To be worried about dd’s future

[alwaysaworryaway]

My dd has been a SAHP since she got pregnant at 16 and is now 42 and is expecting her 5th baby. Her Dh earns very little to be honest and they rely on my help a lot.
She didn’t do very well in her exams at school and isn’t academic, she also had no further education after leaving school and has no work experience.

So with no pension, barely any income and 5 children one has moved out now, I just don’t know what will become of her.
She just seems to have written life off and is drifting along just trying to get through.
I worry because she’s never had any friends and never seems to be happy.
At some point she’ll have to find paid work as she’s got another 30 years almost of working years but I don’t know how she’ll go about this when the time comes, which it inevitably will.
I can’t be around to support them forever.

I think it's clear that OP is more likely to continue writing her DD off (while enabling her) than attempting to help her get assessments that might allow her move forward with her life, @FairKoala.

You say you have been giving her money as she might as well have it now as opposed to later. I actually think she’d be better off having you stop with any money now and save it for later. She might really need it later on, and it might focus her mind on her situation if she gets less help from you. She needs to take responsibility for her life, like we all do - she has five kids at a time in history when there was no need to do so, she presumably wanted them all.. Seriously op, stop enabling her. Maybe think about helping her pursue a possible diagnosis for her that might explain some of her challenges - arguably something you could and should have done a long time ago?