To charity shop her parcel?

[Imaginedinos]

So a friend asked if she could have a parcel delivered to me as she needed it the next day and she had work, it’s medium size. This was back in March. Parcel came, I text her to let her know I have it and it’s been sat in my hallway ever since! She’s basically ghosted me since March, I know I haven’t done anything wrong because the 2 times she has replied she’s been normal and nice. But it’s pissing me off, it’s taking up room I don’t particularly have in my small house and she seems to have no intention of coming to collect it! Am I being a dick if I get rid of it?! Or any advice on what to do. I’m worried that if I do get rid of it she will text and say I’m coming to get my parcel but it’s been 3 months…

I would text and say your parcel is going in the bin if you don’t collect it by Sunday evening and then bin it.

Drop it around her house on the doorstep and move on

See this is what I want to do but I’m worried I’m being a dick! I’m a people pleaser and I have to see her occasionally so worried it will be awkward!

How far away do you live from one another?

Do you know which shop it came from? If so, ring them and say it’s with you, do they want it back.

My neighbour used to do this, refuse to answer the door, delivery guy would leave it with me and put a note through for them saying where it was, they’d report it missing, have a new one delivered, then fetch the one I had. Two for the price of one, or theft, pick whichever you like.

Op I was in your court thread

what happened?

Message her and say you can’t keep the parcel any longer so what would she like you to do with it? Suggest you either dispose of it if she no longer needs it or put it outside by X date for her to collect. Presenting her with an option is a softer way of saying ‘it’s leaving my house and I don’t care how’.

Honestly? I'd just chuck it away

They haven't been in touch and it's been three months. Bin.

Id just drop it round her house.

Do you know what's in it?

I'm too nosey and would have had it opened by now (and probably wearing / using / snorted it 🤣)

Either she’s been disrespectful and sees your home as a free storage place, or she managed to sort out an alternative back in March and has genuinely forgotten that what she ordered is still waiting to be collected.

I would say,

Hi friend,
I think you have forgotten that I still have the parcel in my hallway that you ordered back in March. Please could you come and collect it by x date.

She needs to apologise and deal with it in a manner that doesn’t inconvenience you further.

Just send a cheerful text asking how she is and end it with ‘btw, since you haven’t collected your parcel it seems like you don’t need it, so I will take it to a charity shop next weekend. If you do want it you have until then to collect it (or I can leave it outside on my front store for you to pick up?).’

As someone else has said up thread, how far away from her do you live? If it’s not far, just drop it off on her doorstep. I am assuming from what had been said that its too large to fit into a post box with ‘return to sender’ written on it.

Can’t you take it next time you’re due to see her?

If you live nearby drop it off to her and dont take anything for her again! If she lives far way then say hey this parcel is here since March, will I charity shop for you? I'm doing a clear out so I dont mind dropping it to charity shop for you

Hey x, I m decluttering and will be binning your parcel if its not collected by the weekend.

I'd drop it off outside her house personally! From March is bonkers!

Technically if you just bin it, she could claim theft...

However if you message her and give her options and a clear time frame, then she can't, as long as the options and time frame are reasonable.

So:

'Dear Twatface,

Parcel has been here since xxx - please collect by xxx or I will dispose of it myself'.

Then when x date comes round, do what you want with it.

Tail between my legs!

deliver a card saying you left it in the wheely bin

I live about a 15 min drive away, I know which street she lives in but not exactly number though I could probably find out

Sorry but I don't understand.

When you've reminded her that she still hasn't collected her parcel from 3 months ago, what has she said?

You have asked her, haven't you?

And no you can't just bin it. Check out s12 of the Torts (Interference with Goods) Act 1977

and I have to see her occasionally so worried it will be awkward!

If you see her occasionally then could you not just take it with you next time and give it to her?

I think I’d keep hold of it and when she’s asks for it I’d keep putting her off saying you’ll give it to her soon.

So your DS is now full time with his dad?

And this is a good enough friend that you took a parcel for her??!