People no longer have pride In how they drsss.

[Welliesandtweed]

I've increasingly noticed that people are getting scruffier and scruffier in how they dress.

Some of the secretaries where I work come in, In trainers, band t shirts, coloured hair, loose fitting, cheap tops. I wouldn't do the garden in some of the outfits I see. They aren't typically patient facing but on occasion are. I think it really lacks professionalism to turn up scruffy to work.

Same for people out for an evening meal in jogging bottoms.

On Saturday we had sports day at school and every woman was in a nice dress and men in chinos / short chinos and shirts. Children all in proper PE uniform. It was so refreshing to see.

Considering the OP’s user name and the generally snootines of the posts, I have an inkling this is a bit of a piss take.

My thoughts exactly. I'm done. The OP hasn't posted on here for nearly an hour and a half. Enjoying your work @Welliesandtweed ?

I'm out.

I agree with you 100% OP but you will see that we are massively in the minority.

I see chinos and short chinos as being casual (and therefore suitable for a school sports day), but I'm from the 1960s. Are they considered dressy nowadays?

I wear my oldest, scruffiest clothes when I'm in my garden - no point in catching the decent clothes on rose thorns.

My battered old gardening shoes are covered in Creocote and paint stains. Come to think of it, some of my gardening clothes are also covered in paint stains - I tend to wear clothes until they're worn out.

When I were a lass, the mantra was "As long as they're clean and paid for..."

One of the women who works where dh does has been told not to come to work in the clothes she was wearing. She does a physical job so she is going up and down steps and stairs, bending over, reaching up… you get the picture. She was coming into work in a cropped top and tiny Lycra shorts, extremely short shorts. So short in fact you could see her arse cheeks. Totally fine to wear shorts but shorts which cover your arse. You are also supposed to wear the t shirt provided by the company with the company logo on.

I think it's extremely rare for people to wear stained dirty clothes and with unintentional holes in when in a public setting.
I'm not talking about just nipping out next door after doing the gardening.

There were maybe two people at my school who would have known what a farrier was.

You live in a different circle to a lot of folk.

Tell me your kids are at private school without telling me…

You remind me of a mum whose son had recently joined my son’s rugby club and turned up to watch wearing a dress and heels and proceeded to look down her nose at us wearing scruffy jeans, walking boots or wellies and shock horror no make up.We got the last laugh when we had to walk to the other pitch across muddy fields and then it started pissing it down.
I bet if you were lying dying you wouldn’t give a fig how someone was dressed. It has absolutely no bearing on their ability to do their job.
Times have moved on. Dress for comfort I say.

Saturday sports day is private school sports day. Which may or may not be of any consequence in relation to the subject of this post. People should wear what feels comfy because then all they need to think about is their job.

I sort of agree to an extent, although I think you can still look put together with pink or whatever colour hair. We definitely lean more casual as a society post covid but you can be casual without looking slovenly.

I was at the hairdressers last week and a woman came in wearing pyjamas, hair like a bird's nest and with the crusty remnants of make up that hadn’t been removed properly. No one would’ve dared left the house like that when I grew up (I’m early 30s). I think there’s a balance to be struck between bedraggled and 80s power suits.

And thank the lord for that.

'a nice dress'

Who goes to sports day in a dress?!

Most people are pretending they don’t know what you mean op but I take your point. I was at a kids event today and there was one woman wearing a nice dress with her hair done. Almost everyone else was wearing some kind of vaguely sporty or athleisure type outfit and they looked very scruffy. They didn’t seem to have made any effort and it makes you think they don’t care, which could give a poor impression. I was also on a bus yesterday and there were three women with brightly coloured pink and purple hair. They were all middle aged but they were literally drinking out of vodka bottles on the bus! So I did judge them a bit! They weren’t actively causing trouble but it was a bit much in the middle of the day. So perhaps the coloured hair thing is a ‘thing’. I do think that it’s hard to dress nicely when very overweight - unless you have money - and that’s part of the problem. Sounds judgey but it’s true.

I used to really dress up - for work, for going out etc when I was younger (I’m 44 now). When I used to work in marketing management in my 20s I’d wear high heels every single day, skirt suits. Going out I would spend a good 2 hours getting dressed up- full make up, ages doing hair etc. I literally have lost all interest in it now. All of it. And it’s not that I’m depressed or lazy or any of this those things. It just no longer interests me.

I am actually on holiday right now in a very nice 5 star resort in Spain and every night women are really dressed up for dinner, just like I used to be. I’m turning up in whatever I feel comfortable in. If I’ve been out all day at the beach, wandering round the shops I don’t want to have to get showered again and put all my make up on again to then go out and then come back to the room again and have to take it all off again and have another shower because I’m hot. (Whereas I would have done that when I was younger). Now I’m just like t shirt and shorts and comfy sandals and I don’t give a monkeys what people think.

Yeah coloured hair is a gateway to alcoholism…

People are very scruffy. I’m torn. On the one hand I want people to be comfy but on the other I miss the old days and how people dressed up to go for a meal etc. My grandfather had a manual, dirty job. Out of work he always wore a collared shirt and tie.

The word dress code should be banned from the universe.
Why should there be a code?
Who has the right to dish out a code?

Also I like Colourful clothing.

Who wears a shirt to sports day?! I'd argue that is inappropriate attire OP, surely one is gearing up for the parents' races in the correct sportswear

The best most attentive midwife I’ve ever had in four pregnancies, was covered in tattoos and a had massive hole in one ear. She had bright blue extensions and she was exceptional. Went above and beyond the call of duty. I can think of many more examples. Il also guarantee the clothes you call scruffy probably cost most than a little button down shirt and pencil skirt!

I generally couldn’t care less about typos or what people are wearing. Except no one wants to see those butt scrunch shorts & leggings . And bare butt in a thong at the poolside or sunbathing in the park kinda gross me out

You'd be surprised.

To be fair I did last week, it was 30 degrees and it was long, cotton and cool, I also wore sandals (flat ones OP would be horrified) , I can confirm DH did not wear chinos

I really understand what OP is saying. I've noticed it more and more where people just look like they're not taking care of themselves. Even just cleaning their shoes seems to be not the done thing.
I've decided to make a bit more of an effort and invested in good quality clothing (thank you vinted). I've been treated far better and colleagues much more respectful than before.