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To be very anxious about the assisted dying bill?

362 replies

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 10:45

I’m surprised by how anxious I am about it. I don’t agree with it at all and I’m not sure there will ever be enough safeguards to justify making it legal. As it currently stands, it’s theoretically possible for someone with anorexia to qualify.

It took less than ten years for Canada to expand eligibility well beyond the original criteria. Assisted dying now accounts for one in twenty deaths there. I’m scared that could happen here.

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WhereIsMyJumper · 22/06/2025 13:43

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 13:40

I'm not talking about people being offered it. I don't think it should be suggested to people. I'm talking about people choosing it.

Yes, this.
Again comparing it to abortion - we don’t offer one to every single woman who goes for her first scan or midwife appointment! But women who need access to it know that it’s there if it’s needed.

Cherrytree86 · 22/06/2025 13:43

You don’t have to utilise the bill if you don’t want, OP. But you don’t get to dictate what other people do with their bodies and their lives, it’s simply none of your business. HTH. @bipbopdo

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 13:43

Absentmindedsmile · 22/06/2025 13:41

I think you can if mental capacity is demonstrated. Obviously it’d have to be very early in the diagnosis. Making it horribly hard but still., preferable to the unavoidable alternative.

https://www.mydeath-mydecision.org.uk/2017/01/22/dementia-sufferers-ending-lives-switzerland/

I hope you're right. However we should be able to do it in this country, without the expense of travelling to Switzerland. In my opinion it should be available and affordable.

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 13:46

TheFinePrintess · 22/06/2025 13:35

I feel this way too, unfortunately it’s not cheap - last time I checked it was somewhere around £15k I think.
It will be cheaper to jump off a cliff but unfortunately that means dragging others into it and causing distress🥺

My FIL said the same thing for years. Strangely he’s lost the appetite to do it now the time has come. I think we’re an inherently optimistic species and most people think they’ll have more good days.

I genuinely think the answer is to improve palliative care before we even consider assisted dying.

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bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 13:47

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 13:42

There was an amendment that would mean that AD couldn't be offered, only requested. The amendment was rejected.
This bill absolutely allows medical professionals to suggest AD.

Hopefully they’ll put that back in in the Lords.

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ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 13:49

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 13:47

Hopefully they’ll put that back in in the Lords.

I'd be happy to see an amendment where it had to be requested.

LizzieSiddal · 22/06/2025 13:49

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 13:25

There are plenty of people who have witnessed a loved one go through a long and painful death that oppose this bill. I think it’s possible to put personal tragedy to one side and think about the potential implications of assisted dying becoming state sanctioned. Especially when considering all the rhetoric around ‘economically inactive’ people recently (which includes retirees btw).

Edited

Wow you really are jumping the shark.

Letsbe · 22/06/2025 13:50

With two children who are resident doctors there are many things about the health service which make me anxious. What may happen in the future if we go down this slippery slope is not one of them.

Absentmindedsmile · 22/06/2025 13:52

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 13:43

I hope you're right. However we should be able to do it in this country, without the expense of travelling to Switzerland. In my opinion it should be available and affordable.

Absolutely 💯 agree. I made that point on another thread. An example of health inequality.

LizzieSiddal · 22/06/2025 13:58

Letsbe · 22/06/2025 13:50

With two children who are resident doctors there are many things about the health service which make me anxious. What may happen in the future if we go down this slippery slope is not one of them.

Agree. Wasn’t it 500 excess deaths a week the last time it was reported by the media? Why isn’t everyone anxious about this? Why aren’t people demanding we have a system which stops these unnecessary deaths?

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 14:05

Cherrytree86 · 22/06/2025 13:43

You don’t have to utilise the bill if you don’t want, OP. But you don’t get to dictate what other people do with their bodies and their lives, it’s simply none of your business. HTH. @bipbopdo

Can you not see how this becoming law has an impact on everyone? Regardless of their feelings about it?

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 14:09

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 14:05

Can you not see how this becoming law has an impact on everyone? Regardless of their feelings about it?

If I want to have the freedom to end my own life at a time of my choosing my own decision is paramount as far as I'm concerned.

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 14:12

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 14:09

If I want to have the freedom to end my own life at a time of my choosing my own decision is paramount as far as I'm concerned.

Even if that makes life more dangerous for the most vulnerable in society?
Even when you can already end your own life at any point you choose?

temperedolive · 22/06/2025 14:14

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 14:05

Can you not see how this becoming law has an impact on everyone? Regardless of their feelings about it?

Legal abortion has an impact on people as well whether or not it's the choice they make. But someone not wanting to live in a world where someone else can legally make a different choice from theirs doesn't feel like a valid reason to withhold that choice.

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 14:14

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 14:12

Even if that makes life more dangerous for the most vulnerable in society?
Even when you can already end your own life at any point you choose?

I wouldn't have the wherewithal to end it safely and painlessly under medical supervision. I want that choice to be available to me if I request it.

CorneliaCupp · 22/06/2025 14:17

ilovesooty · 22/06/2025 14:14

I wouldn't have the wherewithal to end it safely and painlessly under medical supervision. I want that choice to be available to me if I request it.

Regardless of the impact that this law would have on others?
And in the knowledge that there is no guarantee that AD is painless?

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 15:10

temperedolive · 22/06/2025 14:14

Legal abortion has an impact on people as well whether or not it's the choice they make. But someone not wanting to live in a world where someone else can legally make a different choice from theirs doesn't feel like a valid reason to withhold that choice.

Legal abortion is an interesting parallel because there are lots of examples of forced sterilisation before safeguards were developed to protect people from it.

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zaicandy · 22/06/2025 15:12

It’s not just a case of anyone suicidal or terminally ill marching (or being wheeled) in and dying straight off. You have to be assessed for months.

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 15:19

zaicandy · 22/06/2025 15:12

It’s not just a case of anyone suicidal or terminally ill marching (or being wheeled) in and dying straight off. You have to be assessed for months.

That was true in Canada too until they relaxed it

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BIossomtoes · 22/06/2025 15:22

Absentmindedsmile · 22/06/2025 13:30

If I’m ever diagnosed with dementia, I’ll be off on a plane to Zurich in no time. I wouldn’t want my family to have to look after ‘me’ 24hrs a day at the expense of their own lives. I feel sad for people that can’t afford that choice. Although theoretically maybe they could put it all on credit card, they wouldn’t have to pay it back after all.

No point in getting on that plane. You have to have capacity and six months or less for Dignitas, they wouldn’t accept you.

WearyAuldWumman · 22/06/2025 15:23

bipbopdo · 22/06/2025 15:19

That was true in Canada too until they relaxed it

This is what worries me. In the case of the Paralympian who was told that she could have assisted suicide, various officials have said that the Canadian guidelines were broken - but no one would have known but for the fact that the Paralympian held firm and protested about what had happened to her.

Absentmindedsmile · 22/06/2025 15:24

BIossomtoes · 22/06/2025 15:22

No point in getting on that plane. You have to have capacity and six months or less for Dignitas, they wouldn’t accept you.

Pegasos

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 22/06/2025 15:26

Comedycook · 22/06/2025 12:18

I fully support assisted dying and if it’s not for you then just be prepared for yourself or a loved one to have a long, painful drawn out death

This is exactly the attitude that makes me fear it. Look how you're trying to shame and belittle those with concerns. If you want the option of assisted dying then ok, that's your choice, but you're trying to frame those who don't want it as being wrong in some way...rather than it being their choice. We are already creeping to be a society whereby assisted dying is the only socially acceptable choice.

Shame on you

I’m not shaming anyone. It’s a fact that the only option now is to prepare for the possibility of a long and drawn out death for yourself or a loved one. Assisted dying gives another option. You don’t have to take it. It’s a choice. Where is the shame in that? I don’t want a long and drawn out death but if a loved one did, I would respect their choice and be by their side if they wanted me to be.

Miley23 · 22/06/2025 15:26

I support it. I worked in a hospice for 15 years and whilst we did our absolute best to alleviate suffering I have still seen loads of people die horrible deaths.

BIossomtoes · 22/06/2025 15:32

Absentmindedsmile · 22/06/2025 15:24

Pegasos

Thank you so much. I didn’t know they existed.

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