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cyclops123 · 2025-06-26T16:30:35+00:00

DD ( 12) got report card that says amongst other things " Key for DD to succeed will be focusing on implementing healthy sleep and nutrition." What impressions do you form of the child and of the parent ? FYI, DD gets fed properly at home. I can't control what she eats at school. Also, involved in a nasty divorce.

TheWisePlumDuck · 26/06/2025 22:08

At 12 years old she shouldn't have access to any devices connected to the Internet through the night. At all.

Her phone/laptop should be left downstairs when she goes up at bed time.

Faithless12 · 27/06/2025 06:59

cyclops123 · 26/06/2025 18:03

No, I am not nochalant about the internet. She used the excuse of doing home work, and I don't have access to her homework account. Sometimes, she's on it till 11pm or even 12 and then I just take away the wifi router. No more internet for anyone. Whenever it is a late night, I send an email to the teacher to notify her that DD has slept late. The school asked DD to stop internet at a certain time regardless if homework is done.

Why haven’t you put parental controls on whatever device she is using so it stops working after a certain time? Informing the school she has slept late is being nonchalant about it to me.

OliviaBonas · 27/06/2025 07:26

cyclops123 · 26/06/2025 17:58

The school senior leadership has been very supportive for which I am grateful for and I am the one who is notifying the school about some of DD's late nights.. She needs sleep at 9.30 pm , but 11 pm will make her super tired., and I also informed school that she's may be not buying the best nutritious food for lunch.

I appreciate the teacher's comments but just felt nutrition could be better qualified that its what she sees him eating at school.

Thanks to all for your perspectives.

They’re addressing your concerns in the report to show they have listened, remembered, know your child. They may also think it’ll help if your daughter reads that school care about her well-being and she may subsequently make some sleep and nutrition changes as suggested by someone that’s not mum.

Also, if she’s underperforming in exam years, they’ve got a paper trail that they raised sleep as a risk factor at the earliest opportunity.

I can’t imagine she’s the only KS3 pupil with this on her reports due to phones/screens/gaming 😢

Bushmillsbabe · 27/06/2025 07:36

cyclops123 · 26/06/2025 18:06

Yes, focus on well being and health. I get it . May be she felt my DD needed to see it in written form.

Sometimes it is this. Teachers will give advice to a child again and again but if they don't take it they will try a different way.

Homework - should be completed as soon as gets home, no 'fun' things until it's done. Then can unwind and hopefully sleep better. We had similar challenge with late nights and set this boundary of homework first. Yes thete was loads of moaning but once it was established it's been so much better.

Could she take a packed lunch so can monitor what is eating

Twisterpiggy · 27/06/2025 07:40

cyclops123 · 26/06/2025 18:03

No, I am not nochalant about the internet. She used the excuse of doing home work, and I don't have access to her homework account. Sometimes, she's on it till 11pm or even 12 and then I just take away the wifi router. No more internet for anyone. Whenever it is a late night, I send an email to the teacher to notify her that DD has slept late. The school asked DD to stop internet at a certain time regardless if homework is done.

This is so passive. Stop letting her stay up to midnight!

RaspberryCombat · 27/06/2025 07:44

OP, I’d also find it hard not to take it as a criticism, especially with the knowledge that it could be used against me by an ex.

However, one thing that struck me is that good nutrition and sleep are part of ‘self-care’. Perhaps the teacher has noticed that your daughter seems sad (divorce-related or not - who knows, and not your fault anyway), and this is her shorthand for ‘you’ll need to make sure you help her keep on top of her mental health, as school will get harder next year’.

Twisterpiggy · 27/06/2025 07:45

RaspberryCombat · 27/06/2025 07:44

OP, I’d also find it hard not to take it as a criticism, especially with the knowledge that it could be used against me by an ex.

However, one thing that struck me is that good nutrition and sleep are part of ‘self-care’. Perhaps the teacher has noticed that your daughter seems sad (divorce-related or not - who knows, and not your fault anyway), and this is her shorthand for ‘you’ll need to make sure you help her keep on top of her mental health, as school will get harder next year’.

A teacher should rightly be concerned and critical about a 12 year old regularly falling asleep in school. It’s not normal.

RaspberryCombat · 27/06/2025 10:13

Twisterpiggy · 27/06/2025 07:45

A teacher should rightly be concerned and critical about a 12 year old regularly falling asleep in school. It’s not normal.

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You’re quite right. Sorry that was a failure to RTFT.