See those hills over there.... Run for them and don't look back.

Look up the Assume Nothing Femicide 8 easy steps to murder podcast on BBC sounds.

I’ve voted YABU as I have no idea why he’s still your fiancé????

He has been sending me flowers, apologising etc but I don't think I can trust him. He's divorced and I am aware cheating was a major part of the issues that led to their divorce. He says he's changed but how?

He clearly hasn’t changed, and the flowers are manipulation

You must know the MN adage "Once a cheat always a cheat" OP.

You've already seen proof that he is still a cheat .

😔 we were already planning the wedding looking for a place together. I just don't get it...

This man has messaged other women after getting engaged to you, you’ve only been seeing him a year and he has form for cheating !! FGS run

Well it seems blindingly obvious that he's going to cheat on you too, if he's not already.

I can't work out why you're still engaged to him...?

Why is he still your fiancé?

He said he was sorry and didn't plan on meeting up with any of them.

Sure

The only unreasonable part is that he is still your fiancé. Fgs bin him.off immediately. If he is playing around as a fiancé what would he be like once you're trapped into marriage with a chest?

Never be in a relationship where you have to be a private detective. You will regret keeping in contact with this dishonest man.

You’re mad if you marry him. He is lying and trying to charm you with flowers. He will do it again.

Honestly! I made several other discoveries and it's all very disturbing.

Why would you normally decline? I don’t think that’s necessary. I don’t think you should have gone if you normally wouldn’t in an attempt to piss off your partner (I use that word loosely), I think you should just break up with him because he’s a dick

OP, if you're finding it all 'very disturbing' then that's your gut telling you that this relationship is WRONG for you! As others have pointed out, he's already cheated on you by making contact with these other women, AFTER proposing marriage to you, and you having accepted. He was unfaithful to his ex. He has probably already been unfaithful to you. He's bought you flowers in an attempt to manipulate you into forgiving him AND he's given you the silent treatment for a week, so is clearly a sulker. Then just to top it off, YOU said 'I don't think I can trust him'.

Do you REALLY want to marry a man like this??

Do you REALLY want to marry a man who you can't trust?

Think about it.

Then

DUMP HIM!

I didn't go to piss him off I just went because I wanted to cheer myself up. It's been tough navigating the disappointment.

He keeps saying that I should fight for us and that's what any smart woman would do. That when we get married what if worse things happen and I can't overcome them.