To find male aggression deeply disturbing to witness as a woman?

[ForBreezySloth]

Whether it’s shouting, throwing things, road rage, or even just a man’s body language shifting during an argument - something about male aggression triggers a visceral fear response in me. I know not all anger is violence and not all aggression is abusive but it feels different when it’s coming from a man. It’s louder, heavier - more unpredictable. AIBU to think there’s something about male aggression that just lands harder, especially from a female point of view?

It’s not nonsense. Everything you say is true, but it’s well established that flight/flight/freeze is run by the primal part of our brain - panic tends to kick us back there.

@SummeringOut
"I'm not an animal. I don't regard men as a class as animals, and I think that doing so goes along with discredited, reactionary ideas about men being programmed to do certain things (fuck around, get into fights) by their 'evolutionary biology'."

Are you religious? Do you believe in Creation rather than evolution?

I dont think you should compare arachnophobia to hating all men. I think you would be best seeing a therapist (although maybe you do already). People could be scared of spiders in general because of how they look and the surprise element, it's just an ingrained response to be scared, if you hate all men because of some bad experiences then it's not rational.

This. Back when I was dating, the faintest hint of a temper / anger issues and they were GONE. Ditto sulking/moodiness/energy sapping.

Absolutely zero tolerance.

I trained karate for nine years and over time learned how to deal with direct eye contact, close body contact and how to fight with men in a very controlled environment. I also learned to shout, really, really hard.

It was the best thing I ever did. I learned that there were things that I could do if I ever felt threatened. I definitely don’t go round looking for trouble but I have used the training in life - I drunk guy put his hand on my shoulder in the middle of town when I was with my kids and I turned around and yelled right in his face. He wasn’t expecting that.

I'm not sure we can always blame men for being male mammals. That doesn't mean that it is acceptable to abuse women but men and their testosterone evolved over millions of years to protect our species. No one blames a bull for behaving like a bull.

Sorry but youcare wrong.

We are a species of animal, mammalian, primate

Animal
Mammal
Primate
Human

That's not rudeness, that's someone who actively enjoys instilling fear based on asserting physical dominance in order to get their way. Far more sinister.