To wonder why people fuck about so much?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

I’m a bit phobic about public loos and someone taking a long time in there sends me into a panic as I think they’re doing a shit.

I can't accept that people are different to me waaah waaah

Make your lunch, no need to go to a shop. Or if you must buy a meal deal, use the self checkouts rather than deliberately choosing to stand in a queue behind people who might dare to speak to one another or use the conveyor belt.

There's also usually "express" lanes or small shop checkouts.

Some of these problems are of your own making.

You shouldn't really need to ask the driver anything. It's 2025. You can google where everything is, what bus goes where, etc. Google maps even tells you which bus to get to where you want to go if you go to directions and click the "public transport" icon.
A quick question about the fare - fine
I might even let you away with the direction questions if you're really old.
But a load of "do you go to..." and "how do I get to" and "how long does it take to get there" and "what bus shall I catch to get back" and "where do I get that from?" is just inconsiderate. It's a bus full of people who have somewhere to be, and since our bus stops are built-out, it also holds up a huge queue of rush-hour traffic. You are holding up potentially 100s of people because you can't be arsed to google.

Me too op all of the things you mentioned irritate me so much and the top of the top for me is when someone doesnt hold a door open when there is a person behind them so the door gets slammed in their face.

I can't accept that people are fucking rude and inconsiderate, no.

Why didn't I think of using the self checkouts?
Mainly because they are either full with queues a mile long or closed

I don't want to make homemade sandwiches-I'm not a fan of sweaty sandwiches (no fridge at work) and no matter what I use to wrap them in,they just taste wrong

I enjoy (mainly) choosing lunch the supermarket and why shouldn't I?

I have as much right to buy something at the shop as everyone else

Absolutely, but busy times when there is a queue is not the time to do it.

But there is nothing you can do about it other than try to be a little more tolerant. Sure, everyone is annoying but the only one suffering because it gets on your nerves is you.

So do the people you're complaining about.

You have choices. You made them. Don't stand behind a little old lady at a checkout then moan that you're stuck behind a little old lady at the checkout. Use a different one.

Yet another thread that's making me miss the laugh emoji!
To all the PPs (you are legion) being witty, sarcastic and/or silly: 🤣🤣🤣 and thank you!

Not read the thread but has anyone mentioned airports yet?! When you are queuing to go through the security gates at departures - people wait until the very last minute and then suddenly are surprised they have to find their liquids or can’t carry their 1litre gym water bottle, or souvenir Swiss Army knife through 🤯 gives me the fucking rage.

Oh I hear you OP.
I went the local tip a few months ago, around 4pm and they had closed it off whilst they took away the full skips and replaced them, not just one, bloody most of them.
It shuts at 5pm so why they couldn't wait till the end of the day, or 1st thing next morning, to do it I have no idea.

Hate it too! Going to the tip is the event of the day for some people so they’ve all the time in the world to saunter around and take their time.

I will make a point of never moaning again/finding my own personal checkout to get served/go hungry on a long shift

OK then

Yep - I mentioned it as I’ve just got back from holiday and seen every faff and fanny known to man

I flew home from Spain on 13th Sept 2001 and people were still fannying about arguing why they couldn’t take a full set of steak knives and a ceremonial sword in their hand luggage.

What was he DOING when you tapped on the window?! sitting staring into space? on his phone? I need to know what these people do.

I am also in a long term relationship with a faffer. His father is also the king of faff. I went on holiday with them both and I was ready to kill them. They just don’t have any awareness of what’s going on around them.

fortunately I lived in France for five years so I’ve had significant training to contain the rage and try to see things from the other side. Long live the cheque book!

I used to have a pretty regular ahem, gentleman caller, who I had to get rid of because his incessant faffing far outweighed his sexual prowess and I was no longer willing to endure it.

He used to get the bus to meet me, and I’d pick him up, and drop him at the station the next morning, before going to work myself. They were inter-city buses, so typically 90 mins apart.

Now, I’m extremely organised and efficient. When I leave my bedroom in the morning, I leave with everything I need from the bedroom and ensure I don’t need to go back. I am dressed, hair done, etc. I know I will be getting my shoes, coat and handbag from the cloakroom. I bring my phone, the mug if i’ve had an early morning cuppa, and anything else that needs to be brought to the kitchen. I’ve closed the window and left the room tidy.

But this guy… oh my word! He’d leave the bedroom and go to the kitchen for breakfast. Then back to the room for his shoes. Up to the kitchen for his coat. Then, “where’s my scarf? Was I wearing it when I arrived?” Back to the bedroom for his phone. He often wore a hat, which never seemed to be in the same place as his coat or scarf. Finally we’d get to the car, no sooner would I have started the engine than he’d start patting his pockets and muttering about his wallet.

Gentle chivvying along didn’t work. Mild irritation didn’t work. Leaving him to get a taxi to the bus station worked for a short period but when old habits began to creep back in I realised I didn’t want to put up with that shit any longer and I called a halt to our meetings. I expect he’s still faffing about somewhere and annoying someone else.

Wow, I didn’t realise we’re now not allowed to speak to anyone in public now. So an elderly person or a teenager can’t reassure themselves they’re going in the right direction on a bus? You need to lighten up

It’s always when you’re in a rush as well. There was a couple the other week stood at a bus stop searching through their pockets for their unlimited rider tickets. I timed it was 4 minutes they were dithering. Then they said sorry can’t find them and walked off. They were both either trying to get a free ride or just feckless. Just put them in your purse or wallet where you can easily find them.

It always makes me half laugh half frustrated when going to the tip. Someone will open their boot, spend a good 2 minutes hands on hips looking into the back of it. Turn around look at the skips behind to decide whether they need cardboard, glass, general waste or what not. Turn to look into the boot again. Repeat to look at the skips. Then take ONE SINGLE ITEM from the boot, small item, go put it in a skip. They will repeat the whole sequence for ever single item even though they are usually the same item which mean they know it goes in the same skip! I sit in my car open mouthed wondering wtf. Nothing is bagged either. Everything is separated and carried separate to the skip one at a time.

My turn is like a military operation. If my whole car takes more than 2 minutes I’ve been too slow 😁

edit for spelling mistake.

I suffer with both lichen sclerosus and anal fissure. If I've had a wee i may well be pain and applying cream. If I've had a poo, well to put it quite simply the feeling like I've had barbed wire stuck up my arse means I cant physically move for a few mins as the pain is too intense. HTH.

I went away for a long weekend with a friend who faffed about so much we missed our bus to go on a trip and the day we came home, wasn’t ready by midday to leave the room as she couldn’t organise her packing - it was 3 nights worth of clothes!

I work at a busy hospital and the main exit is just 2 lanes one in and out Everyone is trying to leave and there is a car just pulled over , person inside chatting to a couple on the pavement. Totally oblivious to the massive queue of cars behind that couldn't over take as cars coming in, everyone beeping at them.... chatting.... still stood there for 10 mins stopped on a double yellow. Couldn't have cared less. Soo annoying and unnecessary.